I just returned to my city after a vacation in which I effectively went out 6 nights in a row. After that experience, I just don't feel like going out alone to bars, clubs, or any variation of the two and meeting the women in those places for the indefinite future. My desire isn't for this post to come off as a rant, but there's certainly some venting of frustration here.
1. Atmosphere-Most bars are just loud places where people go to get drunk and "have fun". I've found the "have fun" part to be load of nonsense. Almost everything is an appearance--from the crowds to the silly attempts at dancing by people looking to show off how great they are. Some bars have their merits because of games and live music, but those are things that exist at other places. As someone who usually finds himself alone, going out isn't very fun and I find the environment to be inauthentic.
2. Girls-This past trip (Nashville and New Orleans) has served to further lower my tolerance of dealing with the American white girl. The barrage of unpleasant attitudes, veiled insults, status digging, and mind games has driven me up the wall.
I'm sure there are some girls who don't have a stick up their ass, but I probably won't find them in a bar where they're likely to be surrounded by orbiters and "friends".
3. Social aspect-There's a big stigma associated with going to a bar alone. No one is ever going to admit to it openly, but from my experiences in the US, there's an almost implicit expectation that I shouldn't be doing any activities without someone else (including travel). When talking with anybody, it's almost certain that the questions "Who are you with?" and "Where are your friends?" will come up, and those get old real fast. Nevermind the fact that many people who go out are just going through the motions with their acquaintances, but I digress.
For the record, I have no friends and the only people I talk with on a regular basis are a few family members (not counting people at my job). This social aspect of my life is something I really want to improve within the current year. And that aspect has always been a very difficult thing for me for a variety of reasons that would make this post too voluminous. It's not only limiting my game potential, but I'm definitely feeling some negative effects of isolation.
4. Results-I have plenty of experience with night game both in the US and abroad. However, my success rate is actually pretty bad. If I were to take out college house parties from the past, I can only think of one time where I've even brought a girl at a bar back to where I live (almost 2 years ago). Overall, I have a dry spell of almost a year now. By not going out on weekends or holidays, my volume of interaction with women drastically decreases. I have very limited opportunity to interact with women (outside of work) during the day and I'm done with the disappointment of online dating apps. My game is far from perfect, but I think I've hit a point where I may need some objective guidance to progress further.
I want to focus on improving several non-financial aspects of my life this year. It's natural for a guy my age to think about women but it's at a point where it can be a little consuming to my thoughts. I want to fix that by focusing on other things.
1. Atmosphere-Most bars are just loud places where people go to get drunk and "have fun". I've found the "have fun" part to be load of nonsense. Almost everything is an appearance--from the crowds to the silly attempts at dancing by people looking to show off how great they are. Some bars have their merits because of games and live music, but those are things that exist at other places. As someone who usually finds himself alone, going out isn't very fun and I find the environment to be inauthentic.
2. Girls-This past trip (Nashville and New Orleans) has served to further lower my tolerance of dealing with the American white girl. The barrage of unpleasant attitudes, veiled insults, status digging, and mind games has driven me up the wall.
I'm sure there are some girls who don't have a stick up their ass, but I probably won't find them in a bar where they're likely to be surrounded by orbiters and "friends".
3. Social aspect-There's a big stigma associated with going to a bar alone. No one is ever going to admit to it openly, but from my experiences in the US, there's an almost implicit expectation that I shouldn't be doing any activities without someone else (including travel). When talking with anybody, it's almost certain that the questions "Who are you with?" and "Where are your friends?" will come up, and those get old real fast. Nevermind the fact that many people who go out are just going through the motions with their acquaintances, but I digress.
For the record, I have no friends and the only people I talk with on a regular basis are a few family members (not counting people at my job). This social aspect of my life is something I really want to improve within the current year. And that aspect has always been a very difficult thing for me for a variety of reasons that would make this post too voluminous. It's not only limiting my game potential, but I'm definitely feeling some negative effects of isolation.
4. Results-I have plenty of experience with night game both in the US and abroad. However, my success rate is actually pretty bad. If I were to take out college house parties from the past, I can only think of one time where I've even brought a girl at a bar back to where I live (almost 2 years ago). Overall, I have a dry spell of almost a year now. By not going out on weekends or holidays, my volume of interaction with women drastically decreases. I have very limited opportunity to interact with women (outside of work) during the day and I'm done with the disappointment of online dating apps. My game is far from perfect, but I think I've hit a point where I may need some objective guidance to progress further.
I want to focus on improving several non-financial aspects of my life this year. It's natural for a guy my age to think about women but it's at a point where it can be a little consuming to my thoughts. I want to fix that by focusing on other things.