[DesertHawk]

So, I've had only one sexual encounter a few years ago. I was nervous and I had trouble keeping it up. It's probably anxiety. A year ago I was officially diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder.

I want to have sex but everytime I am even close to doing it the sheer excitement makes me completely anxious and I am afraid that my dick will go soft again which would be devastating to my self confidence. It's also very frustrating.

I've talked about this with an older cousin and he says that I should practice on pros a couple of times to "normalize" sex and women for my brain so it won't make me anxious again.

Another idea is bringing it up with my therapist since she actually has learn to learn me how to function normally. The problem with this is that she's a female and rather young and good looking. So it might make the therapy rather awkward from now on. I have exactly the same problem with my general practitioner.

Any ideas or experiences that might help me out?

I am in my early twenties. Rather skinny and my health is fine.

[fiasco360]

Your health clearly isn't fine if you're having this bad of mental issues.

Look up symptoms of low serotonin and dopamine deficiency.

What do you do with your diet and health to combat these anxiety issues?

[DesertHawk]

(01-05-2018 07:54 AM)fiasco360 Wrote:  

Your health clearly isn't fine if you're having this bad of mental issues.

Look up symptoms of low serotonin and dopamine deficiency.

What do you do with your diet and health to combat these anxiety issues?

I try to workout and do my breathing exercises but something tells me that my problem might be chemical.

[roberto]

When it still doesn't work for a pro, you're gonna feel like a right looser. And we don't do P4P here.

This subject has been covered regularly here, and my advice is always the same. You're going to have to get a girlfriend, a 'nice girl' (probably a lil chubby) and take it slow.

And quit porn if you use it. thread-12879-page-147.html

Good luck bro.

[DesertHawk]

(01-05-2018 08:01 AM)roberto Wrote:  

When it still doesn't work for a pro, you're gonna feel like a right looser. And we don't do P4P here.

This subject has been covered regularly here, and my advice is always the same. You're going to have to get a girlfriend, a 'nice girl' (probably a lil chubby) and take it slow.

And quit porn if you use it. thread-12879-page-147.html

Good luck bro.

Thanks for the tips man. I considered trying nofap but I was afraid that the pent up energy will only accumulate and that energy would present itself as anxiety and panic symptoms.

[fuckoff]

Are you masturbating? Try not to jerk off for a week and you should be hard as a rock!

Are you drinking? Alcohol will kill you bone!

I went through a "soft erection' stage when I fuck Western women due to their muscular characteristics. Never had that problem with real feminine Eastern women.

Try to get to know a woman for a while so you feel comfortable with her. When I was young, I couldn't get hard unless I built some trust and comfort with her first! I believe it was due to how fucked Western women are in the head!

[roberto]

(01-05-2018 08:24 AM)DesertHawk Wrote:  

Thanks for the tips man. I considered trying nofap but I was afraid that the pent up energy will only accumulate and that energy would present itself as anxiety and panic symptoms.

Well you owe it to yourself to try. The RVF checklist for guys like you is something along the lines of

Lift heavy weights
Eat healthy- less carbs, especially sugar. Eat steak, eggs and leafy green veg
Take a few specific supplements- Zinc in particular.
Quit porn. Fap less or cut it out entirely if you can.

Tell me sincerely that you are doing all of the above and we'll be willing to help you any way we can. But my advice re a nice girl still stands. Enjoy her company. Enjoy her body, and try to totally relax. Lick her pussy till she comes. Have her suck you off whilst you lick her pussy and banish all thoughts from your head other than how good the pussy tastes.

[Blaster]

The best way to get comfortable with sexual encounters is to just have more of them.

It also might be helpful, when you're in the moment, to just think of her body as yours to do whatever you want with. I mean, be aware of how she responds but don't worry about pleasing her, focus on gratifying yourself.

Finally, some girls really just aren't very good at sex and if you don't have experience you may not recognize that she's doing something distracting or unfeminine and not now how to deal with it.

[Blaster]

Also, I second nofap. I don't find it a huge deal one way or the other but I think if you're having trouble getting it up then having a full load could help significantly.

[Sidney Crosby]

Quit watching porn, so you don't feel worry about being less experienced and about not having a 8" cock

[Cr33pin]

(01-05-2018 12:38 PM)Sidney Crosby Wrote:  

Quit watching porn, so you don't feel worry about being less experienced and about not having a 8" cock

[Blaster]

Maybe that's why it's going soft, bigger dicks require more blood flow to stay hard.

[treypound]

Quit porn, today.
Increase your fitness routine, even if by an additional 15 minutes each time in the gym

[RatInTheWoods]

Stop using porn and jerkling off too much (once or twice a week is ok)

Also, it looks like you need to actually have a relationship and "take it slow" with a women. Date, get to know her, get comfortable and go through the petting, making out and ramp up slowly.

This will ensure you lose anxiety, and remain comfortable enough to have sex in a relaxed and normal enjoyable way.

This was the normal way people had sex a few decades ago. We didn't grow up porn stars with our first bang.

We were nervous as fuck.

[Kona]

(01-05-2018 07:29 AM)DesertHawk Wrote:  

Another idea is bringing it up with my therapist since she actually has learn to learn me how to function normally. The problem with this is that she's a female and rather young and good looking.

Here's your problem. Stop talking to that bitch and get a man therapist.

She's teaching you how to function, but it's how to function like a woman. No wonder you can't get your dixk hard. Jesus man. You go to a therapist because you obviously got problems. Now you get some skank whining at you. Stop stop stop.

This is why I like my doctor at the VA. He's active duty army. If I have red shit dripping out of my dick I can say "help there's red shit dripping out of my dick." If it was a woman I'd have to say ' pardon me, there appears to be a mauve hued discharge flailing from me penisary location" or something stupid.

Aloha!