Maybe it’s because I’m getting older. Maybe it’s because I’ve dealt with many sub par people over the last decade of my life. Maybe it’s because I realize that I’m going to die one day; that anything but the deepest of experience is a waste of time.
Whatever it is, over the last little while, I have been looking to get to the depths of interaction that I don’t think I have ever wanted to consider possible. I am seeking to touch the soul, and be touched in return.
I feel that if we are not delving to the depths of human experience, than what is really the point of having a relationship? I understand that we start surface level, seek out similarities, and then go from there. But, something I’ve realized about failed relationships is that things stayed there, and didn’t progress to the depth that really matters when knowing a person. We could talk about the weather, but we couldn’t talk about the vastness of the universe. We could touch, but not really feel.
I say this for both romantic/intimate relationships, and with friends. At some point, if the people don’t feel their souls intwined, then the relationship cannot progress, and likely will dissolve.
I used to believe that the conversation should remain quite surface level. Nobody should know what makes me tick. I used to think that women specifically couldn’t touch deep topics. And, it remained shallow. Depth was out of reach with all but my closest friends and family, and maybe one or two women in the past.
What I’ve started to feel recently is an unbelievable open mindedness, and a desire to seek depth in all my interactions. I have seen that a person’s viewpoints and beliefs are shaped by personal experience. And, I want to talk about them, and feel what they’ve felt. The people that I can successfully do this with I can get to know in a shorter time than you would believe. They will talk about their past loves. Their failures. Their successes. Their dreams. What drives them. What makes them feel. What challenges they are living with, and what they have overcome.
We’ll talk about the meaning of life. We’ll see where eachother is coming from, and where they are going. I’ll begin to understand why someone is the way they are. I’ll see how a person feels about some of the most out of bounds topics: sex, religion, love, death, I feel nothing should be left untouched.
On one date recently, I felt like I was physically vibrating with this energy, and I could see in her eyes she was feeling the same thing.
Perhaps it’s a way to filter out the dumb people. If a person is closed minded, then there is nothing for me. If all someone can talk about is how often they get drunk, I don’t want any part of it. If they don’t wonder about anything, there’s no way that I could ever talk to them about anything.
I’ve started to cut off dates and meetings if there is none of this intimacy. I don’t see any point in going further if the person doesn’t want to expand their mind, and learn about everything. If the person doesn’t travel and seek out new experiences, or at least want to, I grab the cheque. And, if the person has never really lived, what is there to share?
My time is better spent reading a book, making money, or meeting new people, than blabbering on about what we do on weekends, how much of an idiot your friend is, and why you should’ve got that promotion at work instead of Suzie. Christ.
And, it’s worked out pretty well so far. The people that I’ve always had a connection with were adventurers, seekers of knowledge, self-improvers, and driven to learn everything about everything. People who are actually living. I’ve realized my friends are all like this. The girls that actually hook are like this. The people that matter to me, that make me better as a man are like this.
It’s an overwhelmingly powerful feeling. I’ve met people on a three hour flight that have become close friends. It’s helped me deal with clients, and help them in the best way I could. The women that I meet are women that I actually want to be around, instead of club rats with no sense of humanity. I have more energy now than ever before, I don’t interact with people unless they have the same desire to live.
You can sense a person’s insecurities, their shortcomings, and what makes them tick. And, you can see where they are better than you, why they are the way they are, and what led your paths to cross on this fateful day.
If you aren’t seeking depth in everything you do, and in every person you meet you are wasting your time. I have wasted so much time, dealt with so many people that weren’t on my level, that it would lead me to drink. But, it’s made me the man I am today, and isn’t that what it’s all about?
Have you guys felt this way? Do you leave interactions if they aren’t transcending the superficial and moving into the Devine? When did this change happen for you, or have you always felt this way? It’s been fairly recent for me, I would say the last 6 months have led me to a different type of thinking, to be more open minded, and to look for connection above all else. I would be interested to hear your stories about your deepest connections, and how it makes a difference in you relationships and overall life.
Whatever it is, over the last little while, I have been looking to get to the depths of interaction that I don’t think I have ever wanted to consider possible. I am seeking to touch the soul, and be touched in return.
I feel that if we are not delving to the depths of human experience, than what is really the point of having a relationship? I understand that we start surface level, seek out similarities, and then go from there. But, something I’ve realized about failed relationships is that things stayed there, and didn’t progress to the depth that really matters when knowing a person. We could talk about the weather, but we couldn’t talk about the vastness of the universe. We could touch, but not really feel.
I say this for both romantic/intimate relationships, and with friends. At some point, if the people don’t feel their souls intwined, then the relationship cannot progress, and likely will dissolve.
I used to believe that the conversation should remain quite surface level. Nobody should know what makes me tick. I used to think that women specifically couldn’t touch deep topics. And, it remained shallow. Depth was out of reach with all but my closest friends and family, and maybe one or two women in the past.
What I’ve started to feel recently is an unbelievable open mindedness, and a desire to seek depth in all my interactions. I have seen that a person’s viewpoints and beliefs are shaped by personal experience. And, I want to talk about them, and feel what they’ve felt. The people that I can successfully do this with I can get to know in a shorter time than you would believe. They will talk about their past loves. Their failures. Their successes. Their dreams. What drives them. What makes them feel. What challenges they are living with, and what they have overcome.
We’ll talk about the meaning of life. We’ll see where eachother is coming from, and where they are going. I’ll begin to understand why someone is the way they are. I’ll see how a person feels about some of the most out of bounds topics: sex, religion, love, death, I feel nothing should be left untouched.
On one date recently, I felt like I was physically vibrating with this energy, and I could see in her eyes she was feeling the same thing.
Perhaps it’s a way to filter out the dumb people. If a person is closed minded, then there is nothing for me. If all someone can talk about is how often they get drunk, I don’t want any part of it. If they don’t wonder about anything, there’s no way that I could ever talk to them about anything.
I’ve started to cut off dates and meetings if there is none of this intimacy. I don’t see any point in going further if the person doesn’t want to expand their mind, and learn about everything. If the person doesn’t travel and seek out new experiences, or at least want to, I grab the cheque. And, if the person has never really lived, what is there to share?
My time is better spent reading a book, making money, or meeting new people, than blabbering on about what we do on weekends, how much of an idiot your friend is, and why you should’ve got that promotion at work instead of Suzie. Christ.
And, it’s worked out pretty well so far. The people that I’ve always had a connection with were adventurers, seekers of knowledge, self-improvers, and driven to learn everything about everything. People who are actually living. I’ve realized my friends are all like this. The girls that actually hook are like this. The people that matter to me, that make me better as a man are like this.
It’s an overwhelmingly powerful feeling. I’ve met people on a three hour flight that have become close friends. It’s helped me deal with clients, and help them in the best way I could. The women that I meet are women that I actually want to be around, instead of club rats with no sense of humanity. I have more energy now than ever before, I don’t interact with people unless they have the same desire to live.
You can sense a person’s insecurities, their shortcomings, and what makes them tick. And, you can see where they are better than you, why they are the way they are, and what led your paths to cross on this fateful day.
If you aren’t seeking depth in everything you do, and in every person you meet you are wasting your time. I have wasted so much time, dealt with so many people that weren’t on my level, that it would lead me to drink. But, it’s made me the man I am today, and isn’t that what it’s all about?
Have you guys felt this way? Do you leave interactions if they aren’t transcending the superficial and moving into the Devine? When did this change happen for you, or have you always felt this way? It’s been fairly recent for me, I would say the last 6 months have led me to a different type of thinking, to be more open minded, and to look for connection above all else. I would be interested to hear your stories about your deepest connections, and how it makes a difference in you relationships and overall life.
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