Technique: Accept that you're not feeling like you wish you were and go out anyway.
I tried substances (plethora of them here:
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Psyching myself up in front of the mirror
Imaginary conversations in my head in which I think about how great it's gonna turn out
"Get psyched" style playlists and blasting them in the house before going out
Fine tuning every single detail of my appearance
Bringing some friends in and doing combinations of these in groups
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None of them worked. Here's what gets me in the zone:
Step 1: Create the Zone First
Accept that you're feeling high strung and anxious and not really in a social mindset.
Accepted? Good now close your eyes, imagine a box, cram all that shit into said box.
Push the imaginary box off an imaginary cliff.
Open your eyes.
Now you're just you. You have a plan to go out tonight on a date, or club, bar whatever,
The anxiety may slowly try to creep in. Again jam that shit in a box and off the cliff.
You're you now. A man with a plan. That's all you have
Anxiety creeping in "how's the line gonna be?" "am I even getting in?" "what's my date gonna be like" "RATIOOOS??"
You know it now, put in the box push off the cliff.
Shit comes up? Put it in a box, dump it.
Inadequacy? Goes in the box.
Everything that's been bothering you about this outing goes in a box and gets promptly pushed off a cliff.
People call this "meditation" I call this "BITCH GET IN THE BOX".
Don't keep it in just your mind. Close your eyes. Visualize a box. Imagine everything that's bothering you. Put them in the box. Visualize a cliff (eyes closed) and that box .. push it right off that cliff.
Open your eyes.
Now you're just a man with a plan.
Step 2: Get out the door
If you did step 1 correctly, anything that's been bothering you is still left at the bottom of that cliff in step 1.
And you made it to step 2 a free man. The nightlife is your oyster now.
Step 3:
Go out and socialize. Talk to people. Can be literally anyone. Embrace their social energy into your own to create your flows or further restrain your anxiety, up to you
Since you dumped most of your restraints back in step 1 you should be close to the best version of yourself now.
Some boxes and their contents may slowly start to come back towards you. If this happens you ignore them, until they're right there inside you.
And then you accept. Accept it but don't fall victim to it. Acknowledge its presence and continue being a free man. Continue building.
Step 4:
Keep building the zone you created in step 1, accept what's already there except you feel like you have the power to replace it with something else.
Keep building until your creation flow looks or surpasses the flow in your mind.
Step 5:
Enjoy your new personality.. for now. Your work is never over.