Listen to the near unanimous advice. And stop even thinking about this guy. However bad you think you had it, from your description you can rest assured that half the planet has it tougher every day and they don't go around with a chip on their shoulder. You have all the knowledge in the world at your fingertips, potable and hot water, a warm bed, food, relatives who will invite you to gatherings, education, and more. I've been through some shit, plenty of us have. I'm happy because I chose and still choose to focus on the positives, not dwell on past negatives. If you focus on negativity you get more of it. Sounds like new age BS but it's true. Tony Robbins "Get the Edge" downloaded off Limewire back when that was a thing changed my life, mainly because of the bits about feeling geniuine gratitude for what we have, which is really nothing more than focusing on positives.
Passing out pictures of him smoking weed is a pathetic, underhanded move. If someone told me they did that I'd lose all respect for them, just as all your relatives will do for you when they find out what you did, and they will find out. Yea, you might hurt his reputation but you'll hurt you're own too. Where I come from you'd hurt your own rep a hell of a lot worse. Getting pleasure from the suffering of others while causing it to yourself is the definition of spite, and that's no way to be.
You want to hurt this guy? It's been said already - succeed. If you act all mopey around him he'll know he had a lasting effect on your psyche, that makes him dominant over you even to this day, and that's the best way to make him happy. Do you think guys who are winning - rolling in dough with a hot girl on each arm on a Dominican beach give two shits what uncle Fred did to them a decade ago? If you go into this gathering still caring enough about him to do a juvenile stunt like pass out pics everyone will know that you're not a winner - and no one cares what a failure thinks.
Work on yourself and your psyche so that you're not in this weak, reactive state, then next year you can be the life of the party with a hot girl on your arm and deny him rapport when he seeks it - if you even still feel the need, which I bet you won't.
Passing out pictures of him smoking weed is a pathetic, underhanded move. If someone told me they did that I'd lose all respect for them, just as all your relatives will do for you when they find out what you did, and they will find out. Yea, you might hurt his reputation but you'll hurt you're own too. Where I come from you'd hurt your own rep a hell of a lot worse. Getting pleasure from the suffering of others while causing it to yourself is the definition of spite, and that's no way to be.
You want to hurt this guy? It's been said already - succeed. If you act all mopey around him he'll know he had a lasting effect on your psyche, that makes him dominant over you even to this day, and that's the best way to make him happy. Do you think guys who are winning - rolling in dough with a hot girl on each arm on a Dominican beach give two shits what uncle Fred did to them a decade ago? If you go into this gathering still caring enough about him to do a juvenile stunt like pass out pics everyone will know that you're not a winner - and no one cares what a failure thinks.
Work on yourself and your psyche so that you're not in this weak, reactive state, then next year you can be the life of the party with a hot girl on your arm and deny him rapport when he seeks it - if you even still feel the need, which I bet you won't.
