[rochdilol]

I want to know if I should go with this girl out or not,

I talked with her first time through Facebook, I suggested to have a drink somewhere,she accepted,we had a good date,unfortunately I couldn't escalate quickly, but she kept saying me that she liked the conversation we had, and that she went out last times with a shy man,and a man who couldn't make a normal conversation with her.

the following day,I suggested to see a film next time we meet, she accepted.

The problem
we had some audio conversations (phone calls) and yesterday she suggested me to go to study in a Library for about 6 hours,is this a warning?I accepted,Should I find an excuse or go to study with her in the same place?

[rochdilol]

I'm planning the meeting tomorrow, So I would love to have some help before making the decision tomorrow

[Monkey Business]

Did you escalate at all on your first date? Any flirting, kissing, or sexual tension? It sounds like the first date went alright, or at least wasn't a total disaster, but the follow-up seems weak. Also, what do you know about this girl now? Are there any signs for girlfriend potential? Do you just want to have sex with her? Is she some random girl you found on FB, or someone you see often in school and/or social circle?

Why are you speaking to her on the phone multiple times between dates? And do you think a 6 hour study session at the Library is a romantic endeavor? Can you see the relation between these events and how things are headed in a platonic direction? It seems as though she's trying to friend-zone you, so if that's not what you want, then you need to change course here.

If your first date went well, then your second date should be at yours or hers, so it can lead to sex. Or move her around a bit between a couple places, and then back to either of yours. A library study session, especially suggested by her, does not sound like a place for romance and escalation. It seems like she's testing you and I would bail. I'd cut off communication for a few days, AT LEAST. Stop being her phone call buddy. Do cool shit. Study on your own time.

[Hypno]

Tell her to come study at your house. Give her a reason - I'll make popcorn, I want to show you my aquarium, it doesn't matter.

[RatInTheWoods]

A 6 hour "study date" is beta.

[BadBoyGamer]

If you suggest watching a movie do it at your place. That way you can escalate. Taking a girl to a movie theater is a bad idea for a date.

She stole the initiative by suggesting you go study with her. Do not go! Instead invite her either home (to see your amazing carpet or something) or to a venue close to your home.

Anyway. You should have the initiative at all times.

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but she kept saying me that she liked the conversation we had, and that she went out last times with a shy man,and a man who couldn't make a normal conversation with her.

Just words. Words are meaningless. Girls say many words. It is her actions you should pay attention to. And her current action is not demonstrating a deep desire to get fucked by you.

To put it into other words: She must be thinking about fucking you. Instead she is thinking about studying with you. Do you see the problem? The solution is to sexualize the interaction.

Be brave, be bold, be fearless. Be willing to walk away.

[rochdilol]

I finally canceled the meetup and suggested to her to come watch a movie at my place this wednesday,she agreed after some talks.I think it will be easier to bang her in my home like you all suggest.

Thank you guys for the support

[Philosopher]

(11-26-2018 05:09 PM)rochdilol Wrote:  

I finally canceled the meetup and suggested to her to come watch a movie at my place this wednesday,she agreed after some talks.I think it will be easier to bang her in my home like you all suggest.

Thank you guys for the support

Good job for having the balls to cancel it. Let us know how the movie date goes.

[RatInTheWoods]

(11-26-2018 05:09 PM)rochdilol Wrote:  

I finally canceled the meetup and suggested to her to come watch a movie at my place this wednesday,she agreed after some talks.I think it will be easier to bang her in my home like you all suggest.

Thank you guys for the support

Well done!

Now ready up on the strategy to set up the date at your place.

Setting the mood, escalating, push pull etc.

The "single date bang" thread will give you some hot tips.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[Zoso]

Good move OP.

To fellas, was it perhaps a shittest?
Maybe she was expecting his reaction, to See how he handles it.

[PapayaTapper]

If she's not on the slutty side this was probably a combination of anti slut defense (ASD) kicking in and a bit of a shit test

She sounds like she's into it (likes you) but doesn't want to come across as too eager / easy. Almost every girl over 15 knows that "come over" implies at least the chance for sex so she may have been reluctant to be the one to initiate that scenario.

Keep in mind that even though the "system" is stacked in women's favor, the vast majority of them are still insecure little girls who care what "others" think of them. Its biological.

Evolutionary biology is still on our side if we / you know how to use it

A dose of confidence and displayed masculine "strength" early on is often more than enough to tip the scales in your favor.

Cool + Confident+ Light = Her Responsibility Removed (HRR)

HRR = BDITP

BDITP = Ball Deep In The Pussy

Its like pushing a remote control

"It just happened because of chemistry"

"I never do this"

"This never happens"

[rochdilol]

(11-28-2018 12:06 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

Cool + Confident+ Light = Her Responsibility Removed (HRR)

HRR = BDITP

BDITP = Ball Deep In The Pussy

Its like pushing a remote control

"It just happened because of chemistry"

"I never do this"

"This never happens"

haha you made my day man!

[rochdilol]

bad news;
I called her for the meetup yesterday,a quick summary of what happened

the girl:hello babe,how are you
me:great,u?
the girl:I'm good
me:How was your day
the girl:had a lot of things to do, I'm really tired now,I'm sorry I can watch the movie with you today we will do it this weekend
I was very angry at this time,I tried to convince her for some time;but couldn't she kept saying tht we will do it the week end or maybe the next week because I told I will be busy this 2 days.

me:aren't you motivated to see me,you know have a good day,bye.didn't let her answer me

She sent me a message telling that she's very sorry,I didn't answer
after few hours she sent me another message "where are you?.." I didn't answer again

I'm just trying to know how were my moves?Did I choose the right decisions?
What's the next move?

[The Golden God]

(11-29-2018 03:47 AM)rochdilol Wrote:  

bad news;
I called her for the meetup yesterday,a quick summary of what happened

the girl:hello babe,how are you
me:great,u?
the girl:I'm good
me:How was your day
the girl:had a lot of things to do, I'm really tired now,I'm sorry I can watch the movie with you today we will do it this weekend
I was very angry at this time,I tried to convince her for some time;but couldn't she kept saying tht we will do it the week end or maybe the next week because I told I will be busy this 2 days.

me:aren't you motivated to see me,you know have a good day,bye.didn't let her answer me

She sent me a message telling that she's very sorry,I didn't answer
after few hours she sent me another message "where are you?.." I didn't answer again

I'm just trying to know how were my moves?Did I choose the right decisions?
What's the next move?

No... you're acting like a passive aggressive girl.

She cancelled. You should have told her that it wasn't cool to cancel on you the day of meeting up instead of not saying anything directly.

Don't show girls that you're angry you got flaked on even if you are, just be firm and act in a way that shows you're disappointed and annoyed.

She's obviously pretty interested.

She,
1. Offered to reschedule for the weekend. Girls who are just blowing you off won't do that.
2. Apologized to you more than once. That means she is in a state of dread where she thinks she fucked things up with you.
3. Double texted you to try to get your attention after not replying to her. Pretty high indicator of attraction.

Honestly, leaving a girl on ice is never the worst thing you can do. It is far better than blowing up into some argument and showing low value to her.

I would say to not do it in such a petty manner next time... don't pull the "you know what... have a good day [end call]" you did before.

Next move

I think you should hit her up and simply plan another meet up.

Don't be needy and overgame because you don't want her to cancel again. If she cancels again then next her.

It sounds like you shouldn't have problems getting her out again though.

[LeBaron]

There is a high chance she will send you a text tonight or tomorrow, if she doesn't just hit her up friday afternoon and tell her to come home to watch the movie at your place on friday night.

[BadBoyGamer]

I know this is incredible difficult and annoying to hear. But you need to change your mindset. You becoming angry is a sign of a deeper problem.

Go and try (in a nice way) to have another date. Make it something fun. Just focus on having a good and enjoyable time.

Do not even think about having sex. Make it your goal to NOT have sex on purpose. You can flirt and escalate a little bit. But sex is off the table.

Point is to release your mental pressure. You want something from her and you get angry because she won't give it to you. This is the wrong mindset. By removing this "want" from your mind you have no reason to get angry or frustrated anymore.

This will make the whole interaction go smoother. And paradoxically makes getting to the sex part a whole lot easier.

ONLY focus on having a good and enjoyable time together. Nothing else!

[rochdilol]

I wasn't really angry,I just wanted to let her know that she did a terrible thing by cancelling the rendez-vous and that she should feel bad for what she did and maybe she should do more effort to catch up,who knows

[BadBoyGamer]

"she did a terrible thing"
"she should feel bad for what she did"
"she should do more effort"

No.

She cancelled movie night (setup by you with intend to fuck her). This is not terrible. Dead puppies are terrible.
She has to feel bad for cancelling on something she knows is about fucking at the end?
You want to fuck her. Why does she have to do more effort for it?

[rochdilol]

(11-30-2018 05:06 AM)BadBoyGamer Wrote:  

"she did a terrible thing"
"she should feel bad for what she did"
"she should do more effort"

No.

She cancelled movie night (setup by you with intend to fuck her). This is not terrible. Dead puppies are terrible.
She has to feel bad for cancelling on something she knows is about fucking at the end?
You want to fuck her. Why does she have to do more effort for it?

Yes man, You're right this time
I will try to call her tomorrow and fix this by explaining that I had some problems that day...