About a year ago, I made a thread that seemed like borderline trolling but that actually was honestly true (I'm actually reading it again, sad that I didn't make any progress whatsoever)
This will be another thread like that. Be as brutally honest as you can. I can take it.
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Sooooo, there's another girl I really liked, she's from Costa Rica. We met in Puebla, Mexico on New Year. There was an instant connection, but like the pussy I am I didn't take action. Even didn't started to kiss her until a mutual guy friend called me out on it. ''Dude, have you kissed her already'', ''noo man, I am waiting for the right moment, do you think she likes me too'', ''yeah bro, it's super obvious''.
Anyway long story short, I kissed her in Mexico City. I was IN HER ROOM the last night before she was going back to Costa Rica. Last night I could've had sex, but being inexperienced and overthinking I didn't do anything. This would be the perfect time since she flew back the next day and this was her first time in a foreign country.
In the last thread, one year ago I told I didn't had sex for 3 years. That was a lie, it's actually 3 years and 2 months RIGHT NOW. Nothing to be proud of , but nothing to cry about either haha. At this point, the mental sabotage is sky high! Couldn't have sex even if I wanted too. Note that I am still in Mexico, as a tall blue-eyed guy, average looks I do get a lot of opportunities (not like in Colombia, but still), but usually I don't care. I don't want to fuck just any girl, and I still don't (after this long ''losing'' streak) but with this girl, I REALLY DID CARE. But yeah I ruined it..
At one point, after we made out and kissed a bit in her room, she asked me ''what are you thinking about'', I said ''nothing'', she insisted and got a bit angry.
I was thinking about having sex, and that it has been 3 year... She wouldn't talk to me until I said it. I told her the truth (no regrets here, it's the truth and it's part of who I am, not going to fuck my values just to fuck a girl haha). She's pretty inexperienced/shy herself, but I could tell she was VERY surprised when I told her how much experience I had with girls. At that point, she didn't seem to mind that much, but safe to say the mood was ruined.
We didn't had sex that night, but the next day she told me I should go to Costa Rica, and we can travel together in April, and that she was sad I didn't stayed with her that night... Anyway, so far 2 months have passed, we did a lot of whatsapp and video talks the first 2-3 weeks, but contact has a bit faded away. Can't really blame her, might be even coming off as a stalker at this point. The opportunity is lost. If I wanted her to wait for me 3 months, I should probably have had sex...
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Still pretty devasted about this, there's not really a lot of girls I instantly like like this, and then I just blew it. One year ago, now, different girl, same story.
This is the only thing in life I truly miss and regret. Sooo much missed opportunity. I don't mind missing an opportunity with a slut or pig, but once in a while I meet a girl I like and I fuck it up.
I got all the other stuff in life figured out. Got 3 remote jobs (a lot of work, starting to move over to passive income), so I'll probably still go to Costa Rica (probably not for that girl, but probably more for the ''pura vida'' lifestyle. I like girls that are just HAPPY with their life, and have a sense of humor. Might find it there).
That girl in particular wasn't really special, but she's always happy! It makes me happy as well, just to be around her. Maybe I can find other ticas like her.
I stopped drinking alcohol, got back into running, have my financials in order and can work from anywhere. I am pretty social/fun guy, a bit dorky. Girls call me cute very often.
Anyway any advice moving forward would be truly appreciated. Like I said everything I got figured out except being good with girls. I could be the most beta-guy on this forum by now (please don't ban me Roosh haha).
A response like ''not sure you can be helped at this point'' is very understandable, but not really helpful. I am turning 29 in May. Got work/money figured out, time to start this journey! I feel like I missed out with girls, A LOT. Late 20's, early 30 could be good for me if done right.
Thanks!
This will be another thread like that. Be as brutally honest as you can. I can take it.
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Sooooo, there's another girl I really liked, she's from Costa Rica. We met in Puebla, Mexico on New Year. There was an instant connection, but like the pussy I am I didn't take action. Even didn't started to kiss her until a mutual guy friend called me out on it. ''Dude, have you kissed her already'', ''noo man, I am waiting for the right moment, do you think she likes me too'', ''yeah bro, it's super obvious''.
Anyway long story short, I kissed her in Mexico City. I was IN HER ROOM the last night before she was going back to Costa Rica. Last night I could've had sex, but being inexperienced and overthinking I didn't do anything. This would be the perfect time since she flew back the next day and this was her first time in a foreign country.
In the last thread, one year ago I told I didn't had sex for 3 years. That was a lie, it's actually 3 years and 2 months RIGHT NOW. Nothing to be proud of , but nothing to cry about either haha. At this point, the mental sabotage is sky high! Couldn't have sex even if I wanted too. Note that I am still in Mexico, as a tall blue-eyed guy, average looks I do get a lot of opportunities (not like in Colombia, but still), but usually I don't care. I don't want to fuck just any girl, and I still don't (after this long ''losing'' streak) but with this girl, I REALLY DID CARE. But yeah I ruined it..
At one point, after we made out and kissed a bit in her room, she asked me ''what are you thinking about'', I said ''nothing'', she insisted and got a bit angry.
I was thinking about having sex, and that it has been 3 year... She wouldn't talk to me until I said it. I told her the truth (no regrets here, it's the truth and it's part of who I am, not going to fuck my values just to fuck a girl haha). She's pretty inexperienced/shy herself, but I could tell she was VERY surprised when I told her how much experience I had with girls. At that point, she didn't seem to mind that much, but safe to say the mood was ruined.
We didn't had sex that night, but the next day she told me I should go to Costa Rica, and we can travel together in April, and that she was sad I didn't stayed with her that night... Anyway, so far 2 months have passed, we did a lot of whatsapp and video talks the first 2-3 weeks, but contact has a bit faded away. Can't really blame her, might be even coming off as a stalker at this point. The opportunity is lost. If I wanted her to wait for me 3 months, I should probably have had sex...
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Still pretty devasted about this, there's not really a lot of girls I instantly like like this, and then I just blew it. One year ago, now, different girl, same story.
This is the only thing in life I truly miss and regret. Sooo much missed opportunity. I don't mind missing an opportunity with a slut or pig, but once in a while I meet a girl I like and I fuck it up.
I got all the other stuff in life figured out. Got 3 remote jobs (a lot of work, starting to move over to passive income), so I'll probably still go to Costa Rica (probably not for that girl, but probably more for the ''pura vida'' lifestyle. I like girls that are just HAPPY with their life, and have a sense of humor. Might find it there).
That girl in particular wasn't really special, but she's always happy! It makes me happy as well, just to be around her. Maybe I can find other ticas like her.
I stopped drinking alcohol, got back into running, have my financials in order and can work from anywhere. I am pretty social/fun guy, a bit dorky. Girls call me cute very often.
Anyway any advice moving forward would be truly appreciated. Like I said everything I got figured out except being good with girls. I could be the most beta-guy on this forum by now (please don't ban me Roosh haha).
A response like ''not sure you can be helped at this point'' is very understandable, but not really helpful. I am turning 29 in May. Got work/money figured out, time to start this journey! I feel like I missed out with girls, A LOT. Late 20's, early 30 could be good for me if done right.
Thanks!