I went on a date with this girl that i met a few days ago, i brought her with me to the gym, then we went out to eat and i managed to pull her back to my place in the end. The atmosphere was good, we were laughing and kino was progressing well. We watched a movie and i got more touchy, she was open to it. We started making out and i slipped a finger down her underwear. She was resistant at first, but with a little assurance, she let me get my hand down there. I fingered her for like 2 minutes while kissing her, and she let go off her guard. She stopped me and took her underwear off. I got up, undressed and went to look for a condom in the drawer. She started laughing because i couldn't find any. I started panicking. When i finally did find the condom, i looked down and my dick was soft as fuck. I couldn't get it up. She was laying there with a dissapointed face that fucked me up. I went to the toilet and tried to put life into it, but no matter how hard i tried, it wouldn't get hard. I was so embarrassed. I had never experienced this before. I felt like shit man.
The thing that fucked me further up was seeing her laying there scrolling through instagram. In my mind i was like "seriously?", i don't know why that provoked me so much. So much anger/dissapointment in me at the time. Perhaps it was performance anxiety, since it's been a while. I am currently on a long dry spell. Maybe i was just nervous. The 2 hours we were making out i was rock hard. But it changed so fast.
"Take your time. Tell me when you give up". she said while i was in the toilet. I came back and sat at the edge of the bed broken. She started putting on her clothes. She tried to calm me down saying its fine, and she tried to kiss me, but i kind of pushed her away, turning my head from the kiss. At that point i think i fucked up. I had lost my frame. I mean, this wasn't her fault, why did i act like that. I guess i was just still shocked.
She told me her bus is leaving in 15 min and that we probably should get going. I put on my clothes and i followed her out to the busstation. On the way there was the most worst awkward silence i have ever tried before. I didn't know what to say, and i could barely look her in the eyes. I never experienced this, so i didn't know how to react. But i know for damn sure my reaction was awful. I hugged her good bye and she got on the bus.
I don't know how to explain this, i didn't feel like a man, i felt so embarrassed. I might have fucked up something good here. We had such a great time together. How should i have dealt with this? How do i deal with this if it happens again in the future? Should i text her and tell her we should try again some other time, or should i leave it be?
The thing that fucked me further up was seeing her laying there scrolling through instagram. In my mind i was like "seriously?", i don't know why that provoked me so much. So much anger/dissapointment in me at the time. Perhaps it was performance anxiety, since it's been a while. I am currently on a long dry spell. Maybe i was just nervous. The 2 hours we were making out i was rock hard. But it changed so fast.
"Take your time. Tell me when you give up". she said while i was in the toilet. I came back and sat at the edge of the bed broken. She started putting on her clothes. She tried to calm me down saying its fine, and she tried to kiss me, but i kind of pushed her away, turning my head from the kiss. At that point i think i fucked up. I had lost my frame. I mean, this wasn't her fault, why did i act like that. I guess i was just still shocked.
She told me her bus is leaving in 15 min and that we probably should get going. I put on my clothes and i followed her out to the busstation. On the way there was the most worst awkward silence i have ever tried before. I didn't know what to say, and i could barely look her in the eyes. I never experienced this, so i didn't know how to react. But i know for damn sure my reaction was awful. I hugged her good bye and she got on the bus.
I don't know how to explain this, i didn't feel like a man, i felt so embarrassed. I might have fucked up something good here. We had such a great time together. How should i have dealt with this? How do i deal with this if it happens again in the future? Should i text her and tell her we should try again some other time, or should i leave it be?