2. Never really had a girlfriend. How would I get one?
06-25-2017, 10:51 AM
OK here's your concrete list. Let's see you worm out of this one.
I, RexImperator, want a girlfriend. I recognize the following points:
1. It is not normal for a man to be 42 and have never had one. To understand the nature of this, I admit that asking from time to time on an internet forum isn't going to cut it, and I need expert feedback from a psychologist, since that's the whole purpose of their job
2. I do recognize that to get a girlfriend I will need to meet new women, and have expressive conversations with them, to find someone that I like and that likes me. I accept this will take time and there is no quick fix.
Quote: (06-25-2017 09:48 AM)RexImperator Wrote:
Only #5 if "others" refers to the forum...
3. I'm fundamentally lazy. I've responded to a request for "what are you doing or have you done" by weasely responding "I don't care what pleases you guys". My requests for help here are
false, and they are closer to grumbles or the laziest way I can say to myself "I'm doing something to try and fix this", than genuine desires to succeed.
In recognition of this, I thereby commit to the following:
1.a. Tomorrow, I will search for 3 psychologists in my city. I will then call them and schedule appointments through the week. Total time investment: 1 hour to find, call and schedule.
1.b. I will then prepare a list of questions to ask each of them, that will allow me to choose one. Questions like "have you had clients like myself before", "have you successfully corrected this before", "how do you usually work with this issue / what is your method" etc. Total time investment: 1 hour.
1.c. I will attend the sessions. Total time investment: 5 hours (including commute times)
1.d. I will choose the best and most honest and direct-talking psychologist, and commit to 10 hours of sessions with him, to uproot the fundamental reasons I don't get with girls on a long term basis. Total time investment: 15 hours (including commute times)
1.e. I will not bullshit and excuse my way out of this by saying shit like "nah I don't really need that" etc.
-- Total investment for (1): 22 hours. As a percentage of live already lived: 0.006%
2.a. I will download a counting app for my phone. I will press the count up button each time I start a conversation with a new woman. I will report that number here at the end of every week.
2.b. I will list out at least 10 new avenues through which I can meet new women (anything from cooking classes to rock climbing), and select 2 from that list. I will then find those 2 things in my city, and schedule them for the week after next. I commit to
not ruling out all 10 things from that list (only 8 of them max on this first round) by excuse-finding weaseling behaviour. I will then post those 2 things here in this thread.
2.c. I will upon completing these two things, walk out to the nearest coffee shop, and ask the first woman I see sat down "hi do you have the time?", and tally it in my counter app, to affirm my commitment to (2).
-- Total weekly time investment from next week: ~ 5 hours including attending the new things and starting up conversations with women. As percentage of life already lived: 0.0013%
3.a. I commit to not starting another thread here until I have posted my approach tallies and other actions I've taken
in this very thread for at least 4 weeks, and I will post my week's actions here
every week.
3.b. I request that the members here come down on me like a ton of bricks, and call me everything I deserve to be called, and
welcome those responses, if I do not perform these actions.
Will you do that or not?