[Phoenix]

I miss the traditional trolls though, I'm being honest. The modern trolls are just so lame. Sure OP, you ran away from home to live in hotels and bang bookers, which is now "moved out" and "living in budget hotels". Sounds legit.

On the off chance not a troll, OP should be moving to a hostel or other kind of cheap dorm (e.g. Look at hostelworld), and be leaving his city and probably country. The difference in savings subsistence time between somewhere like Glasgow and Bulgaria must be enormous.

[Bland]

I want to second The Beast1's airbnb recommendation.

Another place to look for short term housing is Craigslist.

[minuteman12]

(05-13-2017 01:57 PM)The Beast1 Wrote:  

(05-13-2017 01:33 PM)minuteman12 Wrote:  

I am 27 and having a kind of crisis and my family aren't very supportive. They want me to marry but I can barely get a job. I'm so confused. RVF is a source of trust for me.

Alright we need to talk about this more because your background will substantially influence your future and your outcomes.

What country do you live in?

Do you have a degree or any sort of work experience?

Seeing as you're 27, were you living with your parents? Why did you spend so much time with them?

El_Gastro is our true roving nomad. He's got a great thread on his travels and stories around Europe. If you're of the "no skills, very little money" variety you might want to read his thread for some good panhandling tips.

Your first steps will be to find housing and a job. If you have a smartphone, download airbnb and look for a private room that you can stay in for a week. Claim you're "visiting" town or whatnot. You might be able to get away with couchsurfing for free. YMMV

Once you've secured housing, you need to find a job and make some cash to start sustaining yourself.

Good luck.

Ok will post relevant update. I just had to have a release and that's why I used a hooker.

Live in UK..Scotland

I do have a degree in engineering but that was years ago and have gained no experience in that field. The only work experience I have is basic stuff like retail and some call centre/hotel.

I lived with my parents so long as we are Asian family and followed life like other Asian families.

The problem now is my life is going nowhere. To get married I need a good job Vis a vi degree, but that won't work now.

I'm just trying to find myself and what future holds

[Elster]

You're being rather dodgy with your posts, friend.
But for the benefit of the doubt I won't abandon thread yet

So unfortunately here are more questions:

-What precise field of engineering is your degree on?
-Do you think you could handle basic tasks related to it?
-You say you worked basic customer service stuff -> do you have references to present?
->Would you feel comfortable doing it again?

-If you want a complete change of path, what other things do you like to do/would you like to see yourself doing?
Entertaining children as a clown? Being a teacher? Working on a dig site? Herding cattle? Running a biz of your own? Doing custom cars?

-Have you burnt bridges with your folks? Did you let them know when and/or why you left? Are you talking with them at all?
-You said your family is asian, could you be more specific? Asia is a pretty big continent.

Quote:

The problem now is my life is going nowhere. To get married I need a good job Vis a vi degree, but that won't work now.

-According to whom?
-Why do you need a good job or degree to get married?
-DO *YOU* WANT TO GET MARRIED?
-> Why?
->If yes, do you want to marry a bird from your community or do you want something else?

-Why, being a fully grown man are you still deferring to what your parents want or say?
"Following the tradition" sounds like a rather poor excuse. You can respect it and all but you are not living in the homeland of your forefathers. Therefore you must adapt, and the place where you are does seem in contrast to give you at least the illusion of a choice,as portrayed by your decision to bolt.

-I ask again: are you prepared to live rough? to lower yourself to do jobs you wouldnt have considered?

--You still havent answered the questions about your budget (doesnt need to be a specific number, but an approximation would be nice)


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Edit&addendum:

As I sincerely doubt you will be answering any of this questions I will post a quick guide for a way to handle your situation:
-SAVE AS MUCH MONEY AS YOU CAN
-Make a budget
-Find a free/affordable temporary crashpad
-Do a list of things you want to do: Job search,learn/improve skill,game.etc
-Compare your list with your budget,see if they can mesh on some points
-If your budget is low, find charities/churches where food or even sleeping beds are offered. Alternatively you can dumpster dive.
-SOCIALIZE with people, specially once you have secured a crashpad. Gaming falls in this category, meeting a girl (NOT A HOOKER) and/or having a relationship can do wonders to your drive
-Make up with your folks eventually, but out of respect for yourself don't seek nor expect them to pull you out

I'll check this thread a couple more times but until you lay it bare I won't bother trying to figure it out

[minuteman12]

Ok sorry about hookers. Just been contemplating these past few days. I will fully think and provide more details, but I want the heat of this thread to get down a bit. I am not a troll and don't want to get banned.

[Jetset]

(05-15-2017 05:19 PM)minuteman12 Wrote:  

I lived with my parents so long as we are Asian family and followed life like other Asian families.

The problem now is my life is going nowhere. To get married I need a good job Vis a vi degree, but that won't work now.

I'm just trying to find myself and what future holds

There's nothing wrong with getting married, but you're 27 and just moved out for the first time.

You can do whatever you want, but in your position, I would put those thoughts on the backburner and focus on self-improvement. Women will follow when you build yourself up and become your own man. Priorities #1 and #2 are a safe, affordable place to sleep and a sustainable job.