[bluemarvel]

I'd say tattoos.

Even though it is a bit of a disappointment to see an otherwise beautiful, girl-next-door type covered in tattoos, they aren't an instant deal breaker for me.

[Dragan]

Recreational drug use. I don't mean daily use or semi-regular use. No heroin, no pills, etc.

[Mess O.]

Being fat --- just kidding.

[CleanSlate]

Social media. Everyone and their mother uses it...

[YoungBlade]

Drinking

[Supreme4ever]

Is the question for LTR and potential for Wife.
Or just for fun monthly flings.

For Flings I assume the wrong tattoo can throw me off and of course smell.

Wifey weight/spending/too much surgery

[Winston Wolfe]

There are degrees to a lot of this.

To illustrate:

(06-14-2018 09:29 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  

Social media. Everyone and their mother uses it...

Does she have a Facebook account she uses to keep in touch with friends and family? Or does she have an Instagram thats basically a free soft porn website?

(06-14-2018 09:51 PM)YoungBlade Wrote:  

Drinking

Same here, does she drink the odd glass of wine or does she get fucked up at the club every weekend?

(06-14-2018 09:21 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  

Being fat --- just kidding.

Same here.

Just kidding. No degrees to being fat.

[Winston Wolfe]

I have one I am always on the fence about: sleeping with me on the first date.

My gut instinct tells me that's a red flag, because if she does that with me, how many times has she done that before?

On the other hand, isn't that what I'm trying to achieve with my game? Isn't it a result of my own actions?

[MongolianAbroad]

Drinking.

I prefer, and have dated, two girls that had never tasted alcohol, and those were the two best girls I ever dated, dated each for three years...but I'm open to a girl that's drank a few beers at family gatherings or even at a few house parties.

Of those two girls, one gathered up the courage to confess a secret to me about a year into the relationship, as it had been bothering her conscience. She confessed that she "had a beer under peer pressure once with her girlfriends, but only drank half of it." I made a stern face and pretended to be disappointed in her, lol. She had to make it up to me.

And the other one, she once had a sip of a glass of wine I was having. Just a sip. Made a funny face.

Good times.

Definitely wouldn't date a girl that makes a habit of getting drunk, though.

[Rush87]

(06-14-2018 10:20 PM)Winston Wolfe Wrote:  

I have one I am always on the fence about: sleeping with me on the first date.

My gut instinct tells me that's a red flag, because if she does that with me, how many times has she done that before?

On the other hand, isn't that what I'm trying to achieve with my game? Isn't it a result of my own actions?

That's your ego talking. Your gut instinct is right.

[tobehero]

Depends how hot she is...

[Winston Wolfe]

(06-14-2018 10:52 PM)Rush87 Wrote:  

(06-14-2018 10:20 PM)Winston Wolfe Wrote:  

I have one I am always on the fence about: sleeping with me on the first date.

My gut instinct tells me that's a red flag, because if she does that with me, how many times has she done that before?

On the other hand, isn't that what I'm trying to achieve with my game? Isn't it a result of my own actions?

That's your ego talking. Your gut instinct is right.

Yep, probably.

A man should always push for the bang. If the woman gives it up too easily, ironically, she disqualifies herself.

A woman should always push for commitment. If the man gives it to her too easily, ironically, he disqualifies himself.

[RatInTheWoods]

Kids.

Being an older dude, most of my targets have kids.

I love kids.

Also, older women without kids tend to be crazy, self obsessed, selfish, slutty and lazy.

Shock revelation: I filter for women WITH kids....

[Ringo]

For short term I'm willing to look past almost anything.

For long term: divorced parents. It's unfortunate but it's not really her fault and I believe people that come from divorced parents can turn out fine.

Drinking is fine if she drinks very moderately (I don't drink myself), same with smoking weed. A girl that spends all week looking forward to downing a couple bottles of wine or beer on the weekend, or who regularly gets drunk, is a no-go.

[VisionsofGandhi]

Existing

[Suits]

Incredible blowjob skills.

[ChefAllDay]

(06-14-2018 09:21 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  

Being fat --- just kidding.

Hilarious!

For me I could deal with a women who liked a glass of wine occasionally. Simply because it compliments good food.

[Fortis]

This begs the question: if it's tolerable is it truly a red flag? Sounds more like a yellow flag or just a straight question mark.

There aren't any hardline redflags I'd tolerate in an LTR, for example, but I might tolerate red flags in a pump and dump chick.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

Red flag says it all really - it's nothing but a red flag. It's not an automatic deal-breaker. If you found an angelic 22yo girl who had had one boyfriend before you, who has 3 tattoos (because she thought that they were cool since she knew only the mainstream view), who has currently pink hair; but then you find that she accepts your leadership, gets Red Pilled quickly, is willing to get rid of the hair dye and follow your lead in terms of life and politics, then what are those red flags exactly? She can even get rid of the tattoos if you want to.

Red flags are not deal-brakers. The older you get, the more women you meet. I even met a former 8+ woman who by age 48 was still super-hot. She had been a slutty stewardess in her youth before she married her current husband and became a house-wife. My guess is that she went through 100+ men until age 26 and stopped working. When I met her, then she was a loving, hot and devoted house-wife with a spiritual demeanor who spent 1-2 hours daily in contemplation. She was absolutely wife-material, but if you had refused her due to her previous experiences, then you would have been a sucker. Sure - her husband was a rich Alpha provider and thus a former slutty girl was easy to reign in for him, but still.

Red flags are good indicators - case by case analysis and individual perceptions/common sense rules.

[Fortis]

(06-15-2018 05:52 AM)Simeon_Strangelight Wrote:  

Red flags are not deal-brakers. The older you get, the more women you meet. I even met a former 8+ woman who by age 48 was still super-hot. She had been a slutty stewardess in her youth before she married her current husband and became a house-wife. My guess is that she went through 100+ men until age 26 and stopped working. When I met her, then she was a loving, hot and devoted house-wife with a spiritual demeanor who spent 1-2 hours daily in contemplation. She was absolutely wife-material, but if you had refused her due to her previous experiences, then you would have been a sucker. Sure - her husband was a rich Alpha provider and thus a former slutty girl was easy to reign in for him, but still.

Red flags are good indicators - case by case analysis and individual perceptions/common sense rules.

For every one woman like this, I'm certain there are 99 who are still sluts after 100 dudes. Furthermore, how do you know any of the things she told you are true? 1-2 hours in contemplation? What's that mean?

There are a lot of stealth sluts out there who look the part perfectly in public but are totally sloots to the core. I'm not sure how we even know this woman was actually reformed.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

She was - I got to know her entire family better. Besides - it wasn't actually a reform. She was always spiritual, kind and sweet - just had a strong libido and was a super-attractive stewardess meeting lots of hot men and traveling the world - yolo. Also - that was in the 1970s-80s when she was doing the slutting around - women back then could do that and still want to have a fulfilling house-wife experience - now it's different.

I agree however that 98-99 out of 100 doing the same will become radioactive. When I met her then she was living as a happy housewife for 20 years already and her husband is one of those Alpha self-made millionaire businessmen. So it's a combination of multiple factors with her - not something that is the rule, rather the stark exception. Still - my point remains.

As for the contemplation - she follows a certain spiritual path that recommends daily prayer/contemplation similar to the Franciscan monks. And it shows, but again this is also an addition factor that most girls with those experiences simply do not have - most don't turn from Saulus to Paulus and most hoes don't turn into wife-material.

[Al O'Peesha]

Short(ish) hair. I'm talking Audrey Hepburn, pixie-ish styles. Especially with a nice pair of legs.

Not pink, purple or any other unnatural colour though. And definitely not buzz-cut or clipped.

[The Stronger Sex]

For a one-off? Any. I'm ready to punish her with teasing and withdrawal, but that's it.

[Transsimian]

[Diop]

Is a nose ring (or belly ring, tongue ring, etc.) considered a red flag? I've never had any issues with piercings though some of my friends find them low class and immediately write off a girl (for a LTR) who has anything besides her ears pierced.