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02-25-2018, 02:44 PM
I matched a girl on Tinder and she was interested off the bat. We had a short series of texts and then met for drinks a few days later. Things went well; she touched me, laughed at my jokes, gave me the puppy eyes look, etc etc. She said we should go to a restaurant for dinner another time and I said the following week would be good for me.
She said she had to go home and I ignored her and kept talking. She stood still and we talked some more before I said its time for us to go.
I never have any troubles kiss closing but because I liked her and wanted her to think about me some more, I kissed her on both cheeks but she actually went for the lip kiss. I gave her a peck and we went our separate ways.
About 5 days later I text her to meet up for dinner and she ignored. I then called her 4 days later and left a voicemail and she texted back something along the lines of "I have family problems and dont have time to see anyone at the moment."
I actually like her and want to see her again. I plan to wait a few weeks and then try again. Am I out of luck? I might be over-thinking the kiss thing but my other experiences tell me that if a girl makes herself vulnerable and you don't reciprocate then you are toast.
How should I proceed?
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02-25-2018, 03:20 PM
Sounds like a bullshit excuse to me. There's a tiny tiny chance it's not and she is an emotional wreck incapable of seeing anyone right now, but if that's true why would you see her again anyways?
You met on Tinder and barely kiss closed. My guess is you lost her because you didn't press for the bang. Live and learn.
There's no harm in pinging her later but don't get your hopes up. Get other girls and remember to always be moving t'word the bang. Girls on Tinder should be a 2 date bang max, any longer and you're going to lose their attention. With good pictures and the right game a lot of these Tinder hoes will come straight to your pad, and almost all of them will be down to go back to yours after a good date with proper escalation while you stoke the fires of sexual tension.
Also this belongs in the newbie section.
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02-25-2018, 03:50 PM
Agree with Eugenics this should be in the newbie section....
The excuse might be legit, with that said I still would treat it the same either way. Just forget about her, A man's greatest weakness is his heart.
Girls aren't as stupid as they claim to be. They know tinder is a place for hooking up and having fun. She wanted you to fuck her and you didn't give her what she wanted. In my experience, the whole (have her wanting more) thing doesn't work for tinder. People get on to have sex and if you don't give her that she's going to lose interest and feel like she wasted her time. Either that or she wanted a free meal, either way, its not grounds to reply after the first date.
Like i said man, just ignore her and forget about her. Tinder hoes are a dime a dozen, And don't fall for any of them.
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02-25-2018, 04:11 PM
She said "I should get going now" but I ignored that and kept talking as I wanted to control the interaction. After about 15 minutes I called it a night.
What is the best way for me to try to re-initiate contact in a few weeks? I lose nothing by trying again...
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02-25-2018, 04:17 PM
Quote: (02-25-2018 04:11 PM)plato123 Wrote:
She said "I should get going now" but I ignored that and kept talking as I wanted to control the interaction. After about 15 minutes I called it a night.
What is the best way for me to try to re-initiate contact in a few weeks? I lose nothing by trying again...
You potentially lose a lot by trying again. She can accuse you of being a stalker, a rapist, a creep etc. Just leave it alone.
However, if you just HAVE to do it, my advice is to call her, try to make her laugh and ask her out. That's what worked for me (but i only did it once)
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02-25-2018, 05:15 PM
Actions over words. Women are rarely direct with men, and there's an "it's not you, it's me" polite subtext here. Still means she's tapping out. You've made your intentions known and if you play it cool she might save your number and text you someday, in which case you can safely proceed directly to taking her for another drink to try again. It might even annoy her that you don't want her and she'll try to get your attention. If you don't leave it alone, there's a good chance she'll detect your thirst and you're done.
On holding her there to talk more, like Bikal said above, there's a body language difference between "I am afraid of overstaying my welcome with you" and "you have overstayed your welcome with me". The next time this happens, if you aren't sure, throw her a very easy question and pay attention to see if she actually wants to leave or not. "By the way, is the conference going well for you?" If she was afraid she's boring you, she'll be thrilled that you want to keep it going and start a whole new tangent. If she wants out, she'll give you a short answer and you should know that she's done.
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02-26-2018, 10:47 AM
This is why you should always go for the SNL with these tinder chicks. Their mood changes constantly, best you bang them so at least have some leverage.
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02-26-2018, 05:21 PM
Quote: (02-25-2018 02:44 PM)plato123 Wrote:
About 5 days later I text her to meet up
IMHO waiting 5 days is a bit much, 1-2 days is probably better. If she's on Tinder, she's probably getting many matches and dates. You don't want to wait too long or she's likely to forget you (unless you're positive you made a stellar impression on her) and you'll have to restart from scratch the next time you text/meet.
In this case I think it's a lost cause and you're better off moving on.
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02-26-2018, 07:07 PM
She nexted you.
Move on to another and don't get too wrapped up in one girl. Don't try to be a "nice guy" and definitely don't fall for a girl after a couple drinks and a peck on the cheek.
If sex is what you wanted you should have pushed the interaction as far as you could. During conversation talk about some cool shit you might have at your place so you have an excuse to take her there "Yeah you'd love this band, actually I have a record at my place lets listen to it" etc.