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(04-10-2019 12:11 AM)CleanSlate Wrote:  

(04-10-2019 12:06 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

I guess I sound salty.

A side effect of going through the same debate over and over again I suppose.

I'll give you just one piece of advice then in the hopes you'll remember it when the time comes.

If an honest-to-God incredible woman lands in your lap don't next her for five more years of soul-less sluts just because "that's the plan".

The guys I know who did that list it as among their greatest regrets. Unfortunately it seems to be the case for most men trying to get off the cunt carousel that once the stink of sluts is on your soul then that's all you'll ever attract. Past notch 50 you become invisible to decent women and they become invisible to you.

Co-signed.

After telling TravelerKai over a coffee that I’m gonna wait 5 years before deciding to marry again and travel in the meantime, he responded that I shouldn’t put a strict timeline on it.

He asked me, “so you find an unicorn before the 5 years are up, whatcha gonna do?”

I’ve already found my answer.

Worth rereading this one.

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(04-09-2019 12:52 AM)bgbusiness Wrote:  

Quite frankly, I am just asking for some advice, not sure why people are pretty angry about late marriage and issues with dealing kids. It's almost funny.

First, I disagree that I have to marry early. I would rather be financially secure so that I can send my kids to school even if I get married at 40. At least that's what I wanted from my parents instead of struggling to help me paying for school.

In fact, when kids go to college, that's pretty much it, you don't need to spend time with them. Moreover, when kids are entering elementary school, they are going to be in school majority of the time, you are not baby sitting them. When I was growing up, I only wanted to spend couple hours with my family, not play entire basketball game up to 100 points on a full court. I would rather play video/computer games, read books, go out with friends and watch a movie or something.

Second, as long as I take care of my health, my sperm is going to be healthy enough to have kids at 40 .That's when the biological clock start to tick for man. For woman it's 30. Look at Donald Trump, he doing just fine.

All the advice on here is interesting to read but at the end of the day you've got to follow your own lead. There is no magic age to have kids but I will say from my own sociological observations that most guys in the US (in real metro areas) are having their first kid in their 30's (guys not chicks). That being said, at 25 you've got lot's of time to figure it out and it's easy to stonewall to everyone else. I've known guys who swore off kids in their 20's end up having 3-4 kids and loving being a dad. I've also seen guys who wanted kids try to escape their family any chance they get. That's why you've got to just make your own decisions as life occurs. First thing to figure out is do you want to be in a LTR. After that decision, you can work on the whole reproduction one.