[Bikal]

(02-06-2019 06:38 AM)aswifty Wrote:  

So, I would like to hear from the men of the RooshVforum who have lived it.

1: How often do you get cold approached?

2: Where do you get cold approached, if you do?

3: Do you notice any friends (or yourself) who are conventionally considered to be hot, get cold approached by women a disproportional amount?

4: How often would you say you notice women cold approach men? And the ones that do, how hot are they? (i hear a lot of guys claim 7+s don't approach men, yet i've also heard some guys say they do, but only really hot guys.)

5: Is not focusing on women when out, and waiting for them to come to you, an efficient strategy to get laid? It's definitely a high status move.

1. Couple of times a night, sometimes they're looking for something like a smoke or a drink, sometimes it's something that could lead to more. I've been approached on street, it's rarer but it happens.
2. Bars and clubs, rarely the street.
3. No more, no less.
4. I don't pay attention to it.
5. Yes and no, it can be a great way by not thinking about them and focusing about the fuck as you'll be freer but unfortunately you're most likely going to end up having to approach at some point.

[quaker13]

Here's what happens when good looking guys don't approach.

They settle


Women like this don't approach men, no matter how handsome they are unless they are rich and/or famous

She is not COLD approaching any male model look a likes. Just forgot about it. Maybe if she was on molly and drunk out of her mind.

[RatInTheWoods]

My mate and sometimes wing man is pretty good looking, tall and chad like. Maybe a bloke 9

At pubs, clubs and night spots he gets approached 4-5 time EVERY night. (In Australia)

True its not the hot ones approaching him 8+, but the 5-7s do come.

He also gets loads of IOIs which he ignores.

His game mostly consists of perching at the bar, and they come up to him and offer themselves to him.

Its depressing to watch.

[subterfuge]

(02-06-2019 04:01 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

My mate and sometimes wing man is pretty good looking, tall and chad like. Maybe a bloke 9

At pubs, clubs and night spots he gets approached 4-5 time EVERY night. (In Australia)

True its not the hot ones approaching him 8+, but the 5-7s do come.

He also gets loads of IOIs which he ignores.

His game mostly consists of perching at the bar, and they come up to him and offer themselves to him.

Its depressing to watch.

Again, pretty much identical to my friend. There seems to be some consensus here lol. Basically, 5 times per night or so in bars/clubs etc. (I don't think i've ever seen my friend get outright approached in the daytime tbh, although girls working coffee shops etc give strong IOI's)
Similarly, my friend doesn't approach. Just chills at the bar or dances, and girls open him. And again, not gonna lie, even though the girls are often hot, it's not usually the absolute stunners who approach him (although the stunners do give him massive IOI's tbh)

ps-@ Quaker. That blonde girl is gorgeous!! Gotta be Ukrainian or something! Damn. I wonder who's banging her!!?

[asdfk]

There is a lot of bullshit in this thread.

OP, with enough SMV and the right body language you can make women approach you.

With high SMV and shitty body language you will barely see approaches. This is why many handsome men fail in game.

With low SMV and the right body language you wont get anywhere either. You need both..

However, body language is the crucial part. Your SMV does not have to be sky high but only sufficient.

The first time I met a dude who understood this, I was blown away. He would just stand outside a nightclub and smoke until a girl would open him. They would chat for a while and then he would take them home while I kept spam approaching. Absolutely maddening.

This guy was ugly by any conventional standards. But not ugly enough to be ignored by a horny chick outside a nightclub at 1AM.

[The Golden God]

If you are a guy that is actually in the top 0.1% of looks, you will definitely be approached by women. Fitness models, actors and genetically gifted guys that take care of themselves well know that it’s definitely a thing.

I was a competitive swimmer year round all throughout high school and I’ve been into bodybuilding since I was 17, currently I’m 21, 6’1” 179 with 17.5” arms and around 7% body fat. I’ve also been paid to do modeling before and I have a few visible tattoos that help me out a lot with girls that like tattoos.

I probably get direct compliments during the day from girls at least every few days, to the point that I’ve been pretty desensitized to it. A lot of the time in my approaches when I go direct and compliment them I’ll get a surprised response and an immediate compliment or statement of interest from them.

I probably see it a bit more due to the fact that I’m in college and surrounded by horny 18-22 year old girls, but I’ve been cold approached a good amount of times at the gym, in my classes, studying on campus and out at parties.

The girls that flat out approach during the day are probably a range of 3-7, with the occasional super confident hot girl that will approach. Night game, I frequent house parties for the most part and have girls introduce themselves to me and even on a few occasions walk up and ask to feel my arms or something. Out at bars and clubs it’s less frequent and the girls are usually a little worse looking but still I get approached at least once almost every time I go out.

Like what was said above, a large amount of these approaches from girls ended in nothing because I went after another girl that night or wasn’t interested enough.

[AneroidOcean]

Let me tell you a story from my past.

There was a guy I knew. He wasn't particularly tall, but tall enough, dark hair, light eyes, handsome. He didn't hit the gym crazy hard but he would surf a lot and work out regularly enough that with his great genes he would have a real solid v-taper and had an above average sense of style. He wore glasses that fit his face well and did not come across as nerdy but more affluent/wealthy/successful family background.

He wasn't really a friend, but due to circumstance I saw him a lot. We had mutual friends so sometimes I'd be around him clothed on the street, sometimes at the beach shirtless, sometimes at the bar/club on a weekend.

The IOIs and looks were near constant.

Girls I would have to work up the courage to go get shot down by would open him everywhere, not all the time, but regularly. I'm talking walk to the cross-walk, a convertible full of cute to hot girls pulls up and I don't even exist. These girls are openly catcalling him and trying to get him to talk to them.

The only problem he had? Many/most of the vaginas would dry up instantly once he opened his mouth. This was one of the things that drove the point of game home for me. This guy had anti-game. He would open his mouth and say the stupidest shit imaginable. Shit so stupid that you could practically see the girls faces go from adoration/lust/very excited to disgust/extreme disappointment. This is when I truly knew game was so incredibly powerful, because without it even a veritable adonis could turn girl off.

We call him No-Game Chad (Chad not his real name).

People would ask why we called him that. We'd say, "you'll see" and they would look puzzled at you, but soon enough, soon enough they'd see. You could be jealous of him and the attention he got from girls...but only until you witnessed how poor his game was and even the less successful of us would look at him with a little pity.

He still got laid, mind you, some girls would be too drunk or too horny and would use him and toss him to the side...and he didn't mind all that much as he wasn't particularly bright, but it was a complete waste. It was completely lost on him that if he would just learn some game his success would skyrocket, but alas, he still probably remains, No-Game Chad. Most of the women were a couple SMV points below him, sometimes much lower, but some of them were also verifiable smoke-shows.

It's real, it exists, but does it matter? Not really. Work on your health, your wealth, and most importantly, your state of mind, as getting approached by women is still no substitute for having game and your shit together.

Be the guy that women give IOIs to and approach despite not having any particular looks or wealth or anything stand out. Then you'll be that guy that women say to their friends...

"There's just something about him"

Like another poster said, that guy that they'll not only come to and for, but that guy they'll keep coming back to because he has something more, he may even have it all in their minds. Even if they leave, they'll come back to you in their minds...the one that got away.

[kaotic]

Yes, I get approached alot, sometimes I'll have a group of 10 girls at the club catcall me or dance near me, I simply tell them to go home.

I'll drop a data sheet later today once I move my zebra to my friends equestrian boarding ranch.

[Savonarola]

(02-06-2019 06:49 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Let me tell you a story from my past.

There was a guy I knew. He wasn't particularly tall, but tall enough, dark hair, light eyes, handsome. He didn't hit the gym crazy hard but he would surf a lot and work out regularly enough that with his great genes he would have a real solid v-taper and had an above average sense of style. He wore glasses that fit his face well and did not come across as nerdy but more affluent/wealthy/successful family background.

He wasn't really a friend, but due to circumstance I saw him a lot. We had mutual friends so sometimes I'd be around him clothed on the street, sometimes at the beach shirtless, sometimes at the bar/club on a weekend.

The IOIs and looks were near constant.

Girls I would have to work up the courage to go get shot down by would open him everywhere, not all the time, but regularly. I'm talking walk to the cross-walk, a convertible full of cute to hot girls pulls up and I don't even exist. These girls are openly catcalling him and trying to get him to talk to them.

The only problem he had? Many/most of the vaginas would dry up instantly once he opened his mouth. This was one of the things that drove the point of game home for me. This guy had anti-game. He would open his mouth and say the stupidest shit imaginable. Shit so stupid that you could practically see the girls faces go from adoration/lust/very excited to disgust/extreme disappointment. This is when I truly knew game was so incredibly powerful, because without it even a veritable adonis could turn girl off.

We call him No-Game Chad (Chad not his real name).

People would ask why we called him that. We'd say, "you'll see" and they would look puzzled at you, but soon enough, soon enough they'd see. You could be jealous of him and the attention he got from girls...but only until you witnessed how poor his game was and even the less successful of us would look at him with a little pity.

He still got laid, mind you, some girls would be too drunk or too horny and would use him and toss him to the side...and he didn't mind all that much as he wasn't particularly bright, but it was a complete waste. It was completely lost on him that if he would just learn some game his success would skyrocket, but alas, he still probably remains, No-Game Chad. Most of the women were a couple SMV points below him, sometimes much lower, but some of them were also verifiable smoke-shows.

It's real, it exists, but does it matter? Not really. Work on your health, your wealth, and most importantly, your state of mind, as getting approached by women is still no substitute for having game and your shit together.

Be the guy that women give IOIs to and approach despite not having any particular looks or wealth or anything stand out. Then you'll be that guy that women say to their friends...

"There's just something about him"

Like another poster said, that guy that they'll not only come to and for, but that guy they'll keep coming back to because he has something more, he may even have it all in their minds. Even if they leave, they'll come back to you in their minds...the one that got away.

^^^THIS^^^

Top-shelf looks means you don't even have to knock on the girl's door -- that door just opens up for you as you stroll by the house. But you can still fuck it up, easily, and get that door closed in your face, before you even enter, by acting like No-Game Chad described above.

Also, once you're in a LTR, your top-shelf looks don't matter. Women stop seeing your good looks after a short while, and they'll leave your ass the exact same way that they'll leave an average dude. Happens every day, everywhere. It happened to me. Good looking guys have absolutely no advantage in a relationship over average or busted looking guys.

Solution is GAME, aka "learned charisma". You need at least a little, no matter how good-looking you are.

[Cobra]

Fuck if I know this has been said already. From my perspective it's a great question.

Men approaching women is not the same as women approaching men. Women just do it differently. To the point that most men won't even notice.

-She might flick her hair.
-She may make a shitty excuse to see you or talk to you.
-She might ask you a fucking irrelevant question (like something she can look up on her phone).
-She complements you on your look during a conversation you already are having or you started.
-Smiles, eye contact

We know these as IOIs. However I think of these as female approaches. By the same token, her "approach" does not mean she wants to bang you, yet. She is still going to want you to spit game and try to bang her. Attractive women do not want to feel easy.

It's a game.

Edit: I think this is pure perspective but I would encourage the men here to think of these as approaches from women not IOIs. IOI makes it seem like something elusive that you need to be trained to watch for and have to be a fucking jedi to crack open. Instead, just know that a girl just approached you and invited you to spit your game.

[aswifty]

(02-06-2019 01:54 PM)LINUX Wrote:  

(02-06-2019 11:31 AM)Savonarola Wrote:  

Wow man, being in the top 99%, that's an accomplishment.
;-)

Top 99% of the clubs in Colorado not top 99% in the USA.

If I walked into a club in Miami or Rio De Janiero, that would be a whole different story. Men are a product of their towns and the people in them. You are much more likely to be a fat tub of shit in Oxford, Mississippi than you would be Denver Colorado or Venice Beach. You are also much more likely to be a soy bitch in Portland, Oregon than you would be in say Moscow, Russia. If you are blending in with everyone else, don't expect magic.

(02-06-2019 11:31 AM)aswifty Wrote:  

If this is true, than learning the skill of cold approaching women is more or less a waste of time, and the best method would to be is get good looking as possible, and eliminate neediness entirely and wait for girls to approach you. You do know your comments somewhat dispels the virtue of cold approaching women and learning game, if your intention is getting laid. I'm starting to agree with incels lol

It's not a waste of time if that's your personality and you want to do it. Game is a process. Making other women want to be with you, and refusing to chase women around, is not where you begin, it's where you end. If I only had 15-50 lays in my life, I probably wouldn't have the confidence to make this mentality work. It's best to begin with game and learn everything you can because that's what gets you off the couch. Write down hundreds of things that you believe and that you have learned from game books. You need that hope and inspiration in the beginning.

Five or ten years down the road, after confidence, experience and lessons of life have all happened from running game for the past decade or so, you can narrow that list down to a cocktail napkin because after confidence, masculinity, and physique, you won't have to talk your way into a woman's bed, the more you say, the more likely you'll talk your way out of it because if women are approaching you, they have already decided they want to fuck you.

That an interesting perspective, and certainly inspiring. However, is it really anything to do with mentality or more so to do with physique? If we take some virgin with beta mindsets who's facially handsome who's like 6'4 and has been working out blasting tren for like a year, then place him in a club, he'll probably still get girls approaching him. And we can't really argue it has anything to do with his mindsets.



I'm not going to lie, i made this thread hoping to maintain my inclination that the purple pill has at least some validity in regards to looks vs personality/game, when in reality the black pill has been proven correct. Women are incredibly superficial, and are extensively picky on who they represent that special sexual intent to, that the majority of guys won't ever even experience a fraction of.

It's like, you have to be so particularly good looking, for them to throw out all those fronts they lie to society about out the window; "he only needs to be taller than me, i want a funny guy, i want a confident guy."

All of that shit becomes irrelevant when a guy is physically the cream of the crop.

No, they don't want a guy who's simply taller, they want a guy who is 6'2-6'5. No, they don't care how funny you are or intelligent you are, as much as they care about your physical dimensions.

Because, if they did care about those personality traits, they would rather be approaching guys who have a higher likelihood of exhibiting those traits, based on observing their behavior and style, when in reality they're only interested in approaching guys who are more likely to have a rippling 6 pack and big cock.

It is a total myth that women are not confident enough to approach men, lies. I don't think they take rejection as hard as us men want to delude ourselves into believing. Why would they? They have another option right after you reject them, might not be their first choice, but at least it's another warm body to hold onto at night.

I mean, i'm dedicated to the gym, and am going to be improving my looks substantially, but because i have like 3 facial flaws, and im only 5'10, ill never get that special intention, most likely. I mean, maybe things can change when im 8-10% bodyfat.

Just curious, what is your height?

[jselysianeagle]

^ your whining basically boils down to: "Some genetically gifted men have it much easier than me, therefore my life sucks and I shouldn't bother trying". You're looking for excuses to quit.

Look bro - in every aspect of life, there's goin to be guys much better than you, and guys much worse off than you. Be it sports, making music, some other skill or gaming women. That's just the way it is. Hell, I'm a good bit shorter than you and I still manage to score attractive women, albeit with more effort than my much better looking buddies. Sometimes I wish I had it easier too, but I'd much rather go out and put in the effort than become an incel or MGTOW.

Look at my sig and take it to heart - pussy ain't for pussies. If you're afraid or unwilling to put in the effort, leave the playing field. It's just more women for the rest of us...

[scotian]

A few years back I went to a high end club in Guadalajera, Mexico with the Swoop The World guys THC and 20Nation. As we were entering the club and getting patted down, I looked ahead and THC was making out with a chica, literally about three seconds after he entered the club. She was walking by the entrance, which was near the bar so a high traffic area, then she approached him and was looking in his eyes so when she came within an arm's length, he grabbed her and started making out with her. This stuff does happen, it doesn't really happen to me and it doesn't happen to you OP but that doesn't mean that it doens't happen to other guys who are more "sexy" than us.

[H1N1]

I've been approached to model by Abercrombie and Ralph Lauren, amongst others, in the past. You can imagine my look.

On a random night out girls don't 'approach' me, though I've had plenty of the dick grabbing, arm squeezing etc. As has been said, girls don't approach the way we approach. Growing up I would have no idea that girls were 'approaching'. My friends would laugh and point it out and I wouldn't see it. It was pretty funny with hindsight how blind I was to it. I'm still not very good in a club setting.

What I realised when I worked in a bar though was that any girl who had a reason to talk to me would talk as long as she could, and any girl I asked out would say yes. I literally never strike out with a girl unless it turns out she has a boyfriend or her friend fancies me. The barmaids at the bar used to laugh about it, because we'd have a hundred people at the bar and literally all of the girls would be on my serving area, and the rest of the bar would be guys.

I honestly don't get 'hit on' a huge amount, in terms of girls walking up to me and starting to talk to me. Sometimes at private parties, but even that is rare. As has been said, girls 'opening' you involves them putting themselves within your sphere of attention. The most blatant I've had was at this bar. A girl and her friend were staring at me across the bar. I smiled and winked at the cuter one. Her friend came and gave me the cuter ones number, and took mine. I sent her a text saying we should hang out when I got off work. She told me which hotel and which room number. A smile, a wink, two texts, 2 minutes small talk at the hotel, and we were fucking.

[aswifty]

(02-07-2019 09:13 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

^ your whining basically boils down to: "Some genetically gifted men have it much easier than me, therefore my life sucks and I shouldn't bother trying". You're looking for excuses to quit.

Look bro - in every aspect of life, there's goin to be guys much better than you, and guys much worse off than you. Be it sports, making music, some other skill or gaming women. That's just the way it is. Hell, I'm a good bit shorter than you and I still manage to score attractive women, albeit with more effort than my much better looking buddies. Sometimes I wish I had it easier too, but I'd much rather go out and put in the effort than become an incel or MGTOW.

Look at my sig and take it to heart - pussy ain't for pussies. If you're afraid or unwilling to put in the effort, leave the playing field. It's just more women for the rest of us...

Okay, fair enough, i agree with you, i'm not going to quit just because good looking guys have to put in next to no effort.

It's not more of a matter of me wanting to give up, it's rather more of a matter of me resenting women for it.

The reason why I resent them for this behavior is because they're always lying about how a man's looks are down the list of importance for them, but then look how they behave around chad.

If women are going to act so dramatically different for chad vs a normal looking man, this actually proves that women actually care more about looks than men, or rather genetics.

Men, by large, are open minded to be sexually free and willing to both a 6 out of 10 to a 10 out of 10, assuming his options aren't overflown.

If women are so specific about what they truly find attractive, then that proves they think about it more, and have more refined tastes.

It's a lot easier for a woman to hit that 9+ category through working out, cosmetics, and surgery. Usually just make up, working out, and dieting will get them to a 9, despite have far than less than ideal facial genetics.

Women, after all, tirelessly analyze their facial proportions trying to accentuate beautiful aspects of their face, whilst hiding the flaws. Pure manipulation. Women are red pilled about looks just by application, and they have learned through observing beauty standards of what makes a beautiful face, and attempt to replicate that via makeup. So, when they see the oh so very rare men fulfill the standards of beautiful proportions, their pussies gush.

Girls can do a lot more to boost their rating, and they're not so genetically determined the same way men are.

Also, there's one consistent aspect to the top tier male's looks in this thread, is height. Men are tremendously more open minded about height than women. You could have a perfect face and physique, but if you're anywhere sub 5'7 or such, too bad you're genetic trash to them, and now you hav eto jump through retarded hoops just to get in their overrated pussies.

It's this self righteous lie of being the less superficial sex, and being some victims to male superficiality that makes me sick to my stomach, because the behavioral evidence keeps showing the contrary.

It's not just stories like these ones on this thread that prove this deranged mentality they project, but a catfish account on tinder can prove this true as well.

It is enraging, and I don't really know how to cope with the anger without it leaking negatively into my game attempts.

People tell me sometimes that girls can probably sense my hatred for them when i speak to them, thus explain my low success rate, but the black pill in me just says, "5'10, 17% bodyfat, weak style sense, lack of dhvs, and reserved body language, ect."

I'm not the only man who admits this, but the truth about women is very negative, and once that truth is realized, it's very hard not to hate them for it, on biological and cultural level. I've been struggling with this for years... perhaps the red pills just hits some men too hard, and me being one of them. lol

[Savonarola]

(02-07-2019 09:39 AM)H1N1 Wrote:  

I've been approached to model by Abercrombie and Ralph Lauren, amongst others, in the past. You can imagine my look.

On a random night out girls don't 'approach' me, though I've had plenty of the dick grabbing, arm squeezing etc. As has been said, girls don't approach the way we approach. Growing up I would have no idea that girls were 'approaching'. My friends would laugh and point it out and I wouldn't see it. It was pretty funny with hindsight how blind I was to it. I'm still not very good in a club setting.

What I realised when I worked in a bar though was that any girl who had a reason to talk to me would talk as long as she could, and any girl I asked out would say yes. I literally never strike out with a girl unless it turns out she has a boyfriend or her friend fancies me. The barmaids at the bar used to laugh about it, because we'd have a hundred people at the bar and literally all of the girls would be on my serving area, and the rest of the bar would be guys.

I honestly don't get 'hit on' a huge amount, in terms of girls walking up to me and starting to talk to me. Sometimes at private parties, but even that is rare. As has been said, girls 'opening' you involves them putting themselves within your sphere of attention. The most blatant I've had was at this bar. A girl and her friend were staring at me across the bar. I smiled and winked at the cuter one. Her friend came and gave me the cuter ones number, and took mine. I sent her a text saying we should hang out when I got off work. She told me which hotel and which room number. A smile, a wink, two texts, 2 minutes small talk at the hotel, and we were fucking.

Well put. I've also been approached to model by several scouts, in SoCal, Texas, and Miami. Each time I said no, with images of Derek Zoolander's stupid-ass face floating in the back of my mind. It hasn't happened in a few years, so I guess I'm getting too muscular to model or probably just too damn old lol.

But your experience has been pretty much my experience. Women almost never open me directly, not the way other posters have described. But a lot do send IOIs, mostly via eye contact. Or, like last month, a drunk girl at my own party just blatantly asked me to take off my shirt "so she could see".

Re: your story about the girl and the direct bang at the hotel. Damn. Some women while travelling act just like we men do.

[scotian]

(02-07-2019 10:33 AM)aswifty Wrote:  

(02-07-2019 09:13 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

^ your whining basically boils down to: "Some genetically gifted men have it much easier than me, therefore my life sucks and I shouldn't bother trying". You're looking for excuses to quit.

Look bro - in every aspect of life, there's goin to be guys much better than you, and guys much worse off than you. Be it sports, making music, some other skill or gaming women. That's just the way it is. Hell, I'm a good bit shorter than you and I still manage to score attractive women, albeit with more effort than my much better looking buddies. Sometimes I wish I had it easier too, but I'd much rather go out and put in the effort than become an incel or MGTOW.

Look at my sig and take it to heart - pussy ain't for pussies. If you're afraid or unwilling to put in the effort, leave the playing field. It's just more women for the rest of us...

Okay, fair enough, i agree with you, i'm not going to quit just because good looking guys have to put in next to no effort.

It's not more of a matter of me wanting to give up, it's rather more of a matter of me resenting women for it.

The reason why I resent them for this behavior is because they're always lying about how a man's looks are down the list of importance for them, but then look how they behave around chad.

If women are going to act so dramatically different for chad vs a normal looking man, this actually proves that women actually care more about looks than men, or rather genetics.

Men, by large, are open minded to be sexually free and willing to both a 6 out of 10 to a 10 out of 10, assuming his options aren't overflown.

If women are so specific about what they truly find attractive, then that proves they think about it more, and have more refined tastes.

It's a lot easier for a woman to hit that 9+ category through working out, cosmetics, and surgery. Usually just make up, working out, and dieting will get them to a 9, despite have far than less than ideal facial genetics.

Women, after all, tirelessly analyze their facial proportions trying to accentuate beautiful aspects of their face, whilst hiding the flaws. Pure manipulation. Women are red pilled about looks just by application, and they have learned through observing beauty standards of what makes a beautiful face, and attempt to replicate that via makeup. So, when they see the oh so very rare men fulfill the standards of beautiful proportions, their pussies gush.

Girls can do a lot more to boost their rating, and they're not so genetically determined the same way men are.

Also, there's one consistent aspect to the top tier male's looks in this thread, is height. Men are tremendously more open minded about height than women. You could have a perfect face and physique, but if you're anywhere sub 5'7 or such, too bad you're genetic trash to them, and now you hav eto jump through retarded hoops just to get in their overrated pussies.

It's this self righteous lie of being the less superficial sex, and being some victims to male superficiality that makes me sick to my stomach, because the behavioral evidence keeps showing the contrary.

It's not just stories like these ones on this thread that prove this deranged mentality they project, but a catfish account on tinder can prove this true as well.

It is enraging, and I don't really know how to cope with the anger without it leaking negatively into my game attempts.

People tell me sometimes that girls can probably sense my hatred for them when i speak to them, thus explain my low success rate, but the black pill in me just says, "5'10, 17% bodyfat, weak style sense, lack of dhvs, and reserved body language, ect."

I'm not the only man who admits this, but the truth about women is very negative, and once that truth is realized, it's very hard not to hate them for it, on biological and cultural level. I've been struggling with this for years... perhaps the red pills just hits some men too hard, and me being one of them. lol

You really need to get over this mindset, it's obviously affecting your sucess with women, as you said, they can probably sense it. Just accept the fact that you won't be fucking or dating top-tier women and get in where you fit in.

When I was fifteen the hottest girl in my school told me that she would date me if I wasn't so short, it was kind of a funny thing for her to say because she wasn't on my radar at all and I had no interest in dating her but she just threw it out there as we were in the same circle of friends. I'm glad it happened then, I didn't really give a shit because I was focused on other girls who weren't as hot as her and more in my range. That experience and watching my friends who were taller and better looking than me get hotter girls taught me some valuable life lessons when it comes to chasing women; you have to know your limits, choose your targets well and have reasonable expectations. Rejection sucks and it happens to all of us at some point but you can limit your exposure to it and the shitty feeling that comes along with it by staying in your lane.

[The Usual Suspect]

Before I started learning game in 2011 I’d had four serious relationships. All of them were from the girls approaching me, but once I’d got the first night out of the way I could relax into it and be confident/take control

I’d say I’m a solid 7 looks wise (back then even an 8...I could have been a 9 if I’d have worked out but I didn’t, just average slim guy body)

But then the level of attention would always increase once I was in a relationship - the smell of need was gone and I’d get a couple of approaches whenever out.

I was in a relationship the past 7 years so I’d pretty much given up going out and was cuckholded

Been heading back out there but things have moved on somewhat, but it’s fun re-learning

[quaker13]

(02-07-2019 10:33 AM)aswifty Wrote:  

(02-07-2019 09:13 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

^ your whining basically boils down to: "Some genetically gifted men have it much easier than me, therefore my life sucks and I shouldn't bother trying". You're looking for excuses to quit.

Look bro - in every aspect of life, there's goin to be guys much better than you, and guys much worse off than you. Be it sports, making music, some other skill or gaming women. That's just the way it is. Hell, I'm a good bit shorter than you and I still manage to score attractive women, albeit with more effort than my much better looking buddies. Sometimes I wish I had it easier too, but I'd much rather go out and put in the effort than become an incel or MGTOW.

Look at my sig and take it to heart - pussy ain't for pussies. If you're afraid or unwilling to put in the effort, leave the playing field. It's just more women for the rest of us...

Okay, fair enough, i agree with you, i'm not going to quit just because good looking guys have to put in next to no effort.

It's not more of a matter of me wanting to give up, it's rather more of a matter of me resenting women for it.

The reason why I resent them for this behavior is because they're always lying about how a man's looks are down the list of importance for them, but then look how they behave around chad.

If women are going to act so dramatically different for chad vs a normal looking man, this actually proves that women actually care more about looks than men, or rather genetics.

Men, by large, are open minded to be sexually free and willing to both a 6 out of 10 to a 10 out of 10, assuming his options aren't overflown.

If women are so specific about what they truly find attractive, then that proves they think about it more, and have more refined tastes.

It's a lot easier for a woman to hit that 9+ category through working out, cosmetics, and surgery. Usually just make up, working out, and dieting will get them to a 9, despite have far than less than ideal facial genetics.

Women, after all, tirelessly analyze their facial proportions trying to accentuate beautiful aspects of their face, whilst hiding the flaws. Pure manipulation. Women are red pilled about looks just by application, and they have learned through observing beauty standards of what makes a beautiful face, and attempt to replicate that via makeup. So, when they see the oh so very rare men fulfill the standards of beautiful proportions, their pussies gush.

Girls can do a lot more to boost their rating, and they're not so genetically determined the same way men are.

Also, there's one consistent aspect to the top tier male's looks in this thread, is height. Men are tremendously more open minded about height than women. You could have a perfect face and physique, but if you're anywhere sub 5'7 or such, too bad you're genetic trash to them, and now you hav eto jump through retarded hoops just to get in their overrated pussies.

It's this self righteous lie of being the less superficial sex, and being some victims to male superficiality that makes me sick to my stomach, because the behavioral evidence keeps showing the contrary.

It's not just stories like these ones on this thread that prove this deranged mentality they project, but a catfish account on tinder can prove this true as well.

It is enraging, and I don't really know how to cope with the anger without it leaking negatively into my game attempts.

People tell me sometimes that girls can probably sense my hatred for them when i speak to them, thus explain my low success rate, but the black pill in me just says, "5'10, 17% bodyfat, weak style sense, lack of dhvs, and reserved body language, ect."

I'm not the only man who admits this, but the truth about women is very negative, and once that truth is realized, it's very hard not to hate them for it, on biological and cultural level. I've been struggling with this for years... perhaps the red pills just hits some men too hard, and me being one of them. lol

Dude you can't get mad at women for acting on inherent evolutionary behaviors. Once you understand that you can use these same behaviors to your benefit, but you can't develop any animus towards something that is literally hardwired into them for 200k years. The difference is western women express it differently than say a group of subjugated middle eastern women who get stoned for suggesting she doens't have high interest in a short pot bellied shiek

[kaotic]

(02-07-2019 10:33 AM)aswifty Wrote:  

People tell me sometimes that girls can probably sense my hatred for them when i speak to them, thus explain my low success rate, but the black pill in me just says, "5'10, 17% bodyfat, weak style sense, lack of dhvs, and reserved body language, ect."

I'm not the only man who admits this, but the truth about women is very negative, and once that truth is realized, it's very hard not to hate them for it, on biological and cultural level. I've been struggling with this for years... perhaps the red pills just hits some men too hard, and me being one of them. lol

Dude you're 5'10? Fuck off.

I'm 5'8, you've got no fucking excuse, hell I even think Scotian might be slightly shorter than I am.

You've already got an advantage with height.

That stupid black pill thinking is toxic and you need to get your head out of your ass.

The last think you need to be is a shoot em' up Elliot Rodgers when you have a ton of potential.

You literally will NEVER stop biology - once you get over that - you'll be happier.

Women are going to women, bar enslaving them, that shit ain't changing either.

Having anger and resentment is like holding a burning coal in your hand, you're the only one getting burned in the end.

You need a hard reset.

You can easily fix two things - your body and the way you dress.

It sounds like you've been making years of excuses and bitching about the opposite sex, how does that help you in your quest?

It doesn't one bit.

You need to improvise, adapt, and overcome dude.

You have an ENTIRE forum at your fingertips to make you a better man.

You need to MAXIMIZE everything you have to offer and as Scotian said, get in where you can fit and expand on that.


Question is, are you gonna do anything about it? Or keep sitting here bitching and moaning?

Spoiler alert, you aren't going to get any sympathy about your excuses or frustrations.

You'll only get replies of, "what are you doing about it?"

[Fortis]

I'm hardly very good looking but if I post up in a spot and look friendly I'll get approached. I have friends who aren't good looking at all who look imposing and masculine who also get approached just because they look like that sort of dude.

[teddy bear]

Seriously you gonna complain with 5'10? Height is the last thing you should actually worry about at the moment -- "17% bodyfat, weak style sense, lack of dhvs, and reserved body language".

By the way, I'm 5'7 -- it's a disadvantage, yeah, but not a determining factor. Fortis above is like 5'8 too, if I remember correctly from his logs. He pulls solid weights and I'm sure he pulls equally solid chicks. Scotian is I believe even shorter. HankMoody is like 5'5 from what I remember and he posted tons of useful stuff for short guys (you are 5'10 -- you don't need it though, at least not above other flaws). And finally, there is DigitalNomad that probably tops the forum in terms of flags and great stories -- I don't remember when he stated his height, but I'm very sure he was below 6 feet tall.

Men are selective in terms of looks too -- you will find many girls with various complexes. Thing is that girls usually have it easier to get to a level where they are considered 7+ (for 90% it's just dropping the fucking fat layer). Most guys everywhere is far from the level you can get by lifting heavy, getting a solid career, life experiences, and fucking girls -- whether they are short and tall.

Unless you aim to fuck girls like the blonde one above on a regular basis, you will do well if you decide to put more work into this. And please mind I'm not a veteran as any of the guys I mentioned in this post. I'm a pussy beginner, still. But, I did change my mindset by a lot lately and this helps a lot.

By the way, I was never once approached by a girl I didn't know. That said, I was approached by two dudes in span of one hour in one club. How does that fare?

[subterfuge]

(02-07-2019 11:20 AM)scotian Wrote:  

I'm glad it happened then, I didn't really give a shit because I was focused on other girls who weren't as hot as her and more in my range. That experience and watching my friends who were taller and better looking than me get hotter girls taught me some valuable life lessons when it comes to chasing women; you have to know your limits, choose your targets well and have reasonable expectations. Rejection sucks and it happens to all of us at some point but you can limit your exposure to it and the shitty feeling that comes along with it by staying in your lane.

I guess this is what it boils down too, and is the reason for some peoples frustration.

I think some people have fully bought into the idea of 'game'. They think you can be a 4ft paraplegic with bad breath, but as long as you remember to neg a girl at the open, DHV a story about your model ex girlfriend and say something interesting, you can bang any girl you want.
This WAS the general belief back in the mysterymethod days (that game is all that mattered), but I think it's all moved on now.Easier to disprove now, for one! (there was no youtube back in 2000)

There's only a very few people now who still believe that 'game' is some sort of black magic.

When people start to think of game as simply making you more efficient at banging girls who are into you/your looks, or maybe even giving you an extra 'point' in terms of attractiveness, I think it becomes less frustrating.

I used to hate hearing people say ''If she rejects you, it means you weren't her type. Move on''. I'd think ''well what's the damn point in 'game' then??!!''. But now I kind of agree with it. You can't typically make a girl attracted to you. You can only increase EXISTING attraction!

You accept it. I know I have handsome friends whose results i could never get CLOSE too even if I had all of the best PUA's on earth guiding me through an earpiece. I know that i'm never gonna be banging models every night unless I pay for it! I know that most girls are basically as superficial as men, but how can I be angry at them about that considering i'm exactly the same or even worse!!? That would be hypocritical

I'm in a good headspace with game and stuff nowadays tbh. I still occassionally get a bruised ego when i'm out with my exceptionally handsome friends, but in general, i'm 'in my lane' as you say

ps - Another story about the same handsome friend mentioned in this thread in keeping with the other guys story about his friend.

My friend was parked outside a club at night as he had to pick something up. As he came back he realised he'd blocked some girl in with his truck. She walked towards him, initially to berate him for his bad parking. She was like ''Is that your truck!!?'' whist she was walking and my friend was like ''yep! Sorry!!'' and then as she got close her expression changed from angry to something else, and she was like ''Oh....er...wow. Yeah, you kinda blocked me in. You're hot! I didn't realise from over there!!'' and then she started asking him questions. She then made some sexual comment which he joked around with and then 30 seconds later, he took her to his truck and banged her in the back!! Staggering. That's an example of 'easy mode'. She was hot too, albeit a little older (I like young girls). He was like 26 and she was maybe 35

PPS - He's actually a short ass!, albeit very very handsome (since I notice we're talking about height now)
At 5' 10'' height is NOT your issue when it comes to looks, bro (OP)! That's fine. I wish I was that tall

[CaptainChardonnay]

I was studying at the library the other day and had a girl cold approach me for her friend. I've also had random girls pinch my ass on multiple occasions from anywhere in clubs to while walking on the sidewalk. Decent looking girls also.

[Fortis]

Not sure why guys are throwing shade at Linux for applying the principle of being different from the norm.

You see this shit all day in Asia. You often don't even need to be huge, just taller/more handsome/whiter/blacker/better dressed or something else than every other schlub in the area. You can easily verify these ideas if you go out and observe.

Here's an experiment for you guys who are around 30 or so: go lurk in a popular college bar and just be chill. You will probably get approached by some curious co-ed wondering why you aren't jumping through hoops to get her attention. Your poise and calm demeanor can really set you apart in these scenarios.

If the place is really popping you might even get grabbed on the arm and pulled into a group or conversation since you just look "cool."