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"Hey man, what's your deal you talk to every girl here don't you see she has a boyfriend, I've had girls complain about you and if it keeps up you will have to leave."
This is all you need to know, and says everything about what happened. Take what he said to you on face value. He probably has to say this often enough to other guys that act weird like this too.
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"Who the fuck is this weirdo who just walked in by himself, bothering all of the women."
- said the bartender, the 10th time this week.
The bar is not your "venue" for picking up women. Intruding on other peoples fun with your ulterior motives, and making it extremely obvious, should result in you getting tossed. I'd toss you from my bar and prevent you from coming back if you did this.
First off; hipster bars are some of the most hyper-sexualized joints to hang out in. As easy, and in most cases, way easier than sports bars to hook up in. Anyone who says otherwise just doesn't have experience in them.
Secondly; the bar tender sounds right. To my earlier point. As a single man drinking in a bar, there is an unspoken bond that happens once you pull up a stool. You are there to enjoy yourself, and uphold the vibe of the establishment. To take it one step further; you are a friend to the staff. As a single drinker, there is even more responsibility on you to ingratiate yourself to the staff.
Solution: You should focus on making friends where ever you go. And put "approaching" in the backseat for now. Just go enjoy yourself and relax. Make basic small talk with the bar tender. Women will approach you if you are just enjoying yourself, and ignoring them.