So this is a bit of an odd post, but I swear I'm not trolling.
So my first LTR of my life, which happened in my early 20's, lasted for a few years. It wasn't immediately apparent, partly because of how hot she was, but I slowly realized she was manipulative, and always found a way to shift the blame off of herself and onto me, even if deep down I knew she was wrong. Yeah, sure, most women have his kind of behavior, but she was fucking good at it. She wouldn't actively try to manipulate me to do things I didn't want, or anything evil like that, but any time I got mad at her or tried to call her out on something this crazy manipulative behavior would come up.
Whenever this would happen, it would do weird things to my hormones, because I would have mixed feelings about certain things. After the fight was over, and the hormones settled down, I would weirdly feel more strongly for her than before! Consciously I hated the behavior, but there was no denying that I developed strong feelings that I couldn't ignore.
After a while, we broke up for unrelated issues which aren't really relevant (cultural, religious, and family issues essentially, as she was foreign and a marriage probably would not have worked).
Since then, unless if a woman can bring out this weird mix of hormones in me, which usually happens with manipulative behavior, I simply will not develop feelings for the girl, even if nothing is wrong with her and she is hot. Its like I have this inner craving for fights and drama, which I know isn't healthy.
Ideally, I would like at some point to find a wife and have kids, as I am in my low 30s now. I still think I have a large window, as I would consider putting off marriage until 45. That said, I feel this is an issue I need to fix in the meantime.
Has anyone experienced anything like this? How can I "fix" myself, or is this just normal? Since we broke up, I've banged about 60ish girls, so I don't think banging more girls will get this out my system, I think I need an inner fix.
So my first LTR of my life, which happened in my early 20's, lasted for a few years. It wasn't immediately apparent, partly because of how hot she was, but I slowly realized she was manipulative, and always found a way to shift the blame off of herself and onto me, even if deep down I knew she was wrong. Yeah, sure, most women have his kind of behavior, but she was fucking good at it. She wouldn't actively try to manipulate me to do things I didn't want, or anything evil like that, but any time I got mad at her or tried to call her out on something this crazy manipulative behavior would come up.
Whenever this would happen, it would do weird things to my hormones, because I would have mixed feelings about certain things. After the fight was over, and the hormones settled down, I would weirdly feel more strongly for her than before! Consciously I hated the behavior, but there was no denying that I developed strong feelings that I couldn't ignore.
After a while, we broke up for unrelated issues which aren't really relevant (cultural, religious, and family issues essentially, as she was foreign and a marriage probably would not have worked).
Since then, unless if a woman can bring out this weird mix of hormones in me, which usually happens with manipulative behavior, I simply will not develop feelings for the girl, even if nothing is wrong with her and she is hot. Its like I have this inner craving for fights and drama, which I know isn't healthy.
Ideally, I would like at some point to find a wife and have kids, as I am in my low 30s now. I still think I have a large window, as I would consider putting off marriage until 45. That said, I feel this is an issue I need to fix in the meantime.
Has anyone experienced anything like this? How can I "fix" myself, or is this just normal? Since we broke up, I've banged about 60ish girls, so I don't think banging more girls will get this out my system, I think I need an inner fix.