I’m not sure how many of you guys have ever attended “recovery” type meetings, or ever had the need. I’ve had some problems with substance abuse in the past and found myself at some of these meetings over the years. I always leveled out eventually, and never really been into “recovery” per se as I’m the pick yourself up by your bootstraps kind of guy and didn’t get much out of the whole recovery lifestyle.
One reason is it seems to be entirely populated by pussies.
Seriously, I’ve tried searching for answers on this subject but once again the RVF seems to be the only place where such a question will be actually addressed for what it is rather than dismissed. So here’s what’s on my mind:
Why are recovery meetings so feminised? Why is it all about “opening up” and “sharing feelings” and writing down a list of every one who ever “wronged” you? Why do they encourage men to embarrass themselves and contact people they haven’t seen in years whom they fucked over? (i never did any of this shit by the way).
Why do they teach people to dwell on all their problems instead of moving the fuck on with their lives?
It’s all so fucking cringey. Grown men crying. Grown men talking about emotional BS that has no bearing on them just not taking another fucking drink. People talking about how they’re “powerless” to solve their problems, and break free of their self-imposed prisons. You put yourself in this situation, YOU are the only one who can get out of it.
As far as the whole higher power thing, I am not some fedora tipping atheist so I take no issue with the belief in god as a part of the process. But saying you are powerless and that you need a higher power to keep you from another hit is just nonsensical, effeminate garbage.
All the guys in these meetings are cryers, and whiners. I hold both in very low regard. So do most people, in the real world.
I heard one guy say he was a “house husband”. That was basically the final straw for me. Yeah dude, you pop pills all day, drink to oblivion, while your wife is the bread winner, and wonder why she kicked your ass out? There are alpha ways to be a druggie believe it or not, that isn’t one of them.
To give some context I drank a bit too much over the past year and a half and decided to stop, and attended a few meetings via my health care provider, no big deal, I figured it would be better than AA meetings filled with crack heads.
The chicks that run these things are always kind of post-wall, yet well meaning. I have a theory that they all have some sort of hidden hangups about fixing up bad boys, which draws them to this profession. And they usually talk about how they were “so addicted to tobacco” as if that holds any significance to a room full of meth heads and needle junkies. Heh.
Anyway, there’s a serious dearth of masculinity in the recovery world. Perhaps an alternative to what’s out there is in order.
One reason is it seems to be entirely populated by pussies.
Seriously, I’ve tried searching for answers on this subject but once again the RVF seems to be the only place where such a question will be actually addressed for what it is rather than dismissed. So here’s what’s on my mind:
Why are recovery meetings so feminised? Why is it all about “opening up” and “sharing feelings” and writing down a list of every one who ever “wronged” you? Why do they encourage men to embarrass themselves and contact people they haven’t seen in years whom they fucked over? (i never did any of this shit by the way).
Why do they teach people to dwell on all their problems instead of moving the fuck on with their lives?
It’s all so fucking cringey. Grown men crying. Grown men talking about emotional BS that has no bearing on them just not taking another fucking drink. People talking about how they’re “powerless” to solve their problems, and break free of their self-imposed prisons. You put yourself in this situation, YOU are the only one who can get out of it.
As far as the whole higher power thing, I am not some fedora tipping atheist so I take no issue with the belief in god as a part of the process. But saying you are powerless and that you need a higher power to keep you from another hit is just nonsensical, effeminate garbage.
All the guys in these meetings are cryers, and whiners. I hold both in very low regard. So do most people, in the real world.
I heard one guy say he was a “house husband”. That was basically the final straw for me. Yeah dude, you pop pills all day, drink to oblivion, while your wife is the bread winner, and wonder why she kicked your ass out? There are alpha ways to be a druggie believe it or not, that isn’t one of them.
To give some context I drank a bit too much over the past year and a half and decided to stop, and attended a few meetings via my health care provider, no big deal, I figured it would be better than AA meetings filled with crack heads.
The chicks that run these things are always kind of post-wall, yet well meaning. I have a theory that they all have some sort of hidden hangups about fixing up bad boys, which draws them to this profession. And they usually talk about how they were “so addicted to tobacco” as if that holds any significance to a room full of meth heads and needle junkies. Heh.
Anyway, there’s a serious dearth of masculinity in the recovery world. Perhaps an alternative to what’s out there is in order.
"Does PUA say that I just need to get to f-close base first here and some weird chemicals will be released in her brain to make her a better person?"
-Wonitis