[brick tamland]

Verify that she's pregnant. If she is, it's not extremely important at this stage whether it's yours. She's trying to pin it on you.
Therefore, get her to terminate and verify that she did so. Pay for it. She must do it WHILE SHE'S STILL RECEPTIVE TO THE NOTION.
If she gets time to flip flop, you'll have a new problem in 9 months.

[Sam Malone]

(04-25-2017 11:04 AM)brick tamland Wrote:  

Verify that she's pregnant. If she is, it's not extremely important at this stage whether it's yours. She's trying to pin it on you.
Therefore, get her to terminate and verify that she did so. Pay for it. She must do it WHILE SHE'S STILL RECEPTIVE TO THE NOTION.
If she gets time to flip flop, you'll have a new problem in 9 months.

Bolded and enlarged for emphasis. You're on a shot clock, and the buzzer can go off any second.

Borrow from the bank, sell your furniture, pawn your TV, bang a senior citizen for $$$, send a limo to take her to the clinic, do whatever you have to do to get the money and get this done NOW !!

Strike while the iron is hot.

[Diogenes]

(04-24-2017 08:25 PM)Beijong Wrote:  

Hey everyone, thank you for continuing the advice.

UPDATE: shes definitely pregnant, and it's more than likely mine. She has an ultrasound this week that she wants me to go to.

I told her "what? We're in an awful place and I'm not optimistic about any of this"

What followed was another conversation where she blamed me for everything and said it was my fault, she's not crazy, I made her crazy. It's my fault for this for that. I said we have no future together, obviously, and we need to handle this knowing that. She started crying, and after a while that for her own good she would have to do something that goes against her morals (implying termination), she sounded like she was in despair. The wheel kept turning "but it's probably for me and will give me another chance in life... And I'll live everyday grateful for everything I have. But it will be so hard because I'm not just losing you, I'll have to grieve the loss of my child" more tears

She says she wants me to be present for the procedure. I don't want to be. I don't wanna see the ultrasounds or be there, I can't take it man. After we got off the phone I could hear one of the babies in my neighbours apartment crying, which I never hear. Feelin like a bad omen or something. And I wanted to go hold the thing as if it was mine.

How can I ever look at a child again?

God dammit

Has anyone done this before?

I wanna ask her to just give birth to it and sign it over to me. She's beautiful and healthy, and I'm a tall decent liking guy. The kid might not have all life's advantages living with a single dad but genetic wise he'd have a good hand of cards dealt to him.

You need to wise up, man. She's giving you your life back. The best thing to do in this situation is grab it with both hands, then don't walk away, RUN.

[crispytaco]

Ok. 17 years ago I was in a similar situation, and I thought about all the possibilities including abortion. However in my case , at the end she was not pregnant.

Time passes, I'm a father now, and I see my life with a different perspective. If that happens to me again, I'd do exactly what Suits said. ADN test, if positive, do not marry the chick, but support and rise the child. I just traveled with my daughter (her crazy mom stayed home and was one of the happiest time in my life.

This is not the end of the world dude, you'll see.

I can't but recall all these members, saying how good is to go raw.... You see kids? This is what happens...