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Guys who are planning to live the player life till let’s say their mid 30’s . Can you still find mid 20’s attractive girl to marry ?

I am just worried about myself when I hit mid 30’s then try to find younger wife and I can’t . I mean she might say you are too old .
Is 10 years age difference doable here in US?

Pleas remember dating is different than marriage
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#2

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Those girls might be hard to find, but you will probably have a better chance if you find the 'search' function first and go from there.
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#3

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Thanks man
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Heartiste has gone the way of some extreme political punditry, but every now and then he posts an appropriate gem like this one:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2018/04/...-thresher/

TLDR: Every man, especially those proficient in game must make a choice to "settle" down or keep on trucking. Even attractive high value men have an expiry date; if your goal is to eventually settle down, the real challenge is knowing when to stop chasing skirts.

This is particularly difficult for guys who've gone from poozy to poozy easily.
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Quote: (11-12-2018 10:01 PM)Mercia Wrote:  

Heartiste has gone the way of some extreme political punditry, but every now and then he posts an appropriate gem like this one:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2018/04/...-thresher/

TLDR: Every man, especially those proficient in game must make a choice to "settle" down or keep on trucking. Even attractive high value men have an expiry date; if your goal is to eventually settle down, the real challenge is knowing when to stop chasing skirts.

This is particularly difficult for guys who've gone from poozy to poozy easily.

Actually I started a year ago . I am 32 years old now.
I am worried about if i chose to marry , there will no be options.

Honestly guys, I am in the middle of roads . My notch counts are 10. I started really late.
I have everything going for me . I worked for it. I can't complain. I still want to experience more women . What I am afraid of is the following :
- I can't succeed in the game . At the same time, I miss my chance to have good marriage due to the age.
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Quote: (11-12-2018 10:15 PM)Anchor Man Wrote:  

Quote: (11-12-2018 10:01 PM)Mercia Wrote:  

Heartiste has gone the way of some extreme political punditry, but every now and then he posts an appropriate gem like this one:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2018/04/...-thresher/

TLDR: Every man, especially those proficient in game must make a choice to "settle" down or keep on trucking. Even attractive high value men have an expiry date; if your goal is to eventually settle down, the real challenge is knowing when to stop chasing skirts.

This is particularly difficult for guys who've gone from poozy to poozy easily.

Actually I started a year ago . I am 32 years old now.
I am worried about if i chose to marry , there will no be options.

Honestly guys, I am in the middle of roads . My notch counts are 10. I started really late.
I have everything going for me . I worked for it. I can't complain. I still want to experience more women . What I am afraid of is the following :
- I can't succeed in the game . At the same time, I miss my chance to have good marriage due to the age.

At the end of the day all the notch count is going to do for you is feed the ego unless you have a goal other than just numbers. Game in this case however might be your saving grace. If you want to get your numbers up but not miss out on someone you can spend the rest of your life with, sleep around with a secondary motive. Game girls but screen the for wife material. A lot of girls are just going to be boring or you won't connect with them outside of the bedroom, but even if this is the case you will have learned something. Apart from adding to your numbers, screening will teach you what you want and don't want in a girl. It's like Edison and the lightbulb but with pu**y.

10 girls may mean different things to different men but, in my opinion, it's not enough to have an understanding not only of what's out there or what you want( Which is the most important thing at the end of the day).

Often people in your case will find someone that just narrowly qualifies for marriage and settle since they're scared of missing their chance. In reality they should have stayed in the game just a bit longer and with a bit more effort, because what's worse than missing out on the chance to settle is finding out years down the road that you settled too quickly and with the wrong one.

In short, the best way to add notches and find a wife is to meet as many girls as possible, game, but pay attention while doing it.

As for being afraid you won't succeed in the game, that's on you, but from what you've said "I worked for it. I can't complain." you know exactly how to get better, now stop complaining.
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#7

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I spent my 20's in a series of LTRs but I didn't want marriage. My 30's were spent gaming. At 40 was when I started looking to settle down but didn't find the right woman until I was 50. I was able to basically stick to the half-plus-7 rule in terms of dating/smv but for rmv at age 40+ I wasn't finding late-20's marriage material where the relationship attraction was mutual. However, I moved to China at age 45 and that was a game changer.

If you have the smv to be dating attractive, younger women then you can probably attractive, younger ones who are marriage material. However, you have to have your finances in order to attract the higher quality ones. Their finances then becomes an issue if you are looking to bag one fresh out of college. You are putting a lot more in the table than with, say, a 28 year old who has had half a dozen years or so to build a career, pay off debt, save and/or buy some real estate of their own. Of course, then they are probably approaching the wall and have that much more mileage on them.

It depends on what sort of marriage you are looking for as well: traditional, DINKy, OLTR or what have you. Regarding the latter, Black Dragon - who is a successful entrepreneur and business consultant in his mid-40's - has apparently locked down a keeper, presumable close to half his age.
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Quote: (11-12-2018 10:15 PM)Anchor Man Wrote:  

Quote: (11-12-2018 10:01 PM)Mercia Wrote:  

Heartiste has gone the way of some extreme political punditry, but every now and then he posts an appropriate gem like this one:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2018/04/...-thresher/

TLDR: Every man, especially those proficient in game must make a choice to "settle" down or keep on trucking. Even attractive high value men have an expiry date; if your goal is to eventually settle down, the real challenge is knowing when to stop chasing skirts.

This is particularly difficult for guys who've gone from poozy to poozy easily.

Actually I started a year ago . I am 32 years old now.
I am worried about if i chose to marry , there will no be options.

Honestly guys, I am in the middle of roads . My notch counts are 10. I started really late.
I have everything going for me . I worked for it. I can't complain. I still want to experience more women . What I am afraid of is the following :
- I can't succeed in the game . At the same time, I miss my chance to have good marriage due to the age.

Notch count at 10 for 32 years old is very low in this modern age.

Unless you really want a relationship you would be better off spending 6 months going out and getting laid each weekend.
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Yes, I know.But there’s a story behind it . Let’s not side track the convo though .
My question was how often mid 30 can marry mid 20 . She doesn’t have to model though .
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No I don’t . but I keep passing opportunites with girls because I don’t want to settle now . At the same time , I am thinking would I have the same opportunity when I want to settle ?
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Women will marry a man they aren't even attracted to. You'll be fine.
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I will be honest with you guys .
I am very ambitious and president in every area of my life . And I want to be with women too .I never give up .
Why did I start late ? It is a long story .
But I am very sociable, so funny and charismatic. Very likable in my circles . Good career . Outstanding style . Average body and face . I got approached this year by 4 girls 6/10).
But I wasn’t able to leverage all of this to get women . I turned to the game and I am learning and continue to learn .
I have not reached my peak yet .
I am just afraid when I reach the peak , I wouldn’t find any good girls left .
I am determined to continue because I deserve the best
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I don’t think you are in an appropriate state of mind. ‘I deserve the best’ lol, you talk like an entitled instagram slut. Nobody deserves anything my boy, except what they have actually achieved.
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not really. sure it gets harder but if you believe in yourself you can get whatever you want in life. remember money is power. focus on your career and dont let yourself become an old fat cunt and you will be fine.

i mean i know many people who married when they were average joes and married average looking girls.., then their business were very successful... or they got a promotion at work , they became rich. Left their wife that they no longer were attracted to in their 40's and found themself a new beautiful young girlfriend...

you have to believe in yourself... if you dont believe in yourself then yes settle down before its to late lol . but for me, i have big plans these next 10 years . i dont know how i will end up 40 -50 years old alone if i make more money than 99% of the people in the city. (whatever 3rd world country i will be living in). plenty of young beautiful girls slaving themselves at work to make like $5 usd a day who would love to be rescued by me so they never have to work again . so no im not worried that i will end up alone.. but again im done with america so it may be easier for me to say this..
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Thanks ,
But if you read the words before it I wrote “ I am determined to continue because I deserve the best “
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#16

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Why do you want to marry?

What makes you think marriage is a good idea?

Only three ways to do something: "The right way. The wrong way. Or my way. Obviously my way is best."
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#17

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I still believe in marriage and kids .
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The short answer to your question is it's never too late, so in your mid 30s ideally yes you can meet and marry someone in their mid 20s. There are a number of factors that will play into this of course. I am also in my mid 30s, and spent most of my mid to late 20s in LTR's, one of which I thought would lead to marriage (I am happy it didn't looking back). If I had gamed all through my 20s, I would likely have settled down and be thinking about marriage now. There will always be women 25-28 looking for an older, successful man who can provide financial security and offer them the wife life they grew up aspiring for. 8 out of 10 women are programmed to want that. The other 2 are gay or too career minded to get out of their own way.
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Money money money money.

[Image: laugh3.gif]

Go play football with your 15 year old son when you're 65 years old.

Go play basketball with his little brother when he's 15 years old and you're 70.

That tripe is no different than the delusional cock carousel mentality that women ascribe to. Sure, maybe you can still pump out some viable sperm but you will be an embarrassment to your children. Imagine having a childhood where you had to explain to every kid you'd ever met "no, that's not my grandpa..."

Every woman your wife ever met gets to snicker behind her back about what it's like to be fucked by a guy who's dick looks like a shar pei with mange.

Men get to marry younger specimens, but some of this nonsense goes beyond stupid into clown territory. Money does not buy loyalty and nobody on this forum is going to earn enough to buy the kind of power that demands respect either. If you're not willing to put yourself in a position where the kids start arriving by 35 then don't delude yourself. Unless you have Trump-level genetics you're just running the hamster.

The public will judge a man by what he lifts, but those close to him will judge him by what he carries.
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Quote: (11-13-2018 04:12 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Money money money money.

[Image: laugh3.gif]

Go play football with your 15 year old son when you're 65 years old.

Go play basketball with his little brother when he's 15 years old and you're 70.

That tripe is no different than the delusional cock carousel mentality that women ascribe to. Sure, maybe you can still pump out some viable sperm but you will be an embarrassment to your children. Imagine having a childhood where you had to explain to every kid you'd ever met "no, that's not my grandpa..."

Every woman your wife ever met gets to snicker behind her back about what it's like to be fucked by a guy who's dick looks like a shar pei with mange.

Men get to marry younger specimens, but some of this nonsense goes beyond stupid into clown territory. Money does not buy loyalty and nobody on this forum is going to earn enough to buy the kind of power that demands respect either. If you're not willing to put yourself in a position where the kids start arriving by 35 then don't delude yourself. Unless you have Trump-level genetics you're just running the hamster.

What do you mean ? Do you mean having kids by 35 yo ? or settling down by 35 yo?
I agree with the money part.
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If you're 35 years old or older and you don't have genetics that allow you to age phenomenally well then you are getting too old to have kids in your life.

Let's say you get a woman pregnant when you're 34.25 and she gives birth to your first child when you turn 35. Let's further assume that you go for the typical 3 children with a civilized spacing of two years between each.

In five years time you will have a five year old child, a toddler and a newborn. You will be 40, and if you think your (modern) wife will be capable of raising them herself while you alternately work and sit around the house you are mistaken. Early child raising years are considerably more difficult that any paid work I've ever done, and it's all hands on deck 24 hours a day until the children are at least 5+. Remember, you will be 40 by then, and most 40 year olds will tell you that shit begins going downhill fast, particularly when you're working full time and on 4 hours sleep a day due to baby shit.

Five more years pass. You have a ten year old, and eight year old and a six year old. You for those last five years your free time has been spent alternately as a pack horse on family outings, playing one sport with one kid and another sport with his younger brother, throwing the youngest one in the air and catching him, and generally being used as human play equipment. You are 45 by the end of this cycle, and not the 45 you think you're on track to be, because this shit ages you quickly. By now you've put your back out several times because junior 1, 2, 3, or all 3 jumped on you when you were picking up the groceries or some other crap. If you're lucky, though, in the last two years you've managed to get them all to sleep through the night without disruptions.

Five more years pass. You are now 50. You oldest son (God willing) is now into contact sports and you will be expected to be a tackle dummy or a punching bag. Your second child is 13 and going through a laundry list of new hobbies, all of which you are expected to give aid and attention to. Your youngest is 11 and still very active. He/she will require a lot of attention in order not to develop runt syndrome. Did I mention you're fucking 50 at this point? And again, not the imaginary 50 you think you're on track to become, which itself if probably wildly unrealistic.

By the time your possible 3rd son is into those contact sports you will be heading toward 55, old man. By that stage your oldest son will be out of the house and your middle child will be starting to give you those looks as if to say "I know you pay the bills, but are you really the alpha of the household now?"

God forbid your kids follow in your footsteps, you might get to know what it is to be a grandfather just before you get dementia and forget who the fuck they all are.

Women don't get to cheat father time or mother nature, and neither do men. There are rare exceptions. You are not one of them.

Aside, I really see now why the chances of conceiving a female rise with the age of the father. Reasons for everything.

Prefacing your life plans on being that one guy in a hundred that ages like Hercules is like a bitch that prefaces her carousel habit on being the one girl out of a hundred that falls ass backwards into marriage with a witless and wealthy man.

The public will judge a man by what he lifts, but those close to him will judge him by what he carries.
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These days that's not so uncommon to get a kid at the age of 35... I agree with your train of thoughts though... All the more reasons to stay healthy and fit!
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Some sobering posts by Leonard D Neubache...

My dad has always been an active endurance athlete, and had me when he was 26 & my brother at 29.

He is just now getting out of the late stages of his physical prime at age 47 while my brother is graduating high school. He had kids around the arc in a mans life when he is settled into who he is and in his physical prime (given he continued to exercise and take care of himself). Compared to my other friends who had parents in their 50s, my dad was able to run triathlons and outpace all of us in whatever we were doing as kids to raise us to be competitive and strong.

I would prefer to have a kid in the late stages of my physical prime, around 29-33. When they're 13 and active in learning I'll be just turning 40, still in as good of physical shape as I can control.

Trying to hit the brakes at 32 and gaming with the intention of having kids eventually doesn't make any sense to me...

To truly get good at game, your time has passed. You can improve, but you're not going to live some player life style without paying the price on not being able to have kids the way you should, if that's what you really want.
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Quote: (11-13-2018 04:12 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Money money money money.

[Image: laugh3.gif]

Go play football with your 15 year old son when you're 65 years old.

Go play basketball with his little brother when he's 15 years old and you're 70.

That tripe is no different than the delusional cock carousel mentality that women ascribe to. Sure, maybe you can still pump out some viable sperm but you will be an embarrassment to your children. Imagine having a childhood where you had to explain to every kid you'd ever met "no, that's not my grandpa..."

Every woman your wife ever met gets to snicker behind her back about what it's like to be fucked by a guy who's dick looks like a shar pei with mange.

Men get to marry younger specimens, but some of this nonsense goes beyond stupid into clown territory. Money does not buy loyalty and nobody on this forum is going to earn enough to buy the kind of power that demands respect either. If you're not willing to put yourself in a position where the kids start arriving by 35 then don't delude yourself. Unless you have Trump-level genetics you're just running the hamster.

Have you seen the majority of the fathers to high school aged children my friend? 99% of them look like shit. A child's classmates making fun of him for having and older dad will likely never be an issue if the grandpa aged dad has a smaller waist and better skin than the fathers of his peers.
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Im married, damn near 40 with a 4 year old. At the daycare my child goes to 95% parents are of similar age with the exception of 2 or 3 really young (27-30) couples.
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