^That does answer my questions, thank you.
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Among the married men who are comfortable sharing, how did you meet your wife?
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What was it about her, that made you decide she was wife and mother of your children?
Quote:Quote:Singing and being a babysitter. I had found someone who still liked kids after working 60 hours a week with them.
Why did you choose that (or those) quality above others as the most important?
Quote:Quote:Great fit all around. The only issue my parents had (which I wished they had pushed me harder on) was the history of mental illness. blew up in my face after the second baby with post partum depression.
What did your parents/family say about her? Was she a good fit for you/your family? Were you a good fit for hers?
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Did you guys discuss how you'd raise children, have them visit family once or twice a year?
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Was there any long distance in the relationship at all?
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How long did you date before you married her?
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What kind of wedding ceremony did you have?
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Did you test her at all?
Quote: (01-25-2017 05:05 PM)Geomann180 Wrote:
Could you elaborate on her wanting to be your property a bit more?
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Was there anything in particular that was a turning point for her brother, or did he just cool off and give you more of a chance?
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Do you have plan for the homeschool? Textbooks you'll use/how fast you'll go through material, what material you'll cover?
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Please do! I just read your engagement thread and it was epic.
Thanks again for contributing to this thread! I'm very inspired by your example.
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Among the married men who are comfortable sharing, how did you meet your wife?
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What was it about her, that made you decide she was wife and mother of your children?
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Why did you choose that (or those) quality above others as the most important?
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What did your parents/family say about her? Was she a good fit for you/your family? Were you a good fit for hers?
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Did you guys discuss how you'd raise children, have them visit family once or twice a year?
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Was there any long distance in the relationship at all?
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How long did you date before you married her?
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What kind of wedding ceremony did you have?
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Did you test her at all?
Quote: (02-12-2017 07:10 AM)StrikeBack Wrote:
After she gave me her virginity, she said "God created me for you, I am your helper and property. You own me."
Quote: (02-12-2017 06:18 AM)Tytalus Wrote:
Among the married men who are comfortable sharing, how did you meet your wife?
Through a dating site strongly oriented towards people who wanted to marry.
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What was it about her, that made you decide she was wife and mother of your children?
Shared religion, good person, could sing and liked kids. Also had been a professional baby sitter. Was pretty enough at the time, and not too small. I never liked women so small that they look like a pregnancy would make them explode or have to have a c-section. Now I know better.
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Why did you choose that (or those) quality above others as the most important?
Singing and being a babysitter. I had found someone who still liked kids after working 60 hours a week with them.
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What did your parents/family say about her? Was she a good fit for you/your family? Were you a good fit for hers?
Great fit all around. The only issue my parents had (which I wished they had pushed me harder on) was the history of mental illness. blew up in my face after the second baby with post partum depression.
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Did you guys discuss how you'd raise children, have them visit family once or twice a year?
Absolutely.
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Was there any long distance in the relationship at all?
Initially yes. We talked for a few months via phone cards and had great conversations. In fact, going back to your earlier questions, one of the reasons I married her is that we went through a pre marriage workbook that we both owned before knowing each other.
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How long did you date before you married her?
about 10 months.
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What kind of wedding ceremony did you have?
Simple but not spartan. My parents paid $8k for the wedding. Hers paid about $8k in travel tickets, so it worked out to be amenable between our families.
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Did you test her at all?
No, not enough. In terms of values and morals? Yes. In terms of life habits and goals? Not enough.
I didn't value my own advice to myself enough over my feelings. I didn't test her on how serious she was about excercise and diet. She has blown up about +80 lbs after getting married and went from a curvy to actively "whale-like". I find her weight to be an embarrasment. She went from being a 6, 7 on a good day to a 3 or 4. Now I end up staying up late because I don't want to go to bed with her. I have to wait until I'm too horny to think straight or I'm not interested in sex with her in a physical sense.
Wish I hadn't married her and would not do it all over again for her. Love my 5 kids though, and can't afford a divorce or I'd be gone. Also much more complex with a lot of kids.
In hindsight, what really caught my eye is that we would talk (I thought) and she wanted a family and to be married. We got along really well on values... What I didn't think through was how compatible we would be in terms of interests and activities. I also had poor game and a porn addiction. Porn has caused me alot of problems over time and wish I never developed the habit of looking at it or reading erotica. I've managed my addiction over the years to be more functional but it's still a problem. My biggest reason for marrying in hindsight was I had just gotten too fucking lonely and she was the first girl to come along that was suitable.
Guys, don't marry a woman because you're lonely. It's just as bad as thinking only with your dick.
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
Tinder
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
I was divorced before I met her and the previous relationship was conducted within a blue pill frame. The previous relationship broke down due to perceived status changes.
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
Before I went into this relationship with Mrs ski pro, I had a very specific list of qualities that I wanted my next Ltr to have. I can't remember them all and I no longer have the phone which they were written in but it was something like;
Makes me laugh
Interesting
There were three others I no longer remember
Anyway, Mrs ski pro hit most of them. I enjoy spending time with her and she appears interested and supportive of what I do.
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
My family think she's great. They are mainly happy that I'm happy.
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
- Was there any long distance in the relationship at all?
About an 1h30 by car in the early times.
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
- How long did you date before you married her?
2 years
Quote: (02-06-2017 04:24 AM)Ski pro Wrote:
All the time. Remember, the game never stops. You have to game your woman all the time. Read up on dread game by Rollo tomassi?
I hope this help, seriously, having a list of things you want in a woman, help screen out the shit ones.