[duedue]

19 yo from SA. She mentioned she was submissive and would submit to my every whim. I'm somewhat into BDSM so I setup a meeting at a nearby cafe/restaurant a few days ago but then told her to just come over and she obliged. I was surprised how trusting, easy going and giving she was. The opposite of most American girls. I spanked her and showed her round my place on a leash. I banged her doggy style and then she blew me for about half an hour but couldn't get me off again. Gave me a massage too. She even wanted to keep her leash to which I foolishly disagreed. Here is our last communication.


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I know it's not been long but a sub not answering his dom twice is not good. I have a few dates set up for the week and so don't think this is a classical oneity. I just liked her personality and feel a little bad about the way I sent her out. At the same time don't want to sound like a chasing and apologetic beta. Any ideas?

[cascadecombo]

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a sub not answering his dom twice is not good

What?

[BrandonCodi]

How did you interact with her the last time you saw her? Did you do anything that could have set her off?

Maybe she just didn't check her phone? Don't overthink it man. If you have a few dates already set up this week then I think you're fine. It isn't until she flakes that things become questionable. This is just one time where she didn't reply. I don't see what the big deal is. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Generally when texting I try to match the girl's pace. If she doesn't respond to you then do the same to her. Have a great conversation with her and then just cut yourself off for no reason in the middle and wait for her to reply again. They always do man. If you reach the point you have anyways. Also if she takes a few hours to respond then do the same. This might be being picky too, but you said you wanted to "thrill her ass" at 9am in the morning. I wouldn't come on so strong in the morning man. At least wait til her lunch break. She's probably just trying to get her shit together in the morning.

Keep us updated, brother. Cheers

[kaotic]

(05-13-2017 08:57 PM)duedue Wrote:  

19 yo from SA. She mentioned she was submissive and would submit to my every whim. I'm somewhat into BDSM so I setup a meeting at a nearby cafe/restaurant a few days ago but then told her to just come over and she obliged. I was surprised how trusting, easy going and giving she was. The opposite of most American girls. I spanked her and showed her round my place on a leash. I banged her doggy style and then she blew me for about half an hour but couldn't get me off again. Gave me a massage too. She even wanted to keep her leash to which I foolishly disagreed. Here is our last communication.

I know it's not been long but a sub not answering his dom twice is not good. I have a few dates set up for the week and so don't think this is a classical oneity. I just liked her personality and feel a little bad about the way I sent her out. At the same time don't want to sound like a chasing and apologetic beta. Any ideas?

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Frame and game needs to be on point for this.

OP has a Dom/Sub frame which take some skill, this is good.


But OP you need to keep in mind you met her on SA, she's probably hitting up a ton of dudes and who knows, maybe she hopped onto the next dick.

Remember, it's not your pussy, it's just your turn.

You definitely has some sort of case of oneitis, otherwise you wouldn't be on here posting about her, regardless of your other dates.


How long between texts did you hit her up ?

How long has it been since she went silent ?


I'd go radio silent on her till towards the end of this week and hit her up again.

[Exult]

I think the first time was just the end of the texting convo, tbh I'm not sure where you were going with the Santa line anyway. Wouldn't take it as a negative.

The second one is definitely a soft no. Typically when a girl asks to text them what you're going to sexually do to them when you haven't established a frame by fucking them multiple times, they are asking for their entertainment. They don't read sexy texts and get turned on like us guys do early in the relationship. Half the time the 'what are you going to do to me' is a shit test anyway. My highest success response when she is asking you what you'll do is not to answer directly, but rather tell her what time to arrive and what clothing to wear (Be here at 9, wear a short skirt, heels, ponytail, etc etc). She'll like being told what to do and it's much more difficult to ignore a direct order like that than to ignore a 'thrill your ass' or 'bend you over' etc type of response. Then once she's over you can put on a leash and get her bent over and tell her to repeat 'I need discipline' or whatever BDSM shit you like to hear while you spank/fuck her.

Finally, don't be afraid to push boundaries if she's into the sub thing either, she'll remember you for the things no one else has done. Spank her till her ass is red, throat fuck her with her hands tied until she says your safe word, ass fuck her (typically a good segue into this is you have the girl bent over handcuffed after doggy for a bit, then just break out the lube and start putting it on her ass and say 'what am I doing' 'putting lube on my ass' 'what do you think I'm going to do next' 'put it in my ass' 'good girl'. Worse that can ever happen is she says it's too much and you laugh it off and say OK and move to the next sex act.

Well done on giving her a tour of your place while on a leash, that's pretty good lol. Go with Kaotic's advice and ignore her for a bit and hit her up in a week or two.