What do RVF forum members do to flex their social wings?
Has anyone here managed to build up a robust social standing from nothing?
I currently have no physical friends in my social life.
I've been working on my social game the past couple years after my HS friends dispersed. I've seen this mentioned in the other threads but it seems that making good friends after 20 years of age can be difficult. It troubles me because I know I can do better than I can now, and some would say that people are one's biggest resource. Logistics are also the other issue but I'm sure we're all familiar.
I keep trying and do do basic bitch shit that anyone can read and find in things like 'how to win friends and influence people' and 'make people like you in 90 seconds or less' but my discovery has been that those books are tools to get a foot in the door for possible leverage for future actions. Sure I can strike up a rando conversation with 4 people as I run through the store for some eggs and make people smile and feel valued and have good rapport, but I won't see them again.
There are resources like charisma on command and bombards body language, but those don't replace experience and interpersonal dynamics have vastly changed in the digital age.
I do have one other goal of becoming a master communicator and have already received random compliments on my warmth and presence, but they don't mean much when the people that state those to me stay as strangers.
I currently get out on every single one of my off days which are mixes of Brazilian jiu-jitsu, dance classes, shopping, and errands.
This is the most I've ever done but it's still not enough; and I'd appreciate any advice on the matter. If you all could recc books, give parables or suggestions; or even places that are really good for farming connections and conversations; I'm all ears.
I'm practically willing to do anything including moving to a foreign land at this point.
Has anyone here managed to build up a robust social standing from nothing?
I currently have no physical friends in my social life.
I've been working on my social game the past couple years after my HS friends dispersed. I've seen this mentioned in the other threads but it seems that making good friends after 20 years of age can be difficult. It troubles me because I know I can do better than I can now, and some would say that people are one's biggest resource. Logistics are also the other issue but I'm sure we're all familiar.
I keep trying and do do basic bitch shit that anyone can read and find in things like 'how to win friends and influence people' and 'make people like you in 90 seconds or less' but my discovery has been that those books are tools to get a foot in the door for possible leverage for future actions. Sure I can strike up a rando conversation with 4 people as I run through the store for some eggs and make people smile and feel valued and have good rapport, but I won't see them again.
There are resources like charisma on command and bombards body language, but those don't replace experience and interpersonal dynamics have vastly changed in the digital age.
I do have one other goal of becoming a master communicator and have already received random compliments on my warmth and presence, but they don't mean much when the people that state those to me stay as strangers.
I currently get out on every single one of my off days which are mixes of Brazilian jiu-jitsu, dance classes, shopping, and errands.
This is the most I've ever done but it's still not enough; and I'd appreciate any advice on the matter. If you all could recc books, give parables or suggestions; or even places that are really good for farming connections and conversations; I'm all ears.
I'm practically willing to do anything including moving to a foreign land at this point.