At every stage of the player's journey, there enters a feeling of being dissatisfied with women and dating. [Warning this turned out to be longer than I expected.]
Beginning: I can't get girls to talk to me, girls laugh at my jokes but won't come home and bang. I buy them dinner and they ghost.
Middle: I can get 5/6s but nothing better. Older hitting-the-wall chicks want me but not younger ones. All the hot girls are on social media looking at their phone, not me.
Advanced: Hot club sluts used to excite me now I find them vapid and boring. Game is feeling more and more like a waste of my time. All girls are slutty.
We've all felt this way at times and/ or know guys that are going through these issues at RVF or in the real world. It's time to get real here.
Many of these feelings are a reflection of how we really feel about ourselves: If we have no/bad Game and cannot get a date, we blame women when it's our own fault.
So we improve our game a little, we fake some confidence, start going to the gym, look women in the eye and approach them. That gets us in the door. It's like climbing a mountain until you get to that first plateau when you can rest and have some success.
We've only gotten the very basics down and our SMV is still low. We cannot get what we want & we're still unhappy - rightly so.
Now we get to the next level & have no fears of talking to women in bars and coffeeshops, kinoing, sexualizing the conversation. On a good day we can build attraction and comfort. SDLs are no longer a myth.
However, many of us strive for better results - the hereto elusive 8-9s. [We still don't think we can ever get a 10 yet]. Looking average is no longer acceptable to us - we have to get in good shape such that others will notice, start to notice what well-dressed guys wear and emulate them, ditch the blue polo and khakis. Our conversation needs to become more interesting than just chick crack and opening gambits to elicit a reaction.
We look in the mirror and our SMV is average, mediocre. Maybe our career is stalled and that unhappiness blends into social events. Or we don't work very hard/often and we spend our days worrying about money. We lack confidence to approach a gorgeous woman.
Women can size you up in 10 seconds and if you don't measure up, it's not their fault, it's yours! You don't go out to buy a new Lexus and come home with a used Hyundai minivan do you? #AWALT
How we feel about ourselves is also a reflection on how the women around us make us feel. This is an important concept rarely discussed at RVF.
We wake up with a 140 pound 6 we picked up last night and don't really feel excited, even if she was a slumpbuster. You don't feel like seeing her again unless you get a booty call and you're at home playing scrabble with your turtle. It doesn't feel like we won even though we banged some new pussy.
Those dedicated to getting advanced at Game keep at it: they have their career on lock, they go out often to pickup day/nite, women compliment how they dress, they seek to understand exactly how women tick, date in new pools of talent, they #Next those who are red/yellow light girls.
Now the 8/9s are attainable when you get 'lucky' and then on a more consistent basis, girls casually mention they want to blow you in the bathroom or be tied up or anal, come over and cook you dinner, are cool with being fuckbuddies, 3somes. You become known for dating models in your circle.
Finally, we get the dreaded 'Player's fatigue.' Going out all the time is boring. I can bang a new hot girl every weekend but I feel...stuck. I want a wife and kids someday or at least a wife. Time I spend chasing girls could be spent with friends or developing a side biz. Sure I've banged over 100 women, but now what?
We look in the mirror and our reflection stares back at us. Were we trying to be happy or just trying to get laid all this time? Is all I've accomplished being able to fill a wet hole...do I surround myself with chicks who have nothing in their life other than FB, IG and Snap? What do I really see when I look at myself...an insecure adolescent?
These chicks don't make us feel good inside for a long period of time. We're not happy to be around them for more than a couple hours a week, max. Maybe to only show her off and make other guys jealous. It's even possible that we sometimes have 4 or 5 of them in a harem -- but care for none of them.
So many times guys at RVF have remarked that they feel like they found the 'cheat code' to getting laid on the reg. How much fun is cheating at golf to win? or poker?
There are two ways to graduate out of game: One is to become the best man you can be -- physically, mentally, socially, fashionably, artistically, monetarily -- and have the confidence to know who you are, what you want, and whom you're willing to spend your time with. You can take or leave any hot woman that walks by without needing to prove yourself. You're fully independent and don't need a date or a lay this weekend to be happy.
The better way to win is to be interdependent: Not only are you the best man you can be as above, with inner game is on lock, you look in the mirror and a happy, smiling dude looks back at you and winks like a rogue.
You also spend your time with a woman who makes you feel better about yourself. Your good feelings about yourself are amplified by her. Call it 'wife material' if you wish. Someone you'd let have your kids, loyal and smart and funny and hardworking and loves pleasing you in different ways. You actually miss her when she's gone. #NAWALT.
tl/dr; Outer game has to be right, Inner game tight, and the women around you need to increase your well-being. Otherwise you feel like you're lacking something important or unhappy with your dating results.
Beginning: I can't get girls to talk to me, girls laugh at my jokes but won't come home and bang. I buy them dinner and they ghost.
Middle: I can get 5/6s but nothing better. Older hitting-the-wall chicks want me but not younger ones. All the hot girls are on social media looking at their phone, not me.
Advanced: Hot club sluts used to excite me now I find them vapid and boring. Game is feeling more and more like a waste of my time. All girls are slutty.
We've all felt this way at times and/ or know guys that are going through these issues at RVF or in the real world. It's time to get real here.
Many of these feelings are a reflection of how we really feel about ourselves: If we have no/bad Game and cannot get a date, we blame women when it's our own fault.
So we improve our game a little, we fake some confidence, start going to the gym, look women in the eye and approach them. That gets us in the door. It's like climbing a mountain until you get to that first plateau when you can rest and have some success.
We've only gotten the very basics down and our SMV is still low. We cannot get what we want & we're still unhappy - rightly so.
Now we get to the next level & have no fears of talking to women in bars and coffeeshops, kinoing, sexualizing the conversation. On a good day we can build attraction and comfort. SDLs are no longer a myth.
However, many of us strive for better results - the hereto elusive 8-9s. [We still don't think we can ever get a 10 yet]. Looking average is no longer acceptable to us - we have to get in good shape such that others will notice, start to notice what well-dressed guys wear and emulate them, ditch the blue polo and khakis. Our conversation needs to become more interesting than just chick crack and opening gambits to elicit a reaction.
We look in the mirror and our SMV is average, mediocre. Maybe our career is stalled and that unhappiness blends into social events. Or we don't work very hard/often and we spend our days worrying about money. We lack confidence to approach a gorgeous woman.
Women can size you up in 10 seconds and if you don't measure up, it's not their fault, it's yours! You don't go out to buy a new Lexus and come home with a used Hyundai minivan do you? #AWALT
How we feel about ourselves is also a reflection on how the women around us make us feel. This is an important concept rarely discussed at RVF.
We wake up with a 140 pound 6 we picked up last night and don't really feel excited, even if she was a slumpbuster. You don't feel like seeing her again unless you get a booty call and you're at home playing scrabble with your turtle. It doesn't feel like we won even though we banged some new pussy.
Those dedicated to getting advanced at Game keep at it: they have their career on lock, they go out often to pickup day/nite, women compliment how they dress, they seek to understand exactly how women tick, date in new pools of talent, they #Next those who are red/yellow light girls.
Now the 8/9s are attainable when you get 'lucky' and then on a more consistent basis, girls casually mention they want to blow you in the bathroom or be tied up or anal, come over and cook you dinner, are cool with being fuckbuddies, 3somes. You become known for dating models in your circle.
Finally, we get the dreaded 'Player's fatigue.' Going out all the time is boring. I can bang a new hot girl every weekend but I feel...stuck. I want a wife and kids someday or at least a wife. Time I spend chasing girls could be spent with friends or developing a side biz. Sure I've banged over 100 women, but now what?
We look in the mirror and our reflection stares back at us. Were we trying to be happy or just trying to get laid all this time? Is all I've accomplished being able to fill a wet hole...do I surround myself with chicks who have nothing in their life other than FB, IG and Snap? What do I really see when I look at myself...an insecure adolescent?
These chicks don't make us feel good inside for a long period of time. We're not happy to be around them for more than a couple hours a week, max. Maybe to only show her off and make other guys jealous. It's even possible that we sometimes have 4 or 5 of them in a harem -- but care for none of them.
So many times guys at RVF have remarked that they feel like they found the 'cheat code' to getting laid on the reg. How much fun is cheating at golf to win? or poker?
There are two ways to graduate out of game: One is to become the best man you can be -- physically, mentally, socially, fashionably, artistically, monetarily -- and have the confidence to know who you are, what you want, and whom you're willing to spend your time with. You can take or leave any hot woman that walks by without needing to prove yourself. You're fully independent and don't need a date or a lay this weekend to be happy.
The better way to win is to be interdependent: Not only are you the best man you can be as above, with inner game is on lock, you look in the mirror and a happy, smiling dude looks back at you and winks like a rogue.
You also spend your time with a woman who makes you feel better about yourself. Your good feelings about yourself are amplified by her. Call it 'wife material' if you wish. Someone you'd let have your kids, loyal and smart and funny and hardworking and loves pleasing you in different ways. You actually miss her when she's gone. #NAWALT.
tl/dr; Outer game has to be right, Inner game tight, and the women around you need to increase your well-being. Otherwise you feel like you're lacking something important or unhappy with your dating results.