[jbird669]

After discovering TRP and working on myself (with the caveat that I haven't reached my goals yet), I've taken inventory of where I am, where I want to go, and what I want out of life.

Some of my goals are coming to fruition or on their way. One that isn't is with women. After meditating a bit on it, and dealing with things from my current GF, I wonder if my goal is unreasonable, and wanted to look for input.

Ultimately, what I'd like is 1-2 FWBs who will (in addition to getting together just for sex) if the need arises, join me in a plus one or when I want a gal on my arm. This could be anything from weddings, business function, to fun events, and nothing more. I say 1-2 because I have kids and they are #1 and I cannot devote time to more FWBs than that.

I read things on here and see some of this, but mostly what I read are short flings or ONS. Is my goal something that is possible? Or do I need to adjust my expectations?

[torridon747]

Who the fuck cares if it's reasonable or not. You're a man, go out and make it happen. By the way I think it's very reasonable and pretty achievable for just about anyone that puts in the effort.

[jbird669]

Thanks Eugenics. I don't care what others think, but if it's not something attainable, I want to focus my energies elsewhere. Glad to know I'm no off base and I look forward to achieving this goal.

[Space Cowboy]

You've written down your goal, which means you're already 50% there. You're doing better than most men. No, your goal is not ridiculous- I and others I have met have had 2-3 FWBs (or more) who also loved stepping up as a plus one.

[kaotic]

(01-13-2017 03:11 PM)jbird669 Wrote:  

Ultimately, what I'd like is 1-2 FWBs who will (in addition to getting together just for sex) if the need arises, join me in a plus one or when I want a gal on my arm. This could be anything from weddings, business function, to fun events, and nothing more. I say 1-2 because I have kids and they are #1 and I cannot devote time to more FWBs than that.

I read things on here and see some of this, but mostly what I read are short flings or ONS. Is my goal something that is possible? Or do I need to adjust my expectations?

Fuck buddies are just that - fuck buddies.

If you take a girl out around town or to events if you don't have a girl then by default that IS your girl.

If you do have a main girl, then by default those are SIDE girls aka mini LTR's.

In my situation I had a legit girlfriend, and had 2 girls I banged and did stuff with on the side with (I also was banging multiple girls/plates/ons)

Just keep in mind this means you need your phone locked down, you don't visit the same places with your lady that you would with your side bitches.

It isn't unreasonable but you DO need to be seasoned.

You have to be able to juggle 3 bitches at the same time, while loving your kids.

These are your priorities:

You>Kids>GF>Side Bitches



YES you can still bang a girl, keep things casual, and do stuff with them.

However, sooner or later those side bitches ALWAYS catch feelings.

You need to be able to handle her shit tests, "what are we" "where is this going" "I want this to be more" and keep her at bay since your energy is more focused on your girl and kids.

[Maxzilla]

Depends on your SMV

[TheMaleBrain]

I have been doing mLTR for a while.
You can do.

It means screening for the right girls - a little insecure, slightly busy and that get attached.

Your goal is attainable.
Just don't get them together.

[XXL]

Friends with benefits come and go. If you want to maintain such arrangement over longer period of time and have some side chicks on call then you have to regularly bring new chicks to your hive to keep this thing going.