[Soerenballe]

So guys. When girls say: I don’t have sex on the #? date, does it mean what I think?

I have to say that when I hear this I kinda take it as a soft rejection.

It happened Yesterday on the third date with a girl where we already had two “quality” dates - with #2 involving serious enough kissing.

I think she is just not attracted enough to me.
What are you guys response to the “I don’t have sex on the #? Date?

[LeBaron]

I usually nod say sure and fuck them later on. the more they say this the more chance you'll fuck them, it is just their hamster talking.
Don't escalate too much if your not at her place/your place thought, no crazy kissing and so on.

[realologist]

You're not giving us enough information. Quality dates may mean something totally different to you and her. You have to give us more about each date and what was said and not said in them.

[firat113]

When a girl says that it's usually her ASD speaking. She's testing you to see if you're gonna ditch or you'll stay around for the dessert. As realogist said, need more details, she might as well be playing you and sees you as free entertainment. There was a wise guy on here that said, if a girl doesn't want/didn't have sex with you by 3rd date, she's wasting your time.

If you fuck her on the first date, she's physically very attracted to you, if you fuck her on the second date, she wanted to make sure she didn't give in too easily, so you don't see her as a slut. If you fuck her on the 3rd date, she sees something serious in you, and doesn't just want to fuck and leave. She wants you to stick around. But your case is weird, either she's wasting your time, or you missed your shot, and she's slowly losing interest. Or she's rejecting you in a polite way, so you wont ask her out on a 4th date.

"ASD(anti slut defense) is a conscious or unconscious process that women, especially younger women, go through to avoid the perception of being “slutty” or “too easy.”

"If you can’t close, you’re an entertainer." -roosh

[Montrose]

I met a girl who was constantly messaging ‘I don’t do hook ups’. Banged her on first date after a symbolic drink.
Take absolutely no account of what a woman says.

[DJ-Matt]

(03-26-2018 11:37 AM)Montrose Wrote:  

I met a girl who was constantly messaging ‘I don’t do hook ups’. Banged her on first date after a symbolic drink.
Take absolutely no account of what a woman says.

Ditto, I fucked a single mom with Netflix and chill (although I didn't call it that), hell she even initiated the sex!

[Soerenballe]

My particular case is not worth a case study. I never experienced that I get sex at a later time after hearing that sentence. By quality dates I mean a long walk + coffee - a night out with drinks (and making out) - homemade lunch (and making out pushing for sex).

And Yeah I also had sex on the first date with girls. I’m interested to know what this phrase means to other people in the field. My take is that her attraction for me is too low and worst case scenario, it will be seen as needy to try again.

I’m wondering if pulling some - gotta go type of shit works to rein a girl back in or it will blow my cover...

[Montrose]

What we are saying is that it’s no use trying to understand what a girl means since a woman’s words have little bearing on reality.

Just go for the close. If she likes you she will comply, if not then she’s not for you and you just move on. No downside. Stop splitting hair.

[Suits]

Girls who say, "I don't do (blank) have certainly done (blank) before."

There's a few things going on here. First, it's an Anti-Slut Defense (ASD). If she says it and then sleeps with you, she can feel like she did her part and it's your fault for not respecting her boundaries.

Secondly, it's a shit test. How you respond will determine the future of your interactions. If you get flustered, you're done.

I go with an extreme version of agree and amplify when a girl hits me with that type of line. I tell her I'm a virgin and that I'm so glad she said that because so many girls just want me for my body and don't respect me for my mind and try to take advantage of my innocence. I ham it up enough that only the dumbest of stupid girls will actually believe the words coming out of my mouth, but my ability to respond calmly to the shit test with humour is all that really matters. If it makes her giggle, that's bonus.

[RatInTheWoods]

Tell her to stop talking and thinking about sex all the time! Tell her you are trying to be romantic and she keeps mentioning sex! Stop it!

[ksbms]

It's a perfect signal if a woman verbalises her objections - to verbalise them, she needs to actively thinking about sex. What is even more important, by verbalising her objections she absolves herself from feeling accountable and responsible what happens next and self-delivers an alibi against potential consequences. It's a very sophisticated thing to do: "I told him I don't do that, it just happened." It's an "innocuous" tactic to feel absolved of being judged by others. I would stipulate that this pressure is experienced more by conformist girls, whereas more independent girls feel less need to verbalise this anxiety.

[Montrose]

If something needs to be said, it’s probably false

[Mr.WHORES]

Translation: I won't have sex with you because my pussy is drier then the Sahara.

[Mage]

When a girls says: "I don’t have sex on the #? date"

Translation: "I had sex on the #? date some time ago with a guy who pumped and dumped me. I know I have weakness for bold guys who push for sex on #? date, so I am going to say I don't do sex on #? date and hope that guys who like to push for sex on #? date will disqualify themselves, because my pussy gets all wet and overrides my reasoning and I am actually totally vulnerable to guys pushing sex on #? date."

[Simeon_Strangelight]

It does not mean jack shit.

When a girl says that, then you respond by:

"I don't have sex before the 53rd date. In fact I have been in a relationship where we went on 88 dates and we still did not have sex."

[Catch 22]

"Let's go back to my place and just makeout."

[tobehero]

It's normally a good sign if she says it.

[blck]

"Oh really?! Me neither, so now that we're on the same page I have weed and booze so... your place or mine?"

[azulsombra]

(04-04-2018 12:59 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

It does not mean jack shit.

When a girl says that, then you respond by:

"I don't have sex before the 53rd date. In fact I have been in a relationship where we went on 88 dates and we still did not have sex."

Adam Sandler game.