Quote: (05-07-2019 01:23 PM)Laner Wrote:
Not 40+ but I fall into the category in all other aspects. I "settled" at 34.
I agree that it is risky. There is so much of your image wrapped up in being with new women and multiple women. Your libido and testosterone are extremely high. You have sex almost every night for nearly two decades. Often with 3 or 4 women in a week as you learn to confidently navigate openly dating multiple women...
I'm not entirely sure you're describing even the average redpilled "player" there. This sounds more like rockstar life. Possibly a rockstar on TRT or steroids if testosterone is extremely high and not merely somewhere in the wide normal range.
As for my own opinion on the matter at settling down after 40 - I'm 42 now, never married, no kids - I'm still very torn on how I feel about it.
My late teens and 20s consisted of a lot of one-night stands from clubs, with the occasional short (weeks, months, not years) relationships. 30 to mid 30s pretty much more of the same just from bars. 36 I moved abroad and tried dating instead (Tinder etc., a bit of daygame, sick and tired of nightgame by that point, even if I did it still on occasion for another year).
Ended up in a three years relationship with only the second woman in my life I've loved.
Back to dating and short relationships again since last year, and not finding that casual sex satisfies me as much as it used to, but also finding it as difficult as through most of my life to actually feel much for even the women I date and sleep with for more than just a few weeks.
And that's despite being very far from negative MGOTW attitudes towards women - I frequently greatly enjoy their company and the conversation, but just not feeling the stronger emotions that from my perspective are required for me to consider them long term material and potential mother of my children.