[seaforu]

To make a long story short I got cucked up until about a year ago.

Met a girl I thought was wonderful but missed all the red flags and fell in love with her. She ended up cheating on me with some dudes because I was acting very beta (I realized this after the relationship ended. I wasn't experienced at the time so I fell in love with the first hot girl that approached me basically and did everything for her).

Me and this girl have not spoken for about a year and honestly my sex life has never been better anyway. I have at least 5 plates currently so it's not like I'm not getting my fair share.

What I'm more worried about is my reputation at town. She used to party a lot.

I have a suspicion a lot of guys and girls knew exactly what was going on before I was (alpha fux, beta bux).

Basically I don't want to be viewed as the guy who got cucked...

I'm guessing girls find this repulsive and guys simply lose respect for a man who (at the time) was dating a whore not knowing better. Thoughts on this?

[Rocha]

How big is your city?

[JayD]

[birthday cat]

I don't think there is much you can do other than not worry about it and let some time pass so people forget about it.

Most people spend all their free time thinking about themselves, not thinking about other people, so people aren't thinking about this situation nearly as much as you think they are.

[seaforu]

(06-04-2017 02:10 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

How big is your city?

It's the second biggest city in my country. Live in Scandinavia.

I was thinking of simply not giving a fuck and just keep spinning plates (also at town).

But does anyone have any thoughts on what people usually think of someone that has gotten cucked? I know nature doesn't give a fuck about feelings, but does everybody simple lose respect and think of me as having gotten played? Simple as that?

I'm basically trying to recover socially as good as possible from this.

[Rocha]

(06-04-2017 02:14 PM)seaforu Wrote:  

(06-04-2017 02:10 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

How big is your city?

It's the second biggest city in my country. Live in Scandinavia.

I was thinking of simply not giving a fuck and just keep spinning plates (also at town).

But does anyone have any thoughts on what people usually think of someone that has gotten cucked? I know nature doesn't give a fuck about feelings, but does everybody simple lose respect and think of me as having gotten played? Simple as that?

I'm basically trying to recover socially as good as possible from this.

Just get new friends and new girls. Your city seems to be big enough to not worry about what other people think. She must have had to bang 100 guys for you to be worried.

[birthday cat]

I'm very analytical and have gone from zero to pretty good at game so I hope you can trust me and not over-think this. Your analytical nature is a far bigger problem than this situation with your prior girlfriend. Forget about that girl and learn how to not care so much about the bad behavior of some females.

[the-dream]

It's already been a year. Any damage that was going to have been done will have been done already and I doubt that "damage" is anything to worry about. Did something embarrassing happen publicly? If not, I think you're just overthinking and there's nothing to worry about... nobody watched you get "cucked" and they wouldn't care anyway.

[Repo]

Nobody gives a shit. As long as you have reformed your ways and don't take shit from the women you are seeing, its all good. Everyone knows a guy whose been cheated on, and if you are truely living the way you say you are it will be apparent that you have learned and are no longer the sucker.

Though the fact that this bothers you so much has me concerned that you have not fully gotten over your beta behaviour.

[seaforu]

Thanks for all your replies.

I've always been over-analytical but I will simply not give a fuck moving forward.

[Atlanta Man]

(06-04-2017 02:46 PM)seaforu Wrote:  

Thanks for all your replies.

I've always been over-analytical but I will simply not give a fuck moving forward.

Focus on you, hit the gym , and try to have around 10-15 sex partners before you attempt to do the relationship thing again. I speak from experience.

[Jetset]

(06-04-2017 02:14 PM)seaforu Wrote:  

But does anyone have any thoughts on what people usually think of someone that has gotten cucked? I know nature doesn't give a fuck about feelings, but does everybody simple lose respect and think of me as having gotten played? Simple as that?

In the United States, we sometimes refer to this as the "spotlight effect". Something happened to you, and because it all feels important and interesting for you, you believe that other people are paying attention to it, as well.

In truth, everybody else has their own problems to think about and almost nobody cares about this. Cheating is actually a pretty mundane thing. Even the guys who were fucking her stopped thinking about her after they came, and you certainly never mattered to them. Nothing is actually going on here. You have no audience. Everything is fine.

[General Stalin]

This is a non-issue.

[RichardTheFrog]

I don't think you were cucked. That would mean that you were aware of it and even watching it.

I think you were just cheated on. Were you not fucking her well enough or was she just a bitch?

[BassPlayaYo]

He wasn't cucked, just cheated on.

[Steelex]

The only damage control is to get back in the saddle and start laying the fuck outta some pipe.

Getting cheated on happens and most of the time you'll never even know it happened. Welcome to the game.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

You are over-thinking things. Women can cuck even high-value Alpha men. The Alpha men just react differently - by kicking her to the curb, coming home with 2 girls in tow and starting to bang them in front of her etc.

If you have other girls you see now, then what the fuck does it matter what this one did? You erred in judgement and did not see a slut for what she was (or you were brainwashed by the Blue Pill and feminism to accept it and be forgiving).

Either way - do what an Alpha would do. Say - fuck this bitch and approach the next girl with confidence.

[Rekkd]

Try to fuck your Ex with a hidden camera in the room (maybe it's illegall) or get nudes.. Share online!

[Windom Earle]

(06-04-2017 02:10 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

How big is your city?

Didn't know "city" was a colloquial term for penis.

[Teflon1]

You got cheated on, not "cucked" (God you guys are obsessed with cucking. Holy shit...). LOTS of people have been chested on--probably your friends as well. Don't worry about reputation--who gives a shit? You said you're in the 2nd largest city--don't know how big the population is, but Jesus, who are you that something like this would "ruin your reputation" in the city. I bet the vast majority of people don't even know you, let alone give a shit that you were cheated on. Live your life, man. No need to worry

[Barron]

(06-04-2017 02:04 PM)seaforu Wrote:  

To make a long story short I got cucked up until about a year ago.

Met a girl I thought was wonderful but missed all the red flags and fell in love with her. She ended up cheating on me with some dudes because I was acting very beta (I realized this after the relationship ended. I wasn't experienced at the time so I fell in love with the first hot girl that approached me basically and did everything for her).

Me and this girl have not spoken for about a year and honestly my sex life has never been better anyway. I have at least 5 plates currently so it's not like I'm not getting my fair share.

What I'm more worried about is my reputation at town. She used to party a lot.

I have a suspicion a lot of guys and girls knew exactly what was going on before I was (alpha fux, beta bux).

Basically I don't want to be viewed as the guy who got cucked...

I'm guessing girls find this repulsive and guys simply lose respect for a man who (at the time) was dating a whore not knowing better. Thoughts on this?

Sorry, not buying it.

If your sex life is so good right now, with "at least 5 plates!", you'd have a hard time remembering the name of some slut long ago that took other dicks when you were "together".

The only reason you're talking to her now is because you're not getting laid.

Real story = You got friend-zoned by a slut while she was getting reamed by Chad Thundercocks. Now that she's exiting her twenties with a couple kids in tow, beta-you is looking like the provider she needs. To make matters worse, you're catching feels again. Sound about right?

Just say no.

[kaotic]

Like others have said, stop giving a shit.

So what, she cheated, happens all the time.

Shrug it off and laugh it off when someone asks about it.


It's not a big deal, it's not a spot of shame, you're definitely looking into this too much, as long as you learned from it.

If you really didn't give a shit and had 5 plates and don't remember much of her - you wouldn't be posting about on online.