[PapayaTapper]

(03-18-2018 05:26 PM)Batman_ Wrote:  

Don't beat yourself up. I would instead change your attitude about this. Stop worry about performing. If you don't get hard so what. I've had it happen to me enough times now where I genuinely do not care if I don't get it up or if it's not fully hard, I just say "oh looks like my dick isn't cooperating" and then brush it off. If they make you feel bad about it then I would next them.

If erectile dysfunction is happening more than just once or twice I would see a doctor. It can be a sign of serious underlying medical conditions.

If youre young and dont have issues that prevent the use of Viagra, Cialis, etc then theres no reason to ever have this happen again.

Personally I like fucking a lot more than not fucking...but thats just me

[travolta]

This has nothing to do with tiredness or drunkenness, you were just overly anxious. This has happened to me many times in the past and always fucks with my head when it happens. It's happened with hot girls and ugly girls. Has nothing to do with the girl. Once you start overthinking things your dick will go soft. When it goes soft you'll think even more, and it's a negative thought loop that's hard to end. Once I took 2 Cialis pills when this happened and I was still soft (lol), so it's clearly not a physical issue, but mental. Nowadays it hardly ever happens to be, but every once in a while I cannot get it up. Usually it happens if I go to a brothel and pay for sex it happens - the pressure of "I paid money, so I NEED to fuck and get my money's worth." I stopped doing p4p for this reason. Sometimes your dick won't get hard if a girl is TOO hot because you might be nervous.

I stopped having these problems after I banged enough girls. I have enough confidence now knowing that my notch count is high, and a personal track record of fucking girls well for a long time. The main thing is to not beat yourself up over this. Realize that it happens to 99% of guys at some point in their lives, and also realize that even though a girl might be disappointed, most girls don't care as much as you think (but yes, lots of girls won't want to see you a second time if you give them lousy or no sex on the first date if they're expecting it). I would probably just move on from this chick and find another, but if you really like her then take a Cialis before you see her next time. Earlier in my post I said Cialis won't make a difference, but it might be you a placebo affect knowing your dick will work.

tldr: stop overthinking this, also build up a large enough notch count and you'll eventually cross over a threshold and not have these issues again.

[tomzestatlu]

It happened to me probably for many times. It´s just psychical thing. Once you start thinking about it, it just gets worse. And together with stress or physical exhaustion, it just happens.
Last time it happened to me was actually few days ago. I somekind of counted on it might happen. I broke up with fiancee and it was just the day she moved her stuff away, so I was broken, plus I was physically exhausted from my trainings.
I always have been bad from this situation, but this time I took it quite well. I lost hard-on 3 times, always before sex happened and in the end I just told her to finish me with hand, even though I was soft. Still feel better then stressing too much about it. And in the end, she wants me to come again.

What helps me in this situation is getting out of bed. It never starts working again in bed. Suggest going to kitchen to have a glass of water and start there again.

[Kobe]

(03-15-2018 09:14 AM)Selembao Wrote:  

OP, you did not mention if the girl was hot, or was it a fattie?

Some years ago, I pulled a girl from a club. She was no stunner. Took her to my place. I couldn‘t get hard. She sucked me, my cock remained soft.

I told her it must be the alcohol. For some days I told myself it was the alcohol. But it wasn‘t.

Two weeks later, I pulled a much better girl and my boner came back. I could bang her a third time, drunk, without dick pills.

So stop thinking about that incident and upgrade your girls.

Something similar happened to me and this is the case.