[blum]

There is a lot mixed up in this subject even though I like separating subjects whenever possible.

I need to lower my expectations. I can easily get super hard and can fuck girls for hours over many rounds but I have developed an issue to actually cum. I am pretty sure it's purely a psychological issue. Just that I don't get excited anymore over the point where I can cum. Depends on the girl.

I want to stop or at least slow down hooking up. Even though I am in Asia and it's relatively easy to pull, I want to slow down. Taking a pretty LTR and prioritizing other things in my life.

All the hooking up might have fucked me up. Been into pickup for around 10 years now. Gave up reading / writing on and off for years and therefore had plateaus or even regressions. I become picky about girls where former friends of mine that never had an pickup development as I progressed and that also my former self unexperienced undersexed would have been super happy with. When I look which girls they are together with on facebook nowadays, I wonder how they can get a boner with them.

Here is my current list of requirements I am looking for. Putting it in order of priorities. Higher in list, more important.

Mandatory:

- want a somewhat acne free face (no need to be perfect but his is a big issue in Asia)
- ideally 18-21 years old, up to 25 or open end might work as well
- she should always get horny whenever i want to fuck her
- her wanting something other than my money from me (any of multiple of looks, personality, happiness, sexual skills)
- she should always be sweet to me
- no drama
- well formed, firm breasts

Optional:

- bra size C or D
- noisy, outgoing behavior during sex
- want her to love sucking me
- style, sometimes sexy every day outfits (crop top, hot pants, styled up)
- tight
- clever (in life and/or business)
- want her to let me cum in her mouth
- want to fuck her into her mouth
- want her to deep throat me
- want anal sometimes
- she should allow me to fuck other girls

Omg. I am so fucked up. Like how do I figure out if she has firm breasts without hooking up with her first? Bra sizes are also very difficult to see from the outside, lots of cheating by girls?

Probably it's also next to impossible to find out her sexual skills or ability to learn. Some girls I managed to teach a few things but often it doesn't go a long way.

Having a C or D bra size firm breast (hard to find!) actually lets me cum quite reliably. Even if she's quite boring in bed, doesn't have a pretty face (acne), isn't tight, that lasts for at least two months. Wondering if I should prioritize breasts actually? Or how would I get rid of my breast fixation? It's something that developed over the years. Didn't pay any attention on breasts when I started with pickup years ago.

Why do I want a pretty face anyway? I had FWBs without model faces with acne but therefore other fulfilled requirements such as very good breasts. Somehow managed to not concentrate on their faces. Whom do I want to impress? The people, far away from my previous life that I am no longer hanging out with?

Why do I want young girls? Good chance of having a pretty face. Good chance of having a firm body low to zero levels of cellulitis. They're less likely to have a lot prior bad relationships. Usually, once the first lay is done on any subsequente dates I can fuck them as many rounds and whatever time I want.

The rounds... It's also crazy. When I have a new girl, I might get really exited about her. Fucking her like 6-8 times within 8-12 hours or so (didn't measure closely). Even if she's only young, small firm breasts, noisy, not tight, moving well, sweet, not into blowjobs.

And I am making myself my biggest foe. I am setting a quality standard that I cannot keep later on. The more often I meet her, the less fire power I have since I already fucked her a lot. Also even with longer breaks, she doesn't excite me as much anymore as on day one. I could still fuck her the same time, but cum less times. But without me cumming, girls get concerned and bored. They want me to cum and make breaks. Which makes sense, since it leads to separate memories.

How to cum easier? How can I calibrate lower my expectations to girls actually existing in reality and available to me? Should I?

[Winston Wolfe]

I'll bite.

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I need to lower my expectations.

No you don't. You need to improve yourself so you get access to the quality you want.

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Mandatory:

- want a somewhat acne free face (no need to be perfect but his is a big issue in Asia)
- ideally 18-21 years old, up to 25 or open end might work as well
- she should always get horny whenever i want to fuck her
- her wanting something other than my money from me (any of multiple of looks, personality, happiness, sexual skills)
- she should always be sweet to me
- no drama
- well formed, firm breasts

Optional:

- bra size C or D
- noisy, outgoing behavior during sex
- want her to love sucking me
- style, sometimes sexy every day outfits (crop top, hot pants, styled up)
- tight
- clever (in life and/or business)
- want her to let me cum in her mouth
- want to fuck her into her mouth
- want her to deep throat me
- want anal sometimes
- she should allow me to fuck other girls

What do you bring to the table for a girl to be OK with this laundry list of requirements?

Are there girls who will do all that and be OK with it? Sure there are, if you're Brad Pitt.

Improve yourself first. If it were easy, this forum wouldn't exist.

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Omg. I am so fucked up.

You don't say?

[Bienvenuto]

(05-29-2018 10:07 AM)blum Wrote:  

Even though I am in Asia and it's relatively easy to pull, I want to slow down. Taking a pretty LTR and prioritizing other things in my life.

All the hooking up might have fucked me up. Been into pickup for around 10 years now. Gave up reading / writing on and off for years and therefore had plateaus or even regressions. I become picky about girls where former friends of mine that never had an pickup development as I progressed and that also my former self unexperienced undersexed would have been super happy with.

OP where are you from?

[kuqezi]

Unless you're 1.8m+ tall with <10% body fat and athletic or jacked all you wrote above makes no sense.
I understand we all have different tastes but having a checklist like that makes no sense to me since some of those things will need time to be proven.

[Axel99]

Well your standards are only high because you live in asia.

[questor70]

You'll cum easier if you find a woman you like more than an anonymous piece of meat. Not saying you have to fall head over heels in love, but just, ya know, start to see her as an individual human being and try to bond in a more soulful way than mechanical pumping. When you get there it works a whole other part of the brain besides just the raw visual/tactile stimulation.

[Baphomet]

I really miss Tuthmosis when I see these types of threads..

[jcardial]

(05-29-2018 10:07 AM)blum Wrote:  

There is a lot mixed up in this subject even though I like separating subjects whenever possible.

I need to lower my expectations. I can easily get super hard and can fuck girls for hours over many rounds but I have developed an issue to actually cum. I am pretty sure it's purely a psychological issue. Just that I don't get excited anymore over the point where I can cum. Depends on the girl.

I want to stop or at least slow down hooking up. Even though I am in Asia and it's relatively easy to pull, I want to slow down. Taking a pretty LTR and prioritizing other things in my life.

All the hooking up might have fucked me up. Been into pickup for around 10 years now. Gave up reading / writing on and off for years and therefore had plateaus or even regressions. I become picky about girls where former friends of mine that never had an pickup development as I progressed and that also my former self unexperienced undersexed would have been super happy with. When I look which girls they are together with on facebook nowadays, I wonder how they can get a boner with them.

Here is my current list of requirements I am looking for. Putting it in order of priorities. Higher in list, more important.

Mandatory:

- want a somewhat acne free face (no need to be perfect but his is a big issue in Asia)
- ideally 18-21 years old, up to 25 or open end might work as well
- she should always get horny whenever i want to fuck her
- her wanting something other than my money from me (any of multiple of looks, personality, happiness, sexual skills)
- she should always be sweet to me
- no drama
- well formed, firm breasts

Optional:

- bra size C or D
- noisy, outgoing behavior during sex
- want her to love sucking me
- style, sometimes sexy every day outfits (crop top, hot pants, styled up)
- tight
- clever (in life and/or business)
- want her to let me cum in her mouth
- want to fuck her into her mouth
- want her to deep throat me
- want anal sometimes
- she should allow me to fuck other girls

Omg. I am so fucked up. Like how do I figure out if she has firm breasts without hooking up with her first? Bra sizes are also very difficult to see from the outside, lots of cheating by girls?

Probably it's also next to impossible to find out her sexual skills or ability to learn. Some girls I managed to teach a few things but often it doesn't go a long way.

Having a C or D bra size firm breast (hard to find!) actually lets me cum quite reliably. Even if she's quite boring in bed, doesn't have a pretty face (acne), isn't tight, that lasts for at least two months. Wondering if I should prioritize breasts actually? Or how would I get rid of my breast fixation? It's something that developed over the years. Didn't pay any attention on breasts when I started with pickup years ago.

Why do I want a pretty face anyway? I had FWBs without model faces with acne but therefore other fulfilled requirements such as very good breasts. Somehow managed to not concentrate on their faces. Whom do I want to impress? The people, far away from my previous life that I am no longer hanging out with?

Why do I want young girls? Good chance of having a pretty face. Good chance of having a firm body low to zero levels of cellulitis. They're less likely to have a lot prior bad relationships. Usually, once the first lay is done on any subsequente dates I can fuck them as many rounds and whatever time I want.

The rounds... It's also crazy. When I have a new girl, I might get really exited about her. Fucking her like 6-8 times within 8-12 hours or so (didn't measure closely). Even if she's only young, small firm breasts, noisy, not tight, moving well, sweet, not into blowjobs.

And I am making myself my biggest foe. I am setting a quality standard that I cannot keep later on. The more often I meet her, the less fire power I have since I already fucked her a lot. Also even with longer breaks, she doesn't excite me as much anymore as on day one. I could still fuck her the same time, but cum less times. But without me cumming, girls get concerned and bored. They want me to cum and make breaks. Which makes sense, since it leads to separate memories.

How to cum easier? How can I calibrate lower my expectations to girls actually existing in reality and available to me? Should I?

The quality you can attain is generally going to be capped off if you don't speak the local language or have social status so you're going to have to make some concessions. It's much easier to overlook minor flaws if you have a deeper connection but that will likely be unattainable if there's a big language barrier. Move somewhere else if the relationships aren't fulfilling to you.

There's no long term way of tricking your brain into having significantly lower physical standards. The problem is even if a girl meets your laundry list of standards, the novelty of her looks will eventually wear off somewhat and if there's nothing deeper you will get bored.

[Rocha]

There can be other factors in your inability to cum, like the regularity of you fapping, or watching porn...etc.

Also another thing you mention is that you can bang for several hours for many rounds whitout coming. So maybe you are focusing too much on giving the girl pleasure, and jeopardizing your pleasure, there has to be a balance, there are always a few positions where a guy comes easier than others.

Well, these are only options, just think that it might have not much to do with your requirements list.

[Alex T]

You sound so fucked up.

Also, you are in contradiction with yourself. You want a LTR and then you want to fuck other girls on the side with her permission, after admitting that you are tired of fucking casually.

Go fix yourself.

[Ski pro]

Quit the porn OP

You might also find that your preferences on your shopping list changes and you start to see something deeper than what you have listed here which is effectively just the home page of porn hub.

[brianmark]

(05-29-2018 10:07 AM)blum Wrote:  

There is a lot mixed up in this subject even though I like separating subjects whenever possible.

I need to lower my expectations. I can easily get super hard and can fuck girls for hours over many rounds but I have developed an issue to actually cum. I am pretty sure it's purely a psychological issue. Just that I don't get excited anymore over the point where I can cum. Depends on the girl.

I want to stop or at least slow down hooking up. Even though I am in Asia and it's relatively easy to pull, I want to slow down. Taking a pretty LTR and prioritizing other things in my life.

The rounds... It's also crazy. When I have a new girl, I might get really exited about her. Fucking her like 6-8 times within 8-12 hours or so (didn't measure closely). Even if she's only young, small firm breasts, noisy, not tight, moving well, sweet, not into blowjobs.

And I am making myself my biggest foe. I am setting a quality standard that I cannot keep later on. The more often I meet her, the less fire power I have since I already fucked her a lot. Also even with longer breaks, she doesn't excite me as much anymore as on day one. I could still fuck her the same time, but cum less times. But without me cumming, girls get concerned and bored. They want me to cum and make breaks. Which makes sense, since it leads to separate memories.

How to cum easier? How can I calibrate lower my expectations to girls actually existing in reality and available to me? Should I?

I've lived in Asia and know Asian women well. Either, you are you a troll or just clueless about the behavior of real girls? So you can't cum unless these requirements are met? Your requirements are a joke!

- she should always get horny whenever i want to fuck her
impossible to find; no girl is always horny
- she should always be sweet to me
No girl is always sweet. Have you ever spent much time with a girl. No girl is always sweet to you.
- no drama
90% of the girls cause drama. Just in different degrees.
Having a C or D bra size firm breast (hard to find!)
1 in 25 girls in Asia have C or D breasts.
- want her to love sucking me
most younger girls are not into sucking. Yes one in 20 is great at it. Good luck finding her.
- tight
yup, we all want a tight pussy, but not all girls have one. Maybe you just need a bigger dick. If your dick was larger then you'd have less problem finding tight pussy! Get a vacuum pump and work on making it larger!
- clever (in life and/or business)
Most girls that are clever and good at business are not that much into fucking.
- want her to let me cum in her mouth
most girls don't like you to come in their mouth - oh, about 1 in 30 like this.
- want to fuck her into her mouth
I'm really not sure because I don't do this, but I'd guess most girls don't like to be face fucked or throat fucked.
- want her to deep throat me
most girls can't do this. Sorry.
- want anal sometimes
Some girls do it. Maybe 1 in 15 will do it.
- she should allow me to fuck other girls
Almost no girl that you are in a LTR wants to share you with other girls. Maybe 1 in 100 girls would accept it reluctantly.
You've been watching too much porn.

(05-29-2018 10:07 AM)blum Wrote:  

Probably it's also next to impossible to find out her sexual skills or ability to learn. Some girls I managed to teach a few things but often it doesn't go a long way.

It's pretty hard to teach girls how to be good at sex. Most either have it or don't. I've never been able to teach a girl that is average to become great. I'd say it's impossible.

Your expectations are too high. Good luck finding your perfect girl. If you need all the above requirements to cum, you need to see a doctor. I doubt you'll ever find all the above qualities in one girl for a LTR.

[RatInTheWoods]

You have the male equivalent of a thousand pussy stare by the sounds of it.

Mate, take a break from porn, wanking, hookups and thinking about sex and female perfection.

Go. Do. Other. Shit.

Make money, have adventures.

Take a break.

Things should drift back to normal over time.

[Buck Wild]

[CleanSlate]

Travel Museums, is that you?

[AceP]

(05-29-2018 12:19 PM)Axel99 Wrote:  

Well your standards are only high because you live in asia.

^ This.

@OP have you tried gaming else where other than Asia? Do you have a preference for asians/white/other girls?

I'd like to know which countries specifically in Asia are you from. SEAsia (in my personal opinion/biase) are of lower average quality in general for higher easiness to pull.

[blum]

Thanks, it helps a lot!

So far traveling in Philippines and Thailand.

Yeah, I should get off watching porn on days when I failed to get a girl into my room.

> What do you bring to the table for a girl to be OK with this laundry list of requirements?

Well, I look great in their eyes. Tons of young girls here find me fantastic. In comparison to them, I am rich. Staying in nicer places. Good standing ability. Can make the girl cum several times per evening. Her friends usually love me as well. No drama. Clever.

What other requirements they have?

> OP where are you from?

West

> Well your standards are only high because you live in asia.

That might be. Even in the West my standards are high, but since it's more difficult to pull there let alone living openly non-exclusive I'll rather there play by the LTR rules with the second best girl.

> You'll cum easier if you find a woman you like more than an anonymous piece of meat.

Should really try that.

> There's no long term way of tricking your brain into having significantly lower physical standards. The problem is even if a girl meets your laundry list of standards, the novelty of her looks will eventually wear off somewhat and if there's nothing deeper you will get bored.

I see.

> Also another thing you mention is that you can bang for several hours for many rounds whitout coming. So maybe you are focusing too much on giving the girl pleasure, and jeopardizing your pleasure,

Spot on.

> Also, you are in contradiction with yourself. You want a LTR and then you want to fuck other girls on the side with her permission, after admitting that you are tired of fucking casually.

True. Contradiction.

> Your requirements are a joke!

Yeah, so I am here for help.

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- she should always get horny whenever i want to fuck her
impossible to find; no girl is always horny
- she should always be sweet to me
No girl is always sweet. Have you ever spent much time with a girl. No girl is always sweet to you.
- no drama
90% of the girls cause drama. Just in different degrees.

These are actually most of the time easily fulfilled enough for my desires.

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Having a C or D bra size firm breast (hard to find!)
1 in 25 girls in Asia have C or D breasts.

Yeah. 1/25 probability multiplied with other low probabilities is not a clever combination.

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- clever (in life and/or business)
Most girls that are clever and good at business are not that much into fucking.

True so I better forget about it.

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It's pretty hard to teach girls how to be good at sex. Most either have it or don't. I've never been able to teach a girl that is average to become great. I'd say it's impossible.

I see. I guess we have a separate thread for that already somewhere that I will study.

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@OP have you tried gaming else where other than Asia?

Sure. In some countries it's fucked up.

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Do you have a preference for asians/white/other girls?

Hm not much, I like tan girls, stylish.

> SEAsia (in my personal opinion/biase) are of lower average quality in general for higher easiness to pull.

Might be true. Acne is an issue here.

[Winston Wolfe]

(05-29-2018 03:45 PM)brianmark Wrote:  

- tight
yup, we all want a tight pussy, but not all girls have one. Maybe you just need a bigger dick. If your dick was larger then you'd have less problem finding tight pussy! Get a vacuum pump and work on making it larger!

This thread is getting better

[Catch 22]

Only 1 in 15 will do anal? Hmmm...

My only additions are make sure you're hydrated and I've started enjoying making sure I cum first so they don't get too wet. They feel less tight after I get them off. I'll get them off during my refractory period after I nut and then set up for #2.

What positions are you cumming in? That might give you a clue too, if it's doggy pounding vs something where you're making out and seeing their face.