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08-17-2018, 12:00 AM
There's much said in seduction communities about the importance of frame.
No doubt, frame is very important in showing women that you're in control of your own life and (to some extent) environment.
But how do we balance this out with agreeableness?
Some PUAs talk about how important it is to be warm and friendly so as to give the woman a feeling that you are attainable.
How to encapsulate both at once? Or is it a case of trying to guess what kind of woman she is, and calibrating the amount of frame control vs agreement that you give her?
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08-17-2018, 02:14 AM
Thanks man. I do share my viewpoint but it seems my natural 'laid backness' is a repellent to some chicks, especially high SMV ones.
Some girls assume a guy who is not actively a dick is thus beta, that there is no middle ground between the two.
I might need to calibrate better? Since when I talk to women I don't even really do a lot of game or routines. And I talk to say HB9 the same way as I would talk to HB7.
What do you do with the hotter ones? Do you act the same or try to be a douche as she would expect from a high SMV male?
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08-17-2018, 06:51 AM
Can you newbies search the forum first and post in existing threads on the subject?
Are you guys retarded?
These just make you look like attention seekers from day one.
I wish we could retitle all these newb threads "Look at me, I'm here."
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08-17-2018, 08:56 AM
I did actually. But there was nothing relating to this particular subject, i.e. how to balance frame with attainability.
I can assure you 100% that I'm not seeking attention.
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08-17-2018, 06:04 PM
Thanks, but I searched "frame attainability" and "frame comfort", none of the threads gave anything insightful.. because they are written about frame in general.
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08-17-2018, 11:53 PM
I checked the threads, and none were specifically discussing the balance between frame and attainability/comfort.
I do understand of course. There was never an intention to frustrate yourself or any other members of the forum. But if it's the case then I would extend an apology. As a newbie I'll be happy to admit I'm wrong if anyone can produce evidence that this topic has already been discussed in the past.
If not, then I would like to start a discussion around calibrating frames as (at least in my experience) controlling the frame is not a 'one size fits all' situation.
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08-18-2018, 04:45 AM
Dude. The discussion is absolutely fine. No one is restricting you. Just suggesting you should have done it in an existing thread regarding frame instead of starting a new thread.
My point is around forum etiquette rather than your specific discussion.
The reason I keep coming back after explaining this 3 times now is that this is happening frequently. When I want to research a subject, the information is scattered around 5 to 10 threads. About 8 of those are started by newbies who think they're discussing something brand new.
Stay a while, read what's there already, post in THOSE threads if the "subject" is there, not necessarily the specifnc topic in the subject. Perfectly fine to start your own personal self-improvement thread. Meet other members etc. before starting an entire new thread in the Game section of all places.
I guess another option is to stay in the Newbie section as many newbies start threads to ask about a specific situation. I would rather newbies all ask these in some type of newbie lounge but people don't seem to mind the current practice.
Are we on the same page now? Otherwise we may have to retitle this into a thread starting etiquette thread.
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08-22-2018, 10:25 AM
Well done.
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08-22-2018, 01:51 PM
Can anyone tell me how to seduce a lady
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08-22-2018, 05:29 PM
There is always a push-pull in that regard. We have to know when to be stern, and then when to acquiesce. Women do not want a beta male; by the same token, they don't want a piece of stone either. So it takes a shrewd individual to know when (and how) to switch between the two pillars.
I think it's always best to start off with a strong frame. Then as the evening progresses, you can loosen up at times; in particular, during social scenarios that call for a more gregarious persona. It's easier to establish a baseline first: i.e. the hard-ass that will spank their ass and put them in line if need be. This sets the foundation for the house they are looking for.
"Action still preserves for us a hope that we may stand erect." - Thucydides (from History of the Peloponnesian War)
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08-22-2018, 05:38 PM
Thanks, that seems like good advice.
I guess you need to pick up on subtle cues from the girl, to see what she wants.
My problem with calibration is not in changing my behaviour per se, but I was never raised to be sensitive to others. So her anger might be building but I wouldn't notice until too late.
Seems there's some work to do.
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08-22-2018, 06:31 PM
Sounds good. 5 mins of alpha equals 5 years of beta, isn't that what they say?