I'm in an LTR after almost a decade of debaucherous bachelorhood.
I met an amazing girl, things got serious, she moved in, and now I'm right in the thick of the relationship grind.
Everybody's different, some guys actually prefer to be in LTRs over being single.
I personally see LTRs as one HUGE compromise.
Few men would give up their freedom, subject themselves to ball-busting (which I don't care how alpha you are, your chick will put you through this), and allow a woman to share their space and home if it weren't for the ultimate payoff:
Offspring with a decent chance of survival and replication.
Any way you slice it, relationships seem like a raw deal if not for this one payoff.
It's expensive, stressful, boring, encroaching, suffocating.
I've even considered saying fuck it, I'd rather live single and happy and sire some illegitimate kids than go through this year and year out.
And this is a girl I absolutely adore mind you.
Prior to her I didn't even let girls spend the night, let alone stay with me.
I saw some poor bastard at the airport the other day ready to throw in the towel with his wife and kids.
I felt sorry for him because the stress a woman can add to your life is profound.
But here's the thing.
If you've found a honest to goodness unicorn, the dynamic will get stale in a matter of months I don't care how wonderous she is.
And if you're used to constant variety it's not an easy transition to make, and not one that makes any sense anyway.
In fact it's absolutely, undeniably evident to me that male infidelity is KEY to a healthy long term relationship.
Otherwise any man with T levels about 150 would blow his brains out listening to his beloved's inane prattle which he once found so enthralling.
Some days I love the shit out of her, others I want to throw her or myself off a bridge or just fuck off to Colombia and never be seen again.
But in the back of my mind I'm thinking this is a fantastic woman, who will make a terrific mother and partner, and so sue me, I really love her.
Is that really the whole point of this thing? Just to make and raise some kids?
Otherwise you'd be out of there in a heartbeat?
Older guys, hit me with some wisdom please, this shit is hard work.
I met an amazing girl, things got serious, she moved in, and now I'm right in the thick of the relationship grind.
Everybody's different, some guys actually prefer to be in LTRs over being single.
I personally see LTRs as one HUGE compromise.
Few men would give up their freedom, subject themselves to ball-busting (which I don't care how alpha you are, your chick will put you through this), and allow a woman to share their space and home if it weren't for the ultimate payoff:
Offspring with a decent chance of survival and replication.
Any way you slice it, relationships seem like a raw deal if not for this one payoff.
It's expensive, stressful, boring, encroaching, suffocating.
I've even considered saying fuck it, I'd rather live single and happy and sire some illegitimate kids than go through this year and year out.
And this is a girl I absolutely adore mind you.
Prior to her I didn't even let girls spend the night, let alone stay with me.
I saw some poor bastard at the airport the other day ready to throw in the towel with his wife and kids.
I felt sorry for him because the stress a woman can add to your life is profound.
But here's the thing.
If you've found a honest to goodness unicorn, the dynamic will get stale in a matter of months I don't care how wonderous she is.
And if you're used to constant variety it's not an easy transition to make, and not one that makes any sense anyway.
In fact it's absolutely, undeniably evident to me that male infidelity is KEY to a healthy long term relationship.
Otherwise any man with T levels about 150 would blow his brains out listening to his beloved's inane prattle which he once found so enthralling.
Some days I love the shit out of her, others I want to throw her or myself off a bridge or just fuck off to Colombia and never be seen again.
But in the back of my mind I'm thinking this is a fantastic woman, who will make a terrific mother and partner, and so sue me, I really love her.
Is that really the whole point of this thing? Just to make and raise some kids?
Otherwise you'd be out of there in a heartbeat?
Older guys, hit me with some wisdom please, this shit is hard work.