So I am seeing this 35 year old latina milf (33 myself). She is a 6 face and a 7 body. 5'8 (I am 5'7), well maintained figure. Divorcee with 2 young teens. She has been great fun and has a warm personality.Things got heated up between us real fast and among my plates she is the only one who I actually like spending time with. She alternates weekly between her kids(during the morning or afternoon, she still does come to the gym with me while her kids are at school) and the other week, she is mostly with me as her kids are with her ex. After our first few weeks she got close (started saying I love you) but then realized that it was too fast and too my relief backed off. But still when we are together we have a relationship that would be hard for outsiders to distinguished from anything other than a bf-gf one as the understanding and chemistry is as such.
However, I have been realistic and I know I am not going to make her my exclusive gf nor would I ever consider a serious LTR with her. I do not show this obviously.
Another thing I knew before heading into this was that she has done her slutting (she has many eat pray love stories across various countries). So I made myself astute that if she is not around or travelling without me then there is some other dick always.
Now she went to Chicago for a week for a baby shower. I knew there was every possibility she would find some guy. I didnt care because I was already banging other plates throughout the time I have known her. When she was away for the week, I was banging other girls.
So she comes back from Chicago and I can feel the communication is a little off. We set up our gym schedule. Then she texts me later that she wanted to say something else and that there was someone and it might interfere with our routine. I call her up. I act cool and ask her up if it was someone from Chicago. She tells me that she did meet the person at Chicago but she knew the person from her friends social circle since long back. The guy is a Venezuelan lawyer, part of her social group and resides in our city. She said that she wanted to be honest and inform me but she is confused as what to do next (yeah right, you just went for it because opportunity arose). She told me he is 29 and is not trustworthy but she is under pressure from friends and family members to pursue this guy. I am a different ethnicity and far away from the Hispanic culture. I have never interacted with her family and friends except her best friend who I know really likes me and that's about it.
I told her in all fairness when she has been away that I have been with other people too. I also told her that I like spending time with her and that we have some great positive things going on such as gym, plan to summit mountains and travel. So I told her that its onto her to figure it out but my stance is clear that why throw away a good thing between us.We then decided to meet at the gym tomorrow and see where it goes.
So my question to you guys, how should I have handled it differently. I like her . She is mature and not demanding. Fun to be around with unlike the rest of the younger girls I fuck, she is easy going and pleasant. I clearly want to keep her around but at the same time Ill never give her a full LTR, let alone marry her and never be part of her culture.
I know I am letting emotions get the better of me. And it probably is selfish of me that I want her to be around just the way she is and for her not to see anyone else. The thing is I really like her company. Sex is great with her. Activities together are highly enjoyable. The simple reason is I connect with her on a mental level which I have not been able to do so with other girls. When she is with me she showers me with adoration and is also well natured and well behaved among my friends, who also like her.
How should I go about this situation? What should be my next step? Should I text her before seeing her at the gym tomorrow? What should I tell her when we see each other?
I would really appreciate the advice of forum members who have been in similar situations and how they handled such situations to their advantage.
However, I have been realistic and I know I am not going to make her my exclusive gf nor would I ever consider a serious LTR with her. I do not show this obviously.
Another thing I knew before heading into this was that she has done her slutting (she has many eat pray love stories across various countries). So I made myself astute that if she is not around or travelling without me then there is some other dick always.
Now she went to Chicago for a week for a baby shower. I knew there was every possibility she would find some guy. I didnt care because I was already banging other plates throughout the time I have known her. When she was away for the week, I was banging other girls.
So she comes back from Chicago and I can feel the communication is a little off. We set up our gym schedule. Then she texts me later that she wanted to say something else and that there was someone and it might interfere with our routine. I call her up. I act cool and ask her up if it was someone from Chicago. She tells me that she did meet the person at Chicago but she knew the person from her friends social circle since long back. The guy is a Venezuelan lawyer, part of her social group and resides in our city. She said that she wanted to be honest and inform me but she is confused as what to do next (yeah right, you just went for it because opportunity arose). She told me he is 29 and is not trustworthy but she is under pressure from friends and family members to pursue this guy. I am a different ethnicity and far away from the Hispanic culture. I have never interacted with her family and friends except her best friend who I know really likes me and that's about it.
I told her in all fairness when she has been away that I have been with other people too. I also told her that I like spending time with her and that we have some great positive things going on such as gym, plan to summit mountains and travel. So I told her that its onto her to figure it out but my stance is clear that why throw away a good thing between us.We then decided to meet at the gym tomorrow and see where it goes.
So my question to you guys, how should I have handled it differently. I like her . She is mature and not demanding. Fun to be around with unlike the rest of the younger girls I fuck, she is easy going and pleasant. I clearly want to keep her around but at the same time Ill never give her a full LTR, let alone marry her and never be part of her culture.
I know I am letting emotions get the better of me. And it probably is selfish of me that I want her to be around just the way she is and for her not to see anyone else. The thing is I really like her company. Sex is great with her. Activities together are highly enjoyable. The simple reason is I connect with her on a mental level which I have not been able to do so with other girls. When she is with me she showers me with adoration and is also well natured and well behaved among my friends, who also like her.
How should I go about this situation? What should be my next step? Should I text her before seeing her at the gym tomorrow? What should I tell her when we see each other?
I would really appreciate the advice of forum members who have been in similar situations and how they handled such situations to their advantage.