[Helvegen]

Hello, everyone.

I've been a member of this forum for quite some time now and all I've ever done is lurk and live vicariously through you guys (and the manosphere in general) so I decided it is time to stop with this bullshit and start to walk the walk instead of just talking the talk. As the title says I'm a virgin even though I had quite a few opportunities to bang, but didn't because quite frankly with all the porn and masturbation I just couldn't get it up to real women. Yeah, I know, WTF right?

I recently started going to the gym and I'm doing the NOFAP 90 days challenge before I can start approaching; I figured that it'd be useless to start approaching when my sex drive a social anxiety are fucked due to years being a fucking recluse playing video games and masturbating on my bedroom.

Not sure if I'm even being coherent here, but I'd like your opinions on this. How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Anyway, that's it.

[djk100]

(03-04-2017 08:57 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  

Hello, everyone.

I've been a member of this forum for quite some time now and all I've ever done is lurk and live vicariously through you guys (and the manosphere in general) so I decided it is time to stop with this bullshit and start to walk the walk instead of just talking the talk. As the title says I'm a virgin even though I had quite a few opportunities to bang, but didn't because quite frankly with all the porn and masturbation I just couldn't get it up to real women. Yeah, I know, WTF right?

I recently started going to the gym and I'm doing the NOFAP 90 days challenge before I can start approaching; I figured that it'd be useless to start approaching when my sex drive a social anxiety are fucked due to years being a fucking recluse playing video games and masturbating on my bedroom.

Not sure if I'm even being coherent here, but I'd like your opinions on this. How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Anyway, that's it.

Dude you live in Brazil!

[YoungBlade]

Approach at least 1 girl a day. Just say hey. Nothing fancy. Once that becomes easy, move up to more conversation. Eventually, start trying to score numbers, then SNLs.

You got this dude.

[Seth_Rose]

(03-04-2017 08:57 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  

Hello, everyone.

I've been a member of this forum for quite some time now and all I've ever done is lurk and live vicariously through you guys (and the manosphere in general) so I decided it is time to stop with this bullshit and start to walk the walk instead of just talking the talk. As the title says I'm a virgin even though I had quite a few opportunities to bang, but didn't because quite frankly with all the porn and masturbation I just couldn't get it up to real women. Yeah, I know, WTF right?

I recently started going to the gym and I'm doing the NOFAP 90 days challenge before I can start approaching; I figured that it'd be useless to start approaching when my sex drive a social anxiety are fucked due to years being a fucking recluse playing video games and masturbating on my bedroom.

Not sure if I'm even being coherent here, but I'd like your opinions on this. How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Anyway, that's it.

I disagree. A lot of men use NoFap as a way to escape the pressure of cold-approaching, but never actually end up achieving their dating goals. Instead, I'd recommend the 'One Approach A Day' method Roosh advises.

The best way to fix your sex drive and social anxiety is to approach sexy girls. Yes, you will be nervous and anxious, but over time you will become supremely confident!

[Helvegen]

Delete.

[Helvegen]

(03-04-2017 09:18 PM)YoungBlade Wrote:  

Approach at least 1 girl a day. Just say hey. Nothing fancy. Once that becomes easy, move up to more conversation. Eventually, start trying to score numbers, then SNLs.

You got this dude.

I can do that.

[RawGod]

(03-04-2017 08:57 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  

How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Girls are not your biggest issue here. The issue is YOUR LIFE. There's a lot to fix, but you can do it.

Don't try to do it all at once - getting a job, hitting the gym, approaching girls.
I recommend fixing your health, through gym and diet, giving up video games and porn, and getting a job first. Then you can worry about girls. You've lost nothing in terms of girls if it takes you one or two or three years from now to get a girlfriend, but you have money and a healthy muscular body, and more importantly, self-esteem.

I'm not saying never to approach girls in the "fixing yourself up" stage. Just understand that they are not a big deal compared to being in charge of your life.

[Helvegen]

(03-04-2017 09:26 PM)RawGod Wrote:  

(03-04-2017 08:57 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  

How should I go about it? For all intented purposes I'm a loser; no job, no pussy, no muscle, no money.

Girls are not your biggest issue here. The issue is YOUR LIFE. There's a lot to fix, but you can do it.

Don't try to do it all at once - getting a job, hitting the gym, approaching girls.
I recommend fixing your health, through gym and diet, giving up video games and porn, and getting a job first. Then you can worry about girls. You've lost nothing in terms of girls if it takes you one or two or three years from now to get a girlfriend, but you have money and a healthy muscular body, and more importantly, self-esteem.

I'm not saying never to approach girls in the "fixing yourself up" stage. Just understand that they are not a big deal compared to being in charge of your life.

Makes sense.

[YoungBlade]

Keep us updated, by the way. No point in advice if no action is taken.

[Helvegen]

(03-04-2017 09:34 PM)YoungBlade Wrote:  

Keep us updated, by the way. No point in advice if no action is taken.

Will do.

[Mercenary]

Delete

[Helvegen]

Delete.

[Heart Break Kid]

I'd at least try to talk to a few girls a week, no reason to stall. Unless you live in a super small town or something, it's worth the practice even while you're improving the other aspects of your life.

Don't be like me and stall on talking to girls in order to upgrade the other aspects of my life. The more ya talk to girls the better you'll be, just like in anything in life.

[Mercenary]

Sorry mate, I'm on my mobile and mixed up this thread and another thread that was very similiar.
Apologies.

[Helvegen]

(03-04-2017 09:49 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  

Sorry mate, I'm on my mobile and mixed up this thread and another thread that was very similiar.
Apologies.

It's all good.

[Harami]

I'm just one step ahead of you in the 'walk', that is to say that I've started. If you want to take away anything from my experience so far, here:

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& Read it backwards for effect.

[Rawmeo]

Solve your problems one by one.

No job: Get one or start a business if you have the skills
Addicted to porn: It's in your head, just shut it down
No muscle: Hit the gym
No money: See "no job" above
No pussy: Start approaching today - but if you're badly out of shape, I'd recommend hitting the gym for 2-3 months before.

It's okay to play video games occasionally but this needs to be a reward once all your primary needs are taken care of.

[polymath]

The porn thing is your number one problem. It's a tough habit to break.

Get that squared up before you try to fix the other things.

You will eventually notice your sex drive and confidence increase. The sex drive, because your body will want to cum. The confidence, because you will get rid of the voice in the back of your head saying "your dick doesn't work helvegen."

Then square up the rest of the shit.

/2c

[Sidney Crosby]

Do you at least have big arms?

[Windom Earle]

(03-05-2017 01:17 AM)Sidney Crosby Wrote:  

Do you at least have big arms?

Just his right forearm no doubt.

[Nordwand]

If you have been cutting yourself off from life, and suffer from anxiety issues, then you need to get comfortable with people in general. As has been said elsewhere, interact with everyone - get used to breaking the ice.

[puckerman]

Just get out there and approach. Get out and go dancing. What do you have to lose?

What drove you to your porn addiction? When did it start? How did you get there?

[slothpiece]

Man. I love these new posts. Roosh, where is this traffic coming from?

Praise to Kek. 2017 is going off for me. Spend more time networking and cold approaching networking events with the purpose of spreading your employer's message or your message. Ever since Donald got elected and has assumed his role in Washington, I have had nothing but good things happen to me. If I run into guys who attempt to run interference on me while working the room and lording over the group of 5 or more at his table, I gracefully exit from his space so I can continue establishing relationships with others in the vicinity of my space. Washington is a great place to be right now, guys! Shitlibs are everywhere. But I just walk through them if they attempt to get a rise from me while they sit idle in the Democratic minority. Kek.

Okay, back to the issue at hand:

This post is so textbook I want to help this guy so much. You are 27. You have much time. Please refer to these beginner forums to help educate you on the sexual dynamics which have occurred over the last 10 or so years: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/

Your first mission should resemble being born again. That's what I remember when I went out saying hi to every woman who crossed my path on my way to class during my sophomore year of college. It was awesome. I soon heard girls in passing telling each other that's the guy who goes out of his way to say hi to random people. That's fine with me now in this age. Let those comments just fall off you like red white and blue confetti. Just keep marching forward. Keep saying hi to everyone. Come back to us when you have completed this mission after a month or so. Hope your weekend is going strong. Keep it up.

[StackGsMan]

You're only a loser as long as you tell yourself you are. Quitting porn is a good thing, something I need to do myself. The nofap is a bad idea though, IMHO.

You don't need money, muscle, or a job to get with a girl, although it certainly helps. What you need is desire and perseverance. As others have suggested just start out by approaching one girl a day. Eventually you will become less anxious and also see results (numbers and dates). Then the only trick is to keep on going even after you are rejected or things don't work out for you.

You can do it man, as Nike would say, Just Do It

[Helvegen]

(03-05-2017 02:51 AM)puckerman Wrote:  

Just get out there and approach. Get out and go dancing. What do you have to lose?

What drove you to your porn addiction? When did it start? How did you get there?

If I would have to guess: laziness. It started about when I was 18 or so, but back then it was still pretty harmless.