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Happiness
#1

Happiness

Maybe its the La Flor Dominacana talking, but I've had one of my usual life pondering moments on the balcony.

I seem to have it all. In my upper twenties I have a fantastic job with unbelievable flexibility and good pay. I have a good family and good friends.

I guess this is about positive energy. I always think back to a friend of mine from college I still see at least once a year. She has a good life too, but definitely doesn't have it like I have. She just exudes this wonderful aura that nobody else I've known has. She has a smile on her face all of the time, literally. She's a shining example of something I wish I had, an ability to make people feel better about themselves. She makes me feel good every time I see her.

Any time I get talking about the flexibility or awesomeness of my job, I just feel like I'm bragging, or rubbing it in someones faces.

I certainly don't expect an answer to this puzzle in this forum, but maybe some empathy or story. The vagueness of this even bothers me, but basically I'm looking for a way to telegraph and expand on the satisfaction I have on my life to other people.

Perhaps its innate, and maybe some people are just born to be shining beacons?
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#2

Happiness

It sounds like she is internally happy. Its not based on some job or girl or something, just happy. Simple to copy but not easy.

Happiness is getting what you want, and more importantly wanting what you get. It should also be internally generated if possible.
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#3

Happiness

The people that are outwardly happy, are not always internally happy. I can think of several examples in my own life, both male and female, that are go from outwardly very positive and happy almost all the time, to when black out drunk, extremely vicious and vile. To the point where you realize that in the wrong situation they would kill someone.
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#4

Happiness

I've known people like you're describing. They're always smiling and can't help but make you feel good. Some people are real life angels and don't even realize it.
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#5

Happiness

I'm starting to think being genuinely, internally happy and thrilled to be alive is the most alpha thing you can do.

In 3 years, I've developed some decent game and fucked women I never thought I could. It makes me feel good for a while and definitely boosts my confidence, but it doesn't make me feel fulfilled.

I quit my boring job and did something unique on my own. I'm proud of it, and work is fun, but this doesn't fulfill me either. Like OP, it sometimes just feels like bragging.

I've accomplished other goals in fitness, status, relationships, self-confidence. I really can't complain. Not to brag, but I feel that, on paper, I could be the RVF self-improvement poster child.

That glowing, genuine happiness that OP mentions is something that still eludes me. There's no doubt I feel better than before, but I definitely can't call it happiness.

When I first came across Roosh's blog, I decided I wanted to learn game, travel, start my own business, and live an exciting life just like his. I feel like I've taken those steps with the foolish belief that happiness would just appear once I got to a certain point. Now, I think the obvious truth is that every person has their own unique path to happiness, like it or not.

Has anyone here found this true happiness without being born with it? Tell us about it.
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#6

Happiness

The secret to happiness is inward gratitude. You don't have to tell people how great your job is - just reflect on how grateful you are to have the job and to have had all the life experiences that led up to the job. That includes the experiences you didn't enjoy or appreciate at the time. I know it sounds corny but people will pick up on your vibe and feel better about themselves being around you. The keyword there is inward. Don't become one of those obnoxious pricks who goes around talking about how grateful and humble they are.
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#7

Happiness

Can you truly be happy all the time? That one be quite mono mood life since ou always have a variety of emotions. Happiness seems to motivate you do things for a slight high which doesn't last long. Than its unto another project. Perhaps contentment at being alive is a better goal to pursue emotionally. I haven't achieved this, but I think internally based emotions are far more powerful and last longer, than fleeting external validation.
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#8

Happiness

If you want to be truly happy then stop being envious of others and coveting what they have. Treat others well and surround yourself with positive people. Focus around being impactful opposed to acquiring new things.
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