Quote: (05-24-2017 02:42 PM)DarkTriad Wrote:
Even if she doesn't outright divorce rape you, the massive threat of the divorce industrial complex will chip away at any degree of Alpha you have in a relationship (which they need to be happy). Even a "successful" marriage under the current laws can be a living hell. Don't do it.
This. Oh my, my, my, this.
Let's be clear about something: unless you marry someone specially fucked in the head, there is roughly zero chance of you gaming a woman while married in the West. Doubly so when you have kids. Gaming in a marriage is playing with matches while drenched in gasoline: if you know what you're doing, you don't get burned, but even then all it takes is one missed match to immolate yourself. That's because your marriage will always have the Damoclean sword of a biased property and custody settlement hanging over it. Some men handle that sword better than others, but it is always there and you would be a fool to marry without realising that simple fact.
The worst part of this fact is that your wife won't even have to overtly threaten you with a divorce. You will have cottoned on long before.
It will occur to you somewhere around the time you first get into a stand-up argument with the woman. Somewhere in the middle of gritting your teeth as she screams at you for the cardinal, unforgiveable sin of forgetting to turn on the washing machine before you left for work that morning, a sane part of your brain will whisper to you: "Dude.
She is actually serious about this. If you stand your ground much longer, she may actually get mad enough to walk. She is actually stupid enough to destroy an entire marriage over a load of washing."
You'll start to assess the consequences of that.
First, you'll be tossed from a home that you bought with your own money (or more realistically, a home that you signed over 30 years of your life to the local bank for and which you maybe own 10% of).
Second, you'll be out on the street with no support other than maybe family members (and not even then if she pissed them off or they dared to slight her in some way in the past). Your other married friends (i.e. the only friends you likely have left by this point) won't be giving you any shelter, because you're the husband; their wives all hate you, and your friends all are therefore required to hate you too.
Third, you will consign your kids to likely failed marriages themselves, since children of divorced parents generally wind up divorcing as well, let alone the fact you'll see them even less than you did while you were busting your gut paying for them and her. This is probably the hardest thing to bear - or fucking well should be - because you were stupid enough to bring your kids into this. They did not ask to be born into a fucked up marriage.
Fourth, you will consign your kids to her next boyfriend, who, by dating a "single" mother, will be somewhere on a personality spectrum that starts at "uncaring, thirsty beta" and ends at "paedophile".
Fifth, unless you consign yourself to poverty by giving her whatever the fuck she wants out of a divorce, you will subject yourself to years of stress and misery while the case winds its way through a court system that is stacked against you to the rafters.
Sixth, once you are clear of that marriage, the "residuals" (alimony/child support) will be enough to cripple your economic viability for decades to come.
All these thoughts will go through your head in a seconds-long, icy river of realisation. It's sort of like having a cold heart attack.
At that point, you will do what just about every provider husband/father with any sense has done since the era of no-fault divorce began. You will reach down, extract your balls from their scrotum, and hand them over to your wife while mumbling a promise to turn on the washing machine in future. At this point -- which happens early in every marriage -- you get your first taste of the red pill. Unfortunately, by the time you've gotten that taste, it's too fucking late. As Red once noted in
Shawshank Redemption: "Terrible thing, to live in fear."
Remissas, discite, vivet.
God save us from people who mean well. -storm
