Here's my case and I hope you could point out to me what I did wrong? If I did anything wrong. I don’t really care that much about the girl. I just want to learn from the process . I only care because I have a history of fucking up the leads ![[Image: sad.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/sad.gif)
. I care only about my part. If I did right it, I'd be happy.
I asked a girl out (I have been talking to on and off for 2.5 months) from my work for a date for the third time. I only did it three times because I can tell she was really interested (even our mutual female friend confirmed it). Also, I know she has a boyfriend so I was giving her enough time and not to rush things as she might be considering branch swing. She never told me about her boyfriend. I knew about him from a coworker.
I almost gave up on her after the second time I asked her out, but during one of our conversations she accidentally admitted she knew what time I come to work and what time I leave. Even she knew if I came to work or not . We don’t work together we just work in the same floor.
When I confronted her by saying “What the hack, you check my online status !!”
She blushed, looked down and said “ yes, But I do not do every day” . She is so dump, right? . I took this as green light as I am, at least, on the top of her head.
It was in-person. It was on Monday. Here’s how the interaction went:
-Me : Are we going to go out or not ?
-Her : yes
-Me : When ?
-Her : I am busy
-Me : Let’s go shooting on Thursday (with persistent and assertive tone)
-Her : Let’s do it next week
-Me : Alright Tuesday next week
-Her : Okay
At this moment, I was holding her hands . I squeezed and she squeezed back . But I could tell from her body language she was not excited about it and was nervous .
We walked inside the company until we are about to separate.
-Me : Hey Jennifer , Tuesday next week. This would be my last time to ask you out. I already did it three times ( weak and needy move from my side )
-Her : Tuesday or Wednesday ( her facial features changed to sad face when she heard that this was my last time to ask her out )
I fed up with this non committal answer.
After two hours, I texted her the following :
-Me : You know what you got no choice lol. We are going out on Tuesday at 7 pm
-Her: What!! I need to check but I will try to make it though.
Honestly, I had the gut feeling she was not going to make it so I never confirmed with her. Also, this was my third time to ask her out and I thought she was using my attention. Plus, she is a coworker and I didn't want over do it inside work.
On Monday the day before the date, I saw her from far in the company kitchen. I said “Hi” and I waved with my hand but I didn’t go out of way and talk to her. I wasn’t playing hard to get. I was convinced she wasn’t interested.
On Tuesday (the day of the supposed date) at 2 pm
She went to the Kitchen looking for me. I knew she was looking for me, because she only goes to the kitchen for lunch. I have never seen her in kitchen outside the lunch hour except this time. She saw me and I wasn’t seeing her . She said “Hi” to grab my attention with her eyes wandering about the date.. I replied “Hi”. At this moment, another coworker called me and I got side track with him .
My thinking at the moment was if she wanted to confirm the date, she should have texted me or sent me IM on skype for business . I was also thinking she wanted me to go and talk to her again to feed her ego.
After this incident, I saw her in kitchen multiple times. She always looked at me but I never had chance to have conversation with her as I was either with someone or she was with someone and I didn’t want to go out of my way to talk to her. I just said hi and smiled. One time, she tried to give me puppy face eye contact , I just ignored it. Another time, I went to her desk to ask her work-related question . The interaction went as follow
-Me : Hey Jennifer
-Her : Yes ( Her face lit up once she heard me calling her name )
-Me: Do you know about blah blah ?
- Her : No (with sad face as she realized it was only work-related question)
Again, I wasn’t playing hard to get or being butt-hurt. I just didn’t want to feed her ego again as I thought she played games. Plus, there is so much I can take. She already rejected my advances 3 times.
Until one day, we ended up in the kitchen alone together . I started conversation with her. She never looked at me. She kept looking down and answered very short answers. I cut the interaction short to save a face.
Guess what! The day after; in the morning , she put herself in my proximity but given the day’s before interaction I didn’t think much of it. During the lunch, she went to the company cafeteria at the same time as me. She stood across from me and she never ordered any food .She stood there until I left. Why I didn’t talk to her ? I just said “Hi’ but also part of me was afraid to talk to her as she just blew off a day ago. My mind was telling “ be cautious . she might complain about you to HR”
I found her behavior strange on that day as she put herself on my vicinity two times.
Exactly, ten days after that day, she had her engagement photo taken.
My questions :
1-Did I go too extreme after she hasn’t confirmed the date ?
2-Did she want me to ask her out again by putting herself in my proximity
3-Her strange behavior 10 days before the engagement was due to her being anxious and not sure about her boyfriend and went to talk to me one last time.
4-Or she was just attention whore.
5- or she liked me and she was confused and wanted to get married.
She is 24 yo latina
. I care only about my part. If I did right it, I'd be happy.I asked a girl out (I have been talking to on and off for 2.5 months) from my work for a date for the third time. I only did it three times because I can tell she was really interested (even our mutual female friend confirmed it). Also, I know she has a boyfriend so I was giving her enough time and not to rush things as she might be considering branch swing. She never told me about her boyfriend. I knew about him from a coworker.
I almost gave up on her after the second time I asked her out, but during one of our conversations she accidentally admitted she knew what time I come to work and what time I leave. Even she knew if I came to work or not . We don’t work together we just work in the same floor.
When I confronted her by saying “What the hack, you check my online status !!”
She blushed, looked down and said “ yes, But I do not do every day” . She is so dump, right? . I took this as green light as I am, at least, on the top of her head.
It was in-person. It was on Monday. Here’s how the interaction went:
-Me : Are we going to go out or not ?
-Her : yes
-Me : When ?
-Her : I am busy
-Me : Let’s go shooting on Thursday (with persistent and assertive tone)
-Her : Let’s do it next week
-Me : Alright Tuesday next week
-Her : Okay
At this moment, I was holding her hands . I squeezed and she squeezed back . But I could tell from her body language she was not excited about it and was nervous .
We walked inside the company until we are about to separate.
-Me : Hey Jennifer , Tuesday next week. This would be my last time to ask you out. I already did it three times ( weak and needy move from my side )
-Her : Tuesday or Wednesday ( her facial features changed to sad face when she heard that this was my last time to ask her out )
I fed up with this non committal answer.
After two hours, I texted her the following :
-Me : You know what you got no choice lol. We are going out on Tuesday at 7 pm
-Her: What!! I need to check but I will try to make it though.
Honestly, I had the gut feeling she was not going to make it so I never confirmed with her. Also, this was my third time to ask her out and I thought she was using my attention. Plus, she is a coworker and I didn't want over do it inside work.
On Monday the day before the date, I saw her from far in the company kitchen. I said “Hi” and I waved with my hand but I didn’t go out of way and talk to her. I wasn’t playing hard to get. I was convinced she wasn’t interested.
On Tuesday (the day of the supposed date) at 2 pm
She went to the Kitchen looking for me. I knew she was looking for me, because she only goes to the kitchen for lunch. I have never seen her in kitchen outside the lunch hour except this time. She saw me and I wasn’t seeing her . She said “Hi” to grab my attention with her eyes wandering about the date.. I replied “Hi”. At this moment, another coworker called me and I got side track with him .
My thinking at the moment was if she wanted to confirm the date, she should have texted me or sent me IM on skype for business . I was also thinking she wanted me to go and talk to her again to feed her ego.
After this incident, I saw her in kitchen multiple times. She always looked at me but I never had chance to have conversation with her as I was either with someone or she was with someone and I didn’t want to go out of my way to talk to her. I just said hi and smiled. One time, she tried to give me puppy face eye contact , I just ignored it. Another time, I went to her desk to ask her work-related question . The interaction went as follow
-Me : Hey Jennifer
-Her : Yes ( Her face lit up once she heard me calling her name )
-Me: Do you know about blah blah ?
- Her : No (with sad face as she realized it was only work-related question)
Again, I wasn’t playing hard to get or being butt-hurt. I just didn’t want to feed her ego again as I thought she played games. Plus, there is so much I can take. She already rejected my advances 3 times.
Until one day, we ended up in the kitchen alone together . I started conversation with her. She never looked at me. She kept looking down and answered very short answers. I cut the interaction short to save a face.
Guess what! The day after; in the morning , she put herself in my proximity but given the day’s before interaction I didn’t think much of it. During the lunch, she went to the company cafeteria at the same time as me. She stood across from me and she never ordered any food .She stood there until I left. Why I didn’t talk to her ? I just said “Hi’ but also part of me was afraid to talk to her as she just blew off a day ago. My mind was telling “ be cautious . she might complain about you to HR”
I found her behavior strange on that day as she put herself on my vicinity two times.
Exactly, ten days after that day, she had her engagement photo taken.
My questions :
1-Did I go too extreme after she hasn’t confirmed the date ?
2-Did she want me to ask her out again by putting herself in my proximity
3-Her strange behavior 10 days before the engagement was due to her being anxious and not sure about her boyfriend and went to talk to me one last time.
4-Or she was just attention whore.
5- or she liked me and she was confused and wanted to get married.
She is 24 yo latina
