I'm goin to get roasted over this, but bring it on; I think I could learn some lessons here.
So I just got back from the shittiest date I've had in years.
It was our second date. On the first date (a few weeks ago) I got strong "user" vibes from this chic and I should've nexted her ASAP based on what my instincts were telling me, but I ignored them and went for the second, tonight.
Everything was goin well, until I moved in for the kiss. She pulled back, saying "Well I don't know you yet". This, after I spent $150 on dinner + drinks. She had also mentioned on the first date that she had had one night stands before.
I don't get mad, but I decide it's time to immediately cut my losses - no more time or money on this chic - as far as I'm concerned, we're through.
We start walking quietly back to the train. She asks, "Where are we goin?" to which I dryly respond, "To the trains...". She mumbles something about how I had promised to put her in an Uber back home on our first date - it's true, I did mention it, and I realize it's bad form to renege on your word, but I saw no reason to continue spending money on some chic who had already confessed to having one night stands before, while refusing me so much as a kiss after two dinner dates.
So I respond: "Well, I don't know you that well, either...".
At this point she loses it, starts talking shit about how I have no manners, how it's so unsafe for a girl to take the train at this time (it isn't - the neighborhoods are perfectly safe even late at night) etc etc. I stay ice cold, giving one word responses, while she keeps getting angrier and angrier. "Don't talk to me like you talk to one of your bros". "Stop responding to me, ok?!!" etc etc.
Finally we get to the trains and part ways. My last words to her: "See ya!".
Words of advice on what I could've done better, or do better goin forwards? Would you have paid for the Uber anyway? Maybe try and escalate more aggressively?
I think I need to lay off the fancy dinner dates. Probably gives off the wrong vibe...
So I just got back from the shittiest date I've had in years.
It was our second date. On the first date (a few weeks ago) I got strong "user" vibes from this chic and I should've nexted her ASAP based on what my instincts were telling me, but I ignored them and went for the second, tonight.
Everything was goin well, until I moved in for the kiss. She pulled back, saying "Well I don't know you yet". This, after I spent $150 on dinner + drinks. She had also mentioned on the first date that she had had one night stands before.
I don't get mad, but I decide it's time to immediately cut my losses - no more time or money on this chic - as far as I'm concerned, we're through.
We start walking quietly back to the train. She asks, "Where are we goin?" to which I dryly respond, "To the trains...". She mumbles something about how I had promised to put her in an Uber back home on our first date - it's true, I did mention it, and I realize it's bad form to renege on your word, but I saw no reason to continue spending money on some chic who had already confessed to having one night stands before, while refusing me so much as a kiss after two dinner dates.
So I respond: "Well, I don't know you that well, either...".
At this point she loses it, starts talking shit about how I have no manners, how it's so unsafe for a girl to take the train at this time (it isn't - the neighborhoods are perfectly safe even late at night) etc etc. I stay ice cold, giving one word responses, while she keeps getting angrier and angrier. "Don't talk to me like you talk to one of your bros". "Stop responding to me, ok?!!" etc etc.
Finally we get to the trains and part ways. My last words to her: "See ya!".
Words of advice on what I could've done better, or do better goin forwards? Would you have paid for the Uber anyway? Maybe try and escalate more aggressively?
I think I need to lay off the fancy dinner dates. Probably gives off the wrong vibe...
Pussy ain't for pussies...