I see a lot of threads on this forum that ostensibly seek advice, but are really excuse porn. Examples are:
I'm not tall enough
I'm not rich enough
This country is play out
This app is played out
So and so celebrity is only successful because of plastic surgery
Women are sluts and not worth my time
I'm a slow gainer.
Some of those threads have some good advice if you read them with a goal to improve yourself. But its too easy to dwell on things that need to be improved and use that as a reason to not take the first step.
I'm closer to 50 than 40, balding, and overweight. I reentered the dating market on Labor Day and I"m +10. All were under 30, most under 25. All were 7 or above. My friends saw the pictures, they can vouch for that.
The first step in success is believing you can do it. I know a guy who is 40+, has less hair than me, and probably more overweight than me. He had 2 girls last night. He brough 3 girls to a sex party the week before. Now this guy has some stuff going for him, but if he can do it you can.
What is his secret? He's constantly learning and trying to improve. He's taken stuff from my game and made his own game better, a lot better. He reaches out to people on this forum to learn from them and to help them. I owe 95% of my results to him.
Him and the other 40+ friend I made on this site had been over 300lbs!! They both lost 50+ pounds. They and I are dealing with divorces and a lot of other shit in their lives. But we made a decision to put one foot in front of the other.
Too many people on this site want to make excuses or say such and such isn't possible. No, you don't want to admit its possible because to do so is an admission that you have failed, or at least not succeeded yet.
Once you accept that its possible, you then have to determine how to make it possible.
One step is to be thankful for what you have. One of my friends is well over 6 feet tall. He doesn't realize that his height is the equivalent of DD tits with no bra. He was asking me for fashion advice as if that matters. If a girl with DD tits had poor fashion sense and wasn't wearing a bra, would you care?
Take an inventory of what you have and what you don't have. Bolster your confidence about what you have and get out there. And make a plan to improve what you don't have. But don't dwell on what you don't have.
Right now I don't have any living room furniture. All I have is a leather chair. For a year I used that as an excuse to not bring girls back. Now, I bring them back, fix them a drink and tell them to come sit on my lap. I massage them when they are sitting on my lap and they forget I don't have any furniture. I'm finger banging them in 5-10 minutes, and throwing them down on my bed a few minutes after that. Thank you to the poster who started the zero date bang thread. Thank you to my friend who showed me how easy it was to have dates meet you at your house instead of a bar or restaurant. Again, once you realize what is possible, you can make it happen.
I'm not trying to call anyone out. But if you are not having the success you want, ask yourself why? Are you making excuses? Do you believe its possible? If us old farts can do it with our bellies and thinning hair, you can do it if you just let yourself believe you can do it.
My game is no where near complete. I learn something new everyday. I'm by no means a game master. I'm not posting this to try to pretend I am better than you. Quite the opposite. If an old fart like me can get these results, than you can. If only you humble yourself and let yourself believe it can be done.
I'm not tall enough
I'm not rich enough
This country is play out
This app is played out
So and so celebrity is only successful because of plastic surgery
Women are sluts and not worth my time
I'm a slow gainer.
Some of those threads have some good advice if you read them with a goal to improve yourself. But its too easy to dwell on things that need to be improved and use that as a reason to not take the first step.
I'm closer to 50 than 40, balding, and overweight. I reentered the dating market on Labor Day and I"m +10. All were under 30, most under 25. All were 7 or above. My friends saw the pictures, they can vouch for that.
The first step in success is believing you can do it. I know a guy who is 40+, has less hair than me, and probably more overweight than me. He had 2 girls last night. He brough 3 girls to a sex party the week before. Now this guy has some stuff going for him, but if he can do it you can.
What is his secret? He's constantly learning and trying to improve. He's taken stuff from my game and made his own game better, a lot better. He reaches out to people on this forum to learn from them and to help them. I owe 95% of my results to him.
Him and the other 40+ friend I made on this site had been over 300lbs!! They both lost 50+ pounds. They and I are dealing with divorces and a lot of other shit in their lives. But we made a decision to put one foot in front of the other.
Too many people on this site want to make excuses or say such and such isn't possible. No, you don't want to admit its possible because to do so is an admission that you have failed, or at least not succeeded yet.
Once you accept that its possible, you then have to determine how to make it possible.
One step is to be thankful for what you have. One of my friends is well over 6 feet tall. He doesn't realize that his height is the equivalent of DD tits with no bra. He was asking me for fashion advice as if that matters. If a girl with DD tits had poor fashion sense and wasn't wearing a bra, would you care?
Take an inventory of what you have and what you don't have. Bolster your confidence about what you have and get out there. And make a plan to improve what you don't have. But don't dwell on what you don't have.
Right now I don't have any living room furniture. All I have is a leather chair. For a year I used that as an excuse to not bring girls back. Now, I bring them back, fix them a drink and tell them to come sit on my lap. I massage them when they are sitting on my lap and they forget I don't have any furniture. I'm finger banging them in 5-10 minutes, and throwing them down on my bed a few minutes after that. Thank you to the poster who started the zero date bang thread. Thank you to my friend who showed me how easy it was to have dates meet you at your house instead of a bar or restaurant. Again, once you realize what is possible, you can make it happen.
I'm not trying to call anyone out. But if you are not having the success you want, ask yourself why? Are you making excuses? Do you believe its possible? If us old farts can do it with our bellies and thinning hair, you can do it if you just let yourself believe you can do it.
My game is no where near complete. I learn something new everyday. I'm by no means a game master. I'm not posting this to try to pretend I am better than you. Quite the opposite. If an old fart like me can get these results, than you can. If only you humble yourself and let yourself believe it can be done.
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