i've been dating this girl for a while now. the backstory of this girl is, she's 18, feminine, an energy bomb, the girl literally have a happy gene in her. always so fun to be around.
we went on dates and it felt different than the rest of the shitty dates i've been on. it was actually fun and not just a process leading up to a bang that i felt like i had to force myself through. i enjoyed the time spent with this girl. on the 2nd date i pushed for sex and she told me that she is really tempted and she likes me but she would like to get to know me better first. i said fair enough. 3rd date went by, didn't even think of sex, thats how much fun we had. 4th date i pushed for sex again and she politely rejected it, but it was whatever, i saw long term with this girl so it wasn't just about sex, i figured i could wait.
we cuddled and slept at my place and the next morning when we woke up she wanted to tell me a secret. she told me she has only had sex with one person, her ex-boyfriend and it its been 1 year since her last time. "it's not that i don't want to have sex with you, but i want you to know why im holding back". I legit believe her because that's also the information i've gotten from her friend i met. I guess it was a test waiting until the 4th date to see if i was patient or not and i passed it. Because literally the same day when i got back from school i had a message from her saying "i've been thinking about sex with you since i left, do you have any plans tonight?
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i got her over that night and she was very much in the mood. My dick was rock hard throughout the whole foreplay but as soon as she pulled down my pants it stopped working. She gave me a blowjob but it still went soft. I did something stupid, i apologized and seemed frustrated about it, annoyed. I knew it was just performance anxiety and that it could happen to the best of us, but i still acted like a bitch losing frame. i figured it was because i've only slept with 2 girls in my life and this girl is literally an 8.5/10 for me.
my girl was super chill about it, she just laughed it out and said it's all good, we can just try again another time. there was no awkwardness between us after that which is nice. 1 week went by as we were both busy with school when i invited her to come over again. This time the nervousness wasn't as strong as before. But i still had a long dry spell of 1+ year. So i literally busted in 1 minute. We went for round 2 and it happened within 3 minutes. Shit. I felt bad that she literally comes over and wants to spend time with me, and i can't please her well. In my head im thinking, why would she even come over again if the outcome will be the same?
Obviously, she likes my company but she clearly mentioned before she also likes good sex. So after this incident, i don't feel like it's the same as it used to be, where she'd message me almost every day and send me random pics throughout the day. So i guess i fucked up either by showing inexperience or by having a very poor frame. The thing that baffles me though... is that she doesn't seem to mind so much. She's literally just saying we can work on things and "its okay", but i dont know if i should believe it or it's just something girls say to not make you feel like shit. Any tips appreciated to what i can work on.
we went on dates and it felt different than the rest of the shitty dates i've been on. it was actually fun and not just a process leading up to a bang that i felt like i had to force myself through. i enjoyed the time spent with this girl. on the 2nd date i pushed for sex and she told me that she is really tempted and she likes me but she would like to get to know me better first. i said fair enough. 3rd date went by, didn't even think of sex, thats how much fun we had. 4th date i pushed for sex again and she politely rejected it, but it was whatever, i saw long term with this girl so it wasn't just about sex, i figured i could wait.
we cuddled and slept at my place and the next morning when we woke up she wanted to tell me a secret. she told me she has only had sex with one person, her ex-boyfriend and it its been 1 year since her last time. "it's not that i don't want to have sex with you, but i want you to know why im holding back". I legit believe her because that's also the information i've gotten from her friend i met. I guess it was a test waiting until the 4th date to see if i was patient or not and i passed it. Because literally the same day when i got back from school i had a message from her saying "i've been thinking about sex with you since i left, do you have any plans tonight?
" i got her over that night and she was very much in the mood. My dick was rock hard throughout the whole foreplay but as soon as she pulled down my pants it stopped working. She gave me a blowjob but it still went soft. I did something stupid, i apologized and seemed frustrated about it, annoyed. I knew it was just performance anxiety and that it could happen to the best of us, but i still acted like a bitch losing frame. i figured it was because i've only slept with 2 girls in my life and this girl is literally an 8.5/10 for me.
my girl was super chill about it, she just laughed it out and said it's all good, we can just try again another time. there was no awkwardness between us after that which is nice. 1 week went by as we were both busy with school when i invited her to come over again. This time the nervousness wasn't as strong as before. But i still had a long dry spell of 1+ year. So i literally busted in 1 minute. We went for round 2 and it happened within 3 minutes. Shit. I felt bad that she literally comes over and wants to spend time with me, and i can't please her well. In my head im thinking, why would she even come over again if the outcome will be the same?
Obviously, she likes my company but she clearly mentioned before she also likes good sex. So after this incident, i don't feel like it's the same as it used to be, where she'd message me almost every day and send me random pics throughout the day. So i guess i fucked up either by showing inexperience or by having a very poor frame. The thing that baffles me though... is that she doesn't seem to mind so much. She's literally just saying we can work on things and "its okay", but i dont know if i should believe it or it's just something girls say to not make you feel like shit. Any tips appreciated to what i can work on.
