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11-22-2018, 12:03 AM
You guys do realize the broad is 21? What fuckin 21 year old has $400 laying around to fly to see a stranger? I don’t care if the OP 10 or 5 with tons of game, it’s simply unrealistic to expect that out of 21 year old.
OP should be getting clear yet subtle signs of sexual interest for starters and he should reduce the trip to 2 nights. 4 fuckin days is brutal if the chick has a shit personality even with the addition of sex 4 days is still too much. Do not fly her in unless you are fairly certain you can smash. Even if you get hoodwinked at least you know you did your part. Also, if she’s an asshole fly her back early regardless of cost.
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11-22-2018, 12:39 AM
I agree with few others if you got the $ go for it
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11-22-2018, 08:51 AM
"I won't buy girls drinks"
"I don't see the point in going to expensive bars and restaurants."
"Pricey clothes are a waste of money."
"Who needs a luxury car?"
"Studio apartments are just fine."
"Business and First class flights are just not worth it."
"Why take a taxi if you can walk? Exercise is important to me."
"I'd never fly some hot young pussy to fuck me for a weekend cause that makes her a whore."
Experience has taught me that most of these things are said by those that can't afford them.
Denigrate what you can't have...like chicks who shame attractive women for the slightest thing.
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11-22-2018, 11:15 PM
I had an old fling come to meet up with me once in Europe. I didn't pay for her to travel over (from the US so it was a big trip) but I did make arrange for some joint trips within Europe, expecting her to pay her share. Since we were basically not together at that point, and she gave absolutely no hint at trying to make it romantic/hookup, I kind of just settled on the fact that she was just wanting to take a trip in Europe with a "free" host.
I took the approach that I had very little to lose. If she came over and didn't want to hook up, whatever, I was certainly gonna enjoy myself regardless since it was a great travel plan I had made. If she got too crazy then I could kick her out.
The trip ended up being pretty good, because she was immediately out of her element in this foreign country, therefore absolutely needed me.
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11-22-2018, 11:16 PM
>>It's not possible to accurately determine your odds of banging the girl, and then you'd have to multiply it by your expected costs for the weekend (a tough number to estimate).
It's also not possible to accurately (meaning within a few percentage points of the true value) to determine the odds of business success or expected profits, but bankers, venture capitalists, other investors still try the best they can. What's the alternative? Flip a coin? $1000/year won't break most guys but $1000/week over many years = thrown away opportunity for financial independence.
In practice, I don't consciously use numbers like JCardial suggests. Rather I go on gut feel. Suppose I repeated the deal over and over? What's my gut feeling as to likely succeses versus failures, likely benefits versus costs? If I get a bad gut feeling, forget. But behind my gut feeling is a subconscious calculation like JCardial is making. Similarly, some investors consciously use numbers, others go on gut feel and let the subconscious do something equivalent to number crunching.
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11-23-2018, 12:44 AM
Iv done it, but only to girls that i have smashed already. Would never buy a plane ticket to a girl i never even met before. Thats to desperate ...
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11-23-2018, 12:56 AM
Quote: (11-23-2018 12:44 AM)TravelingBodybuilder Wrote:
Iv done it, but only to girls that i have smashed already. Would never buy a plane ticket to a girl i never even met before. Thats to desperate ...
Good policy.
They might be terrible in bed or shut you down. Alternatively, they may have a photoshopped photo or even an old phone if you're flying a internet girl (which is retarded)
“Where the danger is, so grows the saving element.” ~ German poet Hoelderlin
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11-23-2018, 10:57 AM
A slight problem with people's calculations is that they are calculating as cost per notch VS cost per lay. Presumably things will go down many times over the course of a long weekend. That's should be part of the calculus.
As for SAWEEP's comment. I'd personally love to be in a financial position to be able to do/buy all that stuff. I almost feel though that at this point I'm hardwired not to cringe when I look at the opportunity cost of some of that stuff. I'll fully admit that for many of the things on the list (certainly not all though), i rationalize a lot why I supposedly don't want it anyway.
Agree with the comment on most 21 year olds being flat broke. A symbolic contribution should be required on her part. Maybe bring a gift or something.
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11-23-2018, 11:35 AM
As for saweep's post, if you can afford all of those things, why not just go ahead? However, out of the ones I've tried, driving expensive cars (not my cars), buying more expensive clothing, buying girls drinks etc. they just ended up feeling kind of disappointing. I remember a friend going abroad and giving me his car for a month. Thus, I decided to test that thing on the German autobahn and reached 250 km/h peak speed. It was a disappointing experience and contributed to me simply not liking cars. However, being able to take an uber or taxi at will is great and going to nice restaurants is awesome too, imo.
I'm still opposed to flying girls to my city though. It simply feels bad for me personally. It's as though I didn't have enough game to get a girl in my city. Or, alternatively, I could use that cash to fly to another city / country and spend the weekend trying to get laid there. I'd only do it, if I had very little time on my hands and couldn't afford to leave the city.
But I disagree with those who think this is "slutty" behavior by the girls. Most girls I know do appreciate this on some level and know it's a free weekend of fun and sex.
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11-23-2018, 12:16 PM
>>If you do it, make her pay for the the ticket and say you’ll pay her back in person. It’s what millionaire rappers do:
Exactly. And specify that you'll pay her back AFTER seeing that "things go well between us" or some such language. Meaning after you fuck her the first time. I said earlier wait until end of trip but in retrospect that is too cheap-sounding. Hand her the check/cash or electronic transfer (zelle, paypal, etc) right there in bed after first sex saying "I do keep my promises" or something of the sort. It's not P4P because she's not earning anything, just being repaid.
>>Agree with the comment on most 21 year olds being flat broke.
They may not have cash on hand but they usually have credit cards. Make her show some trust in you by paying in advance herself then getting repaid by you.
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11-23-2018, 12:53 PM
^^^
I agree with a lot of what you're saying. My take hasn't been completely tailored to what the OP has indicated his situation to be, so that could be leading to part of the disconnect.
I wouldn't go near a gold digger in any situation. It's not worth the headache, and I never feel good about sleeping with girls who mainly like me for my money (I'm not rich, but I am in comparison to some of the girls I hook up with).
I would advise to go through with flying a girl if 1) the guy has the disposable income, 2) the girl has a high level of interest without factoring in the financial component and 3) the girl is broke due to her status as a student (and not broke due to an underlying issue).
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11-23-2018, 02:35 PM
What would you do if:
1.) You tell girl to come to your city
2.) She pays for her ticket, you say you will pay her back
3.) You meet. You try to have sex, she says no (for whatever reason).
Would you still pay her back? Would you answer differently if she was staying with you
I'd still do it and just accept the loss.
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11-23-2018, 03:59 PM
You should be clear about qualifying that you'll repay only "if things work out". This will cause her to think carefully about whether she will have sex or not before she buys the ticket. If she buys it, comes to your apartment, changes her mind and refuses sex, then salvage what you can. Offer to pay half the ticket, pay it entirely, pay extra to get her out of your apartment, whatever. Then read the travel subforum for info about countries where false accusations aren't a big issue. Or at least screen better next time.
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11-23-2018, 09:18 PM
>>imo that's probably the wrong mindset. i think approaching it as a loss is no big deal is better than being a meiser every step of the way.
Have you actually experienced buying a $400 or whatever ticket and then the girl flakes and doesnt show (most likely thing to go wrong). A man can only be shitted on so many times before he breaks down and becomes bitter, ruining his chances with future women. Even buying a girl a drink and then she walks off laughing: if that happens often enough, eventually you'll crack. So you need to prepare in advance so you can't easily be shitted on. Don't put pussy on a pedestal. Don't fall prey to oneitis. Plenty more fish in the ocean, especially to a man who still has some money left.
If you're really Mr Nonchalant about money, who just laughs off the loss of $400, why can't you be Mr Nonchalant about pussy? Set some reasonable boundaries and if the girl can't live within those boundaries, let her go.
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11-26-2018, 05:08 PM
I’d never fly a broad out
I was in Amsterdam/Antwerp at the end of August. Wasn’t gaming, but fancies a cruise with a pal of mine.
We drove from a London to ‘dam then to Antwerp and back home. Long and short of it, we get talking to a couple of chicks in Antwerp (shit city btw) I end up exchanging numbers with the one I didn’t initially fancy. We get talking and she told me she’s thinking of coming to London
Granted ‘dam to London probably cost her <€100 but the point in all of this was that she used it as a opportunity to see me (probably had an intention of coming here anywa, I dunno). Of the 3.5 days she spent here, we linked up 2 and I smashed.
I must add that she’s one of those spontaneous chicks who travel with a +1, or on her lonesome