[oceanpua]

When I started daygaming two years ago, I would see a hot girl walk past and I would get giddy at the thought of fucking her. Since then, I have 15 notches from daygame and, if I put in the time, I can average one notch a month.

There is ample room for improvement, no doubt. But, I have a dilemma: For the last few months, I am struggling to conjure up that same desire to fuck that got me into daygame in the first place. Today, I see a girl walk past, and I don’t get the same urge to fuck her. Instead, I feel a kind of indifference.

I am just 27 years old, so I don’t think it is hormonal (though, I am getting my testosterone levels checked just to be sure). I can go on for days without masturbating - no problem. I am not particularly stressed. I am still passionate about other things like fitness, music, books, growing my business, etc…

If this lasted a few days, I would chalk it up to randomness, but I have been noticing it for a while. I took a 30 day break to reset, but that did not help. I asked my wing, and he admitted to a similar feeling:

"I'm just about being good at game. But not really excited w girls anymore. Probably a pointless endeavor for me. It's like I want to learn to play piano very well. But I have no interest in music as such."

I want to get better at game. Before, my motivation to approach day after day came from being horny. That has vanished, it seems. I am curious if anyone can relate to this feeling. What motivates you to keep pushing the boundaries in game? Is it still sex or something else?

[Comte De St. Germain]

I like interacting with women and companionship. Call me beta but if an orgasm was all I expected from women the ROI would be better on hookers and porn.

[Rhyme or Reason]

Banging is great but the more I experience in life the more I conclude that what most guys who come to the forum are after isn't actually sex itself. It's all that comes with it.

Think about it; if we were just after sex...would any one of us stick around this place for years on end after we've figured out how to game chicks and get what we want out of them? Would anyone bother posting lengthy reports of bangs and data sheet after datasheet on various locations all across the globe? What incentive does a man who is only looking for sex have to do that?


Banging is great icing on the cake but the game is the reward in and of itself. The improvements you make in yourself. Your increased station in life. The sharing of information, and bonding with like minded men. The admiration of peers, and respect from the women in your life.

Your ability to choose.

Your ability to live on your own terms.


This is what game is about.

[RatInTheWoods]

Because I genuinely love women.

[King of Monkeys]

Because I want freedom. I'm tired of bottling shit up and not knowing how to handle. Sitting at my computer and waiting for something to change is not going to happen; I have to make that decision and choose where I want my life to go.

Through game, I see myself overcoming my shyness and learning how to enjoy life. If I can not only approach a hot girl, have a long conversation with her while clearly showing my sexual intentions, and be able to have a good time regardless of what happens, then I feel like I can conquer my biggest social fears and become closer to the man I want to become. This whole process is arduous and some of the most mentally and emotionally challenging things I've ever done, so I know it's going to make me stronger.

[YoungBlade]

I am strictly here to post autism in Politics and War.

[EndsExpect]

(10-28-2017 06:22 PM)oceanpua Wrote:  

When I started daygaming two years ago, I would see a hot girl walk past and I would get giddy at the thought of fucking her. Since then, I have 15 notches from daygame and, if I put in the time, I can average one notch a month.
There is ample room for improvement, no doubt. But, I have a dilemma: For the last few months, I am struggling to conjure up that same desire to fuck that got me into daygame in the first place. Today, I see a girl walk past, and I don’t get the same urge to fuck her. Instead, I feel a kind of indifference.
I am just 27 years old, so I don’t think it is hormonal (though, I am getting my testosterone levels checked just to be sure). I can go on for days without masturbating - no problem. I am not particularly stressed. I am still passionate about other things like fitness, music, books, growing my business, etc…
Is it still sex or something else?

My testosterone crashed at 27. My sex drive tanked. I was so busy at work I just thought it was stress and didn't really notice. I was watching Blackhawk Down and I felt like crying, which freaked me out. So I went to the doctor the next day and found out my Testosterone was good, but my Free Testosterone was low. They put me on a skin application gel. The turnaround was amazing. I lost 20 lbs that I had been struggling with, I got angry with stuff again, and I wanted to bang every woman I could. I hammered so many 5's that year... even some 4s.

[XXL]

Sex alone is overrated and loss of time most of the times.

My motivation has always been to be capable and have a choice to meet women at any point of my life.

[JoeSea]

It's like you come to a place like this forum, get armed with all the info you need to figure out how to do better with women and that alone becomes the focus. Where it's not so much about any one woman as much as it's the about the idea of doing better in general with them.

Depending on how long you've been focusing on game, you may need a lot longer than 30 days to recalibrate yourself back to having the natural motivation to seek out women for no other reason that just wanting to be around them. Sounds beta I know, but every heterosexual man has this type of drive within him, you just have to give it time to resurface.

And when it does, that sort of true natural desire, which is different than just being horny and wanting sex, combined with what you learned studying and learning game is how you can really get to the next level as long as you don't fall back into old bad habits.

At that point game and women become just another facet of your life rather than the sole focus or something that takes up too much of your time and energy.

[Lunostrelki]

I'm married and I have to figure out ways to keep improving my relationship lest it stagnate. Beyond that, it is a fact that women have been handed such power that one must know how to negotiate with and lead them in professional and social life. Game, when you strip away its promiscuous and degenerate connotations, is essentially the art of leading by example and force of personality.

[pancakemouse]

I feel the same way as you. Can go a couple weeks without sex, often a month+ without a problem.

But if it gets too long my evolutionary biology takes over, so I go crazy.

So I might as well get as good as I can at Game so I can make it as easy as possible to have a girl to fuck every month or so for the rest of my life.