What am I doing wrong?
04-09-2018, 01:18 PM
OP, there's not much to add to what's been written already. You've been given top advice: swallow your pride, drop the defenses, and act on it.
It seems clear that your self perception is out of whack. If you are an introvert who has trouble building a social circle and is constantly consumed with negative emotion towards poor old Chad Thundercock, yet you think that your game and alpha-ness are great, even though you aren't sealing the deal, I can tell you from here that you are giving lots of incongruent /negative vibes towards the girls you meet without realising it.
Meeting girls should be a hobby. I happen to enjoy fishing. When I go out and catch nothing, I don't feel bad, I enjoy the process, I learn something every time (even if it's just that I'm fishing in the wrong place) and besides, it's not the most important thing in my life, it's just a game.
IMO, the most important benchmarks for you are improving yourself as a person, expanding your social network, learning about the world and women in particular, and having a fun romantic time.
If you have the attitude that it's only about getting the bang, and make yourself feel shitty and jealous when you don't get it, you can easily turn an enjoyable hobby into something that makes you bitter and thus less attractive.
Before anyone calls me a game denialist, allow me to elaborate: getting a bang will barely help you get the next one, beyond making you a bit more confident. If it did help you, then you could just bang a whore, then hit the club. If you go out and all you do is get lucky with a drunk slut, a right time right place deal, you will get a bang for the night, but your game won't improve. If you go out, socialise with lots of different people, have fun, dance, organise a meetup to play scrabble, flirt with several girls, get some numbers that go nowhere etc etc, your notch count won't improve, but your game will.
Learning about and/or improving yourself/women/life/social interaction in general, and having flirty fun in particular, well, that's what game is, and that's what will help you get future bangs and hotter girls.
I second reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Apart from reading that, however, it does sound like you spend too much time autistically reading about game etc.
Try a detox from all game/MGTOW/red pill articles and videos. Yup, even this forum, excellent as it is. Keep notes by all means and then give us the best bits here after a month. Bear in mind that game, politics, red pill stuff in general are usually terrible conversation choices with most girls. If you are drinking them in daily, it's not good for your banter. Take Roosh's advice and absorb Seinfeld for a month instead.
Challenge yourself to a month of going to social events/places (not just clubs/bars) and schmoozing indiscriminately with everyone you can. Stop scanning the room for ratios and sets and hot girls, just act like you are partially responsible for hosting the event and making sure that everyone has a good time, gets introduced to each other, you get the idea.