[jose123]

So, some backstory. I’ve been fucking this girl for the past year. She has ghosted me twice because I don’t put in effort. Effort to her is taking her out and doing cute shit. She always comes back because i don’t chase after her.

So, last week I hit her up to fuck and she basically says “I’ve been a bad boy and I need take her out”. I didn’t want to play along so I just said “lol”. She calls me and text me up today and says “are you busy rn?” I don’t respond and she later texts “I’m leaving California for a while tonight, can you come over at 10 pm, it’s important” I feel like she wants me to come over and have sex but also just wants to have “the talk” like she found someone else or to stop seeing me so she can have closure. For this reason, I don’t want to go, I rather just not give her closure so she can come back later on. Am i overthinking this or am I right. What should I do?

[PainPositive]

Hey Jose,

Some guys might give you an alpha/beta speech but honestly for me it would depend on my mood, how many other options I had, and how hot she was, and how bad I wanted to fuck her.

That being said, I think the "right" thing to do game wise would be to text back "If it's so important you can come here." I would not go to her. Going to her shows you care and you should at least try and act like you don't even though you obviously do. (I know because you wrote this post.)

Do not give her "closure".

If you think she's going to come over and annoy you with some conversation she forces on you so she can feel "closure" don't bother.

If you really want to fuck her badly offer for her to come over. If not then next.

Whatever you do don't go there and endure an hour of her talking about closure-type nonsense just to have her kick you out without getting any pussy. That shit is pathetic.

Don't jump through her hoops. Let her come over, bang, let her have her talk and say "I'm so glad you said that because I've been feeling the same way." Smile then say you have to get up for work early and politely show her the door.

You're in control now by acting like you don't care.

Keep it that way.

Good luck.

[Supreme4ever]

No you seem to be listening to your gut which is more on point than not. No closure can keep the cycle continuing between you two that she may want to break or it could be an attention grab to start her emotional rollercoaster. I would just keep her on radio silent and game other women and hope it's nothing to trap you.