[EvanWilson]

(07-11-2018 11:25 AM)debeguiled Wrote:  

(07-10-2018 06:21 PM)yankeetravels Wrote:  

If anyone noticed, the author of that Vice article was an Indonesian woman.

Didn't know she was Asian. That changes things up.

She is the worst of both worlds, Asian and educated in the Pacific Northwest (University of Washington).

She is okay looking, meaning she is worried that the yellow fever men will reject her for her prettier friends.



This whole article is merely her attempt to make herself feel better by rejecting men before they reject her.

I remember watching a documentary a while back called "Seeking Asian Female" that pretended to be about this phenomenon but was really about an abrasive 4th generation Chinese American documentary director who was not so attractive trying to ruin a relationship between a white American dude in his sixties and his much younger Chinese wife.




The guy was just a naive, upbeat Asian loving dude who found an Asian wife, but she portrayed him as stupid, creepy, superficial. All her question were loaded, and she did everything she could to make him look bad. She also tried to ruin their relationship by speaking in Chinese to the bride and sowing all sorts of seeds of discontent.

If you ever want to understand the lengths to which a woman will go to assuage her own feelings of inadequacy, this movie is for you.

Of course she portrayed it differently. From her Kickstarter:

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What started out as my own personal quest to figure out why it bothered me so much that certain Western men have “yellow fever” (i.e., a romantic fixation, obsession or fetish for Asian women), grew into a much bigger exploration into marriage, immigration, language and communication, Sino-American relations, subjectivity versus objectivity in documentary filmmaking -- and the really big one: love.

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/dlu...ian-female

It was a hatchet job, pure and simple. I think if you dig a bit, you can find his responses out there to the movie, about how he and his wife were happy, and how the filmmaker misrepresented everything, even going so far as to ask him to pose and act in specific ways and then using them as evidence of how dumb he was.



The dude had a lot to say about the whole experience.

http://www.pbs.org/independentlens/blog/...ip-advice/

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By the end of May 2009 we came to the USA, and on August 22 we got married. So as a couple we’ve been together six years, and as a married couple it will be four years in August.

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I volunteered for this film (without pay) for the sake of Art. I gave it all the open honesty I could. So it was with some surprise that I found the emphasis on creepiness.

The past year of the movie making its film festival circuit I’ve been reading comments and reviews from everywhere. Some reviews have been kind and generous. Some reviews have been ridiculously wrong. Almost all that have had their own preconceived opinions about me and my intentions and motivations but have never even talked to me nor asked me a question.

Sandy wound up not liking it much at all because it revealed too many personal things about herself. She’s actually quite shy and very private. I had told her it was going to be a movie on TV but that really doesn’t sink in when one woman shows up with one camera to talk. So she felt very exposed. Overexposed. Often in the movie she would be venting off steam about a problem or situation the way people do and say things off the top of their heads. It comes across as her desires verbatim or her secret plan. She felt disturbed about that.

He even takes time to fend off haters in the comments. I recall him responding more forthrightly in comments to a review, but can't find it now. Might have been deleted from the internet and wouldn't be surprised.

Point is still the same. The real reason women do things is never the reason they give. And a woman will happily make herself feel better by destroying the reputation of any man, or as many men as it takes. To make her feel better. For her, it is worth it, whatever sacrifices others have to make to achieve this goal.

It is always personal with these broads. They might create a whole career based on getting back at some dude in high school who has forgotten all about them.

I liked this Steven guy. He was goofy and fun and excited about having an Asian wife, so he found one and he is happy with her. Some Asian harridan who hated her life tried to ruin his to make herself feel better.

It didn't work.

I had some thoughts after reading this:

1: Was/Is the film maker married? I bet not.

2: The couple in the film have been married for six years. I seem to recall that something like 50% (maybe more?) of the marriages in the US end by the fifth year but this couple is still together.

3: The guy is 60 now. I bet in ten years, when he is seventy, he and his wife will still be together and on their 16th year of marriage while the film maker will be single; either divorced if she happens to be married or still single with little to no prospect of ever being married.