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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

This Forum and its members have helped me enormously over the years, ever since I stumbled upon them by accident years ago.

Today, much more experienced, I also want to make a contribution for new guys who are in the same predicament we have all found ourselves in at some point.

There are many threads on this topic already - so many that one can lose track. When you have a problem, you go to the Forum, you open up 6 tabs in your browser, frantically looking for solutions, but memorising far less than you would have if it were a single block of text or a single thread.

The "problem", a curse within a blessing of this Forum, is the enormous vastness of data. Often times, I copy-paste comments, posts, entire threads to my mobilephone's secure notebook, just in order to re-read it easily.

Furthermore, as regarding the ancient policy of ever reforming - this post hopes to bring new, combined wisdom of many inspirational men whose thoughts I absorbed on this topic, as well as some of my own comments and personal experience.

My style of writing is usually a combination of theory and practice. However, when a man is in a situation like this, I have found that general theoretical phrases, feel-good maxims without detailed instructions what exactly to do, like "3.5 billion women in the world", "just be a man", "go fuck another bitch" don't work as well as a detailed, step-by-step guide with the do's and don'ts.
Yeah, your buddy might say "oh, just fuck another bitch", but you still have emotional baggage, second thoughts, fears and doubts. You're an intelligent man, you have a brain, you can't simply forget a year of happiness by JUST banging some slut. You need a detailed datasheet on how to behave, what to do, you need prospects of curing yourself and encouragement.

That is the reason why this is going to be direct, plain and honest.
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So you broke up with a girl you loved very much, and you're depressed. You obsess on the whats and hows, on the could've beens and should've beens of your failed relationship.

You strategize glorious plans of winning her back by driving to her porch in a limo, in a tuxedo, complete with flowers, a chocolate, a giant teddy bear, and a trumpet band.

Then the man in you wakes up. He urges you to move on. To have dignity and self-respect. To find other women.

But you're not strong enough. Instead, you start self pitying yourself, thinking how sad and lonely you are, while she is happy and already riding some other guy's cock - OH FUCK, YOU'RE GONNA KILL HIM, murder him, and THEN you're gonna come to her porch with his head...

Stop it. Don't.

Instead, follow these simple steps and I guarantee you'll not only be fixed, but come out of it as the best version of yourself ever.

THE P.I.M.P. 4-STEP GUIDE TO CURING ONEITIS
In Four Easy Steps
By BlackHussar

1st de-Pedestalize the pussy

2nd de-Idiotize yourself

3rd re-Masculinize yourself

4th Playerize yourself


1) de-Pedestalize the Pussy

Human beings are emotional. When you deeply care about a woman, you tend to idolize her, and fail to see her weaknesses. Thus, you have created a picture of her in your mind. A flawless picture of your beautiful little angel. Well, buddy, we'll have to burn that picture now. And I mean right now.

"You don't understand, we've loved each other SO MUCH, it was different..." - Nope, I do understand. You'd be surprised how often love occurs within the 7-something billion human population of Earth.

She's actually not that unique.

1.2)
"But the sex was so good, the passion, the emotions, I won't find such a girl ever again" - if this is your problem, you're blessed. Why? Because sex is so simple, easy and basic. You WILL find a girl with whom you'll have better sex. For starters, even if you fuck a girl and the sex is worse, trust me, you'll start forgetting. It's easiest to move on if you're missing her physically.

Another reason you're blessed is this: you will realise that about the ONLY positive thing about that relationship was the sex. Been there. I concluded that I wasn't missing Her, she was dumb, slutty, disobedient. Definitely not GF material. I was just missing her pussy. And that's so easy to substitute.

1.3)

Embrace the abundance mentality. This means that you will never be bothered by a breakup, as you will already have 3 new girls in your scope.

Of course, as a wise poster said, "abundance mentality is nothing without abundance reality - it creates cognitive dissonance."
It's not enough just SAYING that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Be proactive. Get out of your fucking house. Hit up chicks. Get those numbers. Approach cold. Daygame, nightgame, clubs, social circle. Seduce them, kiss them, fuck them. You need to DO, like a man should.

2) de-Idiotize Yourself

You need to stop being an idiot, plain and simple. God knows I needed a lot of time and energy to stop being one. It's not easy, but you will stop being retarded.

"But I don't want other girls, I want her" - no, you don't want her. You just got used to the routine, the routine was decent, and now it has ended. Big deal. Don't be a cunt. Move on. You want a hot girl to fuck. Go find one. Then another one.

"If I just make the right moves, I might win her back" - no, you can't. She is already fucking some other guy.

Yes, she is. Accept it. She is already fucking other guys, while you're sitting in your house, wallowing in self pity like a fucking cunt. Stop it. Get the fuck over her. Refer to step 1).
Don't call her friends, don't call her parents, don't, by God and all saints, send your buddies as envoys to give her messages of your unrequited love. Stop being pathetic. Everybody will laugh at you, your friends included, and she will just show your messages to her new BF while they're laying in bed and say "what a pussy".

2.2)
You are NOT getting back together with her, EVER.
If she dumped you, she's a scumbag and she doesn't deserve you. You're a man with self-respect and dignity. Keep your fucking chin high, buddy, and keep marching forward.
If you dumped her, there's a pretty good fucking reason why you did so.

NO CONTACT
NO COMING BACK
NO RECONCILIATION

3) re-Masculinize Yourself

We all sometimes develop some beta features in an LTR. A beer belly due to complacency. Cessation of gym activities. A habit of jumping to your GF's every whim.

Unless you're an experienced player, your game also atrophies.
You stop chatting up the waitress, the lemon seller, the promotional hostess at the mall. You don't game your girl WHILE you're with her. You stop being alpha.

Well, my friend, time to re-establish yourself as a man. Due to the limit of this post, I'll post only basic guidelines:

- hit the gym ASAP.
- go out with your buddies more often
- approach chicks like crazy, even the fat ones, even the ugly ones, not to game them but to regain smoothness, conversational fluidity, confidence. Just talk to people.
- you had a hobby you suppressed due to your LTR, didn't ya? Oh, I know you did. Get back to it right now. Hang out with other people who participate in it.
- restart that pipeline. Call everyone, anyone. Hang out with old friends from highschool, guys from the army, soccer practice, basketball, gym, box, chess school, fucking squash. Call up those old acquaintances, especially girls. Mixed sex groups. Everyone. Go out with all of them.
- read this Forum, books and other manly literature. Absorb, absorb, absorb knowledge, experience, advice. Other people have been through identical situations. It's easier to endure.
- talk with guys on the Forum.
- be fucking selfish. Yes, be. Put yourself first in your life. Keep it that way.

You'll be feeling better in no time.

4) Playerize Yourself

Now that you've gotten yourself in shape, mentally and physically, the world is yours for the taking.

Be a playboy. Go out. Drink. Have fun. Know a thousand people. Sleep with women.

Always return to this forum, share your insight and experience.

And remember - game is a lifelong process of ever perfecting yourself. At no point before you're 50 should you be satisfied with yourself and your accomplishments. Keep pushing yourself ever upwards.

If you're not gonna do it, someone else will - do you want to be the king, or a worm looking with envy at accomplishments of other men?

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There ya go, my P.I.M.P. guide. Thank you for the attention, and I hope you're feeling better. Please, feel free to share any comments or insight.

Regards, BlackHussar
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Great guide BH

Quote: (04-21-2014 04:47 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  
On the cool, she probably had at least one too many tortiillas, but the tetas was mas gorda, comprenede?
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Quote: (09-03-2018 12:12 PM)BlackHussar Wrote:  

This Forum and its members have helped me enormously over the years, ever since I stumbled upon them by accident years ago.

Today, much more experienced, I also want to make a contribution for new guys who are in the same predicament we have all found ourselves in at some point.

...

So you broke up with a girl you loved very much, and you're depressed. You obsess on the whats and hows, on the could've beens and should've beens of your failed relationship.

You strategize glorious plans of winning her back by driving to her porch in a limo, in a tuxedo, complete with flowers, a chocolate, a giant teddy bear, and a trumpet band.

Then the man in you wakes up. He urges you to move on. To have dignity and self-respect. To find other women.

But you're not strong enough. Instead, you start self pitying yourself, thinking how sad and lonely you are, while she is happy and already riding some other guy's cock - OH FUCK, YOU'RE GONNA KILL HIM, murder him, and THEN you're gonna come to her porch with his head...

Stop it. Don't.

Instead, follow these simple steps and I guarantee you'll not only be fixed, but come out of it as the best version of yourself ever.

THE P.I.M.P. 4-STEP GUIDE TO CURING ONEITIS
In Four Easy Steps
By BlackHussar

1st de-Pedestalize the pussy

2nd de-Idiotize yourself

3rd re-Masculinize yourself

4th Playerize yourself


...

And remember - game is a lifelong process of ever perfecting yourself. At no point before you're 50 should you be satisfied with yourself and your accomplishments. Keep pushing yourself ever upwards.

If you're not gonna do it, someone else will - do you want to be the king, or a worm looking with envy at accomplishments of other men?

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There ya go, my P.I.M.P. guide. Thank you for the attention, and I hope you're feeling better. Please, feel free to share any comments or insight.

Regards, BlackHussar

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I like it when members keep revising the game concepts, proving that the game never changes. This is a good read for all newbies who are lurking.

A sports analogy that would best describe the current state of game is like initially using actions/techniques from a list of set plays (beginner/newbie) then, when one has enough experience, moves on to a simple read & react system, aiming to reach new heights (veteran).

When a thot tries baiting me with fake love, this is my response:


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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Yeah great guide
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Can't wait for my best friend to break up with his thot GF so I can forward him this thread and hopefully prevent him from submitting to the whims of psychotic harlots in the future. Great guide, a bit long, but still precise and understandable.
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Quote: (09-03-2018 12:12 PM)BlackHussar Wrote:  

And remember - game is a lifelong process of ever perfecting yourself. At no point before you're 50 should you be satisfied with yourself and your accomplishments. Keep pushing yourself ever upwards.

Quoting because needs to be emphasized! Great post BTW.
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The PIMP guide to curing oneitis

Another, easier way is to go to Phuket for three weeks.

Its hard to miss a woman when hundreds are chasing you.
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