[blacknwhitespade]

I realize this question has probably come up before, but I am currently in transition living with my family in a smaller city while looking for a new place of my own. I'm recently out of an LTR and looking for a few fast, no nonsense notches while in this transitional moment. My folks live in a smaller city about an hour in between 2 bigger cities, so my geography is poor but not abysmal. One or more of my parents/sibs are usually around and our basement is currently under renovation, so I don't really have a place to privately entertain/bang a girl. So, I am looking for tips, tricks, methods, of how to qualify a woman's location for a hook up? I've just started experimenting with Tinder. What's a fast way to drop bait/qualify her location for the meet up/hook up? Or, qualify her location if we meet somewhere in public for the first meeting?

[Jones]

Imply that she has roommates. Assume she has a place in conversation. She'll probably tell you her living situation.

She may or may not have an animal at her place. Low-key ask her if there's a pet shop nearby.

Use the bathroom line to get inside!

Utilize car sex as a last resort.

[Mufasa]

Below are all the things I did while living with my dad.

Set dates up as normal and run normal game. try to get back to her place at the end of the night.

Cooking dinner for y'all at her place.

Using friends empty bedrooms.

When the family is out of town take her back to your place thats in a "smaller city"

[Player_1337]

I had to constantly rely on car sex or moving the interaction to her place. In some cases, public settings like parks saved the day.

[Stimulus]

Thank you for making me realize my parents are chill as fuck. They don't ask any questions or judge me for bringing home different girls. Tho I don't live in their house but next to them.

As for your problem, go for her place of get a friend to let you use his pad when he's not around. If that doesn't work out, some girls just love being banged outdoors. Don't know about the climate at your location tho..

[Comte De St. Germain]

Car sex OP Car sex. Best clean those every time you're done and find those backwater parks and forests if you're not feeling the deep cleaning.

Source: Years of experience.

Or wing it to her place though that's significantly harder and less adventurous.

[realologist]

Cars, parks, store dressing rooms, picnic in a secluded spot on a blanket, anywhere you can get it.

Or if you're really sneaky....


Sneak her in after your parents go to sleep. Then stuff her face in a pillow and/or tie a rag around her/put one in her mouth. Those are so she isn't loud. Or you can just bang her outside if the weather isn't too cold.

[BigL]

It depends on your parents. Especially your mother. You have to talk with them and explain that you have needs. Other than date, car, forest, night swimming.

[blacknwhitespade]

(11-14-2016 06:53 PM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  

Car sex OP Car sex. Best clean those every time you're done and find those backwater parks and forests if you're not feeling the deep cleaning.

Source: Years of experience.

Or wing it to her place though that's significantly harder and less adventurous.

Okay, what are tactics for getting them into your car and escalating to sex? So, say I meet a Tinder girl at a bar/café/whatever. Park my car in a secluded but not too far away parking lot, create comfort with her, invite her to my place, then escalate with kissing when we get into the car?

Regarding location qualifier, I am thinking some sort of topic/activity qualifier could do the trick. Oh, you have rock band? I always win! I'll whip you! Let's go play a game...

[Comte De St. Germain]

(11-15-2016 11:42 AM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:  

(11-14-2016 06:53 PM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  

Car sex OP Car sex. Best clean those every time you're done and find those backwater parks and forests if you're not feeling the deep cleaning.

Source: Years of experience.

Or wing it to her place though that's significantly harder and less adventurous.

Okay, what are tactics for getting them into your car and escalating to sex? So, say I meet a Tinder girl at a bar/café/whatever. Park my car in a secluded but not too far away parking lot, create comfort with her, invite her to my place, then escalate with kissing when we get into the car?

Regarding location qualifier, I am thinking some sort of topic/activity qualifier could do the trick. Oh, you have rock band? I always win! I'll whip you! Let's go play a game...

1. Pick her up in your car in the first place .


2. Then get some kino in on the date and get her wanting to kiss you before you get in the car. Or if you meet her at the club odds are her tongue will be down your throat before you even leave the joint.

3. Jump her bones in the parking lot then tell her not here.

4. Get some road head while you wait to get to a suitable area.

5. Park and fuck.

6. ???

7. Profit


It's not really as difficult as you make it seem with your question. There are no special tactics.

[Rawmeo]

I second that: fucking in the car. I did it so many times.

[Spidey]

When I was younger I used to date this chick and we would always have car sex due to logistics. Got caught by the cops a lot. It was embarrassing for her, but I think she really got off on the fact that you can get caught in a car.

Fast forward a few months and this girl gets her own apartment. And we're fucking in my car in the parking lot of her building. Some chicks love that shit.

[XXL]

My way to go about that thing is to stay close to their place whatever you do.

When I had no place I never mentioned it at all. There was no discussion about where I live, what kind of flat it was, with whom, etc. None of that.

I was meeting girls at their place or somewhere close to their place. We went out somewhere near, had fun there, and then came back to their place to chill. There was even no talking about where are we going later. It was simply assumed that we're going to their place for the afterparty. So basically everything revolved around their place. Literally it like "ok let's go" and we went to theirs, no questions asked, no wheres, no whys, no what fors, etc.

It's funny how it goes when you just assume something and push it towards it without mentioning it.

[Kavelli]

"Okay, what are tactics for getting them into your car and escalating to sex? So, say I meet a Tinder girl at a bar/café/whatever. Park my car in a secluded but not too far away parking lot, create comfort with her, invite her to my place, then escalate with kissing when we get into the car?"

ok OP in my experience if done at the right time this works in my experience. so after a date and the vibes been good or whatever park up in a dark place.

talk a bit create light comfort with a bit of teasing (make sure you have kissed previously so you can definately get a kiss in the car)
while shes in the passenger seat and your in the driver seat:
1) Lean to kiss and attempt to hug her. You should both be restricted by the awkward positions your in (keep your seat belt on for added affect lol.
2) Assuming you have built the right vibe after a while of doing the above say "its kinda uncomfortable in here lets go in the back" dont look at her just start to open your door to get into the back of your car, open hers aswell and she will follow assuming you timed it right.
3) Escalate as much as you can in the back seat

KV

[HonantheBarbarian]

I feel where the OP is coming from, and this can get awkward depending on how you handle it.

But have you considered just having a talk with your parents about the matter?

Break it down to them, see if they can work with you. When you have a date lined up, tell them in advance you're having a friend over later, drop the hint.

Then while on your date, stretch the timeframe a little bit longer so the folks are sure to be asleep/out of the way and take her back home and bang as normal.

Creeping around the family situation was just creating a logistical nightmare for me and costing me notches left and right, so I just got real with them and my situation improved significantly.

[poutsara]

I second the car strategy. Or get a hotel for the night. Or arrange logistics to be "conveniently" close to her place if possible.

Back when I lived with my parents (long before social media and tinder existed) I would time it so that girls would come over when my parents weren't home or at night when they were sleeping.

I am pretty sure my Dad turned a deaf ear and laughed secretly. My Mom probably was just naive.

[XPQ22]

(11-17-2016 02:58 AM)poutsara Wrote:  

I second the car strategy. Or get a hotel for the night. Or arrange logistics to be "conveniently" close to her place if possible.

Hotel makes her feel like a hooker and is a good way to shoot ASD to the heavens. Car is uncomfortable, but a fine place to escalate before pitching the Netflix and chill.

Pulling girls back to their own place through careful arrangement of logistics is the best option IMO; I've done it many times. If she's really into you it's finally not terribly much more difficult than pulling her to your own, in fact I think many girls feel more comfortable bringing a guy to theirs than going to a strange guy's place if she wants to move along on the first night out.

There's also the advantage that if she turns out to be a looney tune or starts giving you severe LMR, you're always free to walk and don't have to worry about how you're going to get this weird chick moving out. Additionally, I'm mostly interested in meeting possible "regulars" these days than the ONS, and you can tell a lot about a girl's suitability for something more than a ONS from how she keeps her home. If it's a dump and I'm seeing dirty clothes and empty Zoloft bottles scattered around the bathroom, I'm thinking real hard if I want to keep in touch much more beyond the requisite next day "That was a great night, I'm really glad we were able to hang out together" text.

If a girl only wants to hook up on the couch/kitchen/in a spare bedroom and doesn't want me to come near the bed she sleeps in, I know she's got another dude she's cheating on. Yes, this has happened, more than once.

I frankly prefer this option even though I have my own place. I don't like bringing girls to mine that I don't already "know" well.

[Stimulus]

Isn't escalating in the car a bit of a risky move when you can tell she's just luke warm?

Example: you have an 'ok' date, walk to the car because you're driving her home and you kiss her before the both of you actually take off. Unless you know for certain she's into you (she dropped bait or blatantly said it) that kiss might just get her hamster spinning and decide otherwise. Especially when it's not just 'a few minute drive'.

Or am I overthinking this?

[LeoneVolpe]

^ I think you're overthinking it.

You don't want to wait 'til the end of the night to start escalating physically. You should be finding little ways of working in physical touch while on your date. (e.g. putting your hand on the small of her back while escorting her through a crowd/to a table, playfully touching her during conversation, etc.) If you've been doing this throughout the night, it won't seem as though your touch is coming out of left field by the time you actually "go for it."

So much of game is being able to "feel out" what's going on, and to calibrate accordingly. If she hasn't given you any shit for touching her, she's comfortable with your touch and has, in effect, given you indirect permission to proceed. If you're unsure on whether or not she's "cool with it," it's better to go for it anyway. A woman will forgive a man for being too bold, but seldom offer a second chance for showing timidity.

[Naughty By Nature]

I was never able to pull off car sex. Pulled off park sex once. It's far easier to pull off if you've ALREADY fornicated with the girl. But if you haven't porked her yet, it's highly unlikely she'll be down if that's the 1st time between you.

[Stimulus]

(11-17-2016 06:30 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:  

^ I think you're overthinking it.

You don't want to wait 'til the end of the night to start escalating physically. You should be finding little ways of working in physical touch while on your date. (e.g. putting your hand on the small of her back while escorting her through a crowd/to a table, playfully touching her during conversation, etc.) If you've been doing this throughout the night, it won't seem as though your touch is coming out of left field by the time you actually "go for it."

So much of game is being able to "feel out" what's going on, and to calibrate accordingly. If she hasn't given you any shit for touching her, she's comfortable with your touch and has, in effect, given you indirect permission to proceed. If you're unsure on whether or not she's "cool with it," it's better to go for it anyway. A woman will forgive a man for being too bold, but seldom offer a second chance for showing timidity.

I understand where you are going and such a thing didn't happen to me (yet). It's just something that crossed my mind while reading about escalating at your car, that's why I said 'luke warm'. I haven't been in such a situation yet but thinking about it made me doubt what will be the overall best move at such time.

[LeoneVolpe]

^ Stimulus, I get the feeling you're an intelligent guy. Why do I say that? Because it's one of the great ironies of this world that intelligent people are full of doubts, while stupid people are full of confidence. I know you haven't experienced it yet, but should you find yourself in such a situation, remember this:

Quote:

"The great mistake is to anticipate the outcome of the engagement; you ought not to be thinking of whether it ends in victory or defeat. Let nature take its course, and your tools will strike at the right moment." - Bruce Lee

Now take Lee's philosophy on fighting and adapt it to game. Personally, I've had success with something as simple as putting my hand on a girl's thigh while driving and working my hand up until she told me, "We need to pull over someplace." Just don't overthink it. Live in that moment and go with what you're feeling, try not to plot out your (physical) moves in advance or you'll be thrown off if something doesn't go down like the script inside your head thought it would. Improvise, adapt and overcome.

[Stimulus]

I guess you're right about the lack of confidence. I have little experience by getting blown out because I usually make my move when it's almost a certainty that I'll succeed. Not taking risks/chances saved me a lot of blow outs but also ruined chances. Gotta work on that, thanks!

[XPQ22]

(11-17-2016 04:48 PM)Stimulus Wrote:  

Isn't escalating in the car a bit of a risky move when you can tell she's just luke warm?

Example: you have an 'ok' date, walk to the car because you're driving her home and you kiss her before the both of you actually take off. Unless you know for certain she's into you (she dropped bait or blatantly said it) that kiss might just get her hamster spinning and decide otherwise. Especially when it's not just 'a few minute drive'.

Or am I overthinking this?

The part that you're overthinking is that, from my experience, there are very few 'ok' dates. If you're running good game on her in person, she won't have to say a damn thing explicitly to indicate that she'll be down for a kiss/makeout/perhaps something more at an appropriate junction. If she's laughing at my jokes, standing close to me, making "incidental" physical contact (like brushing my arm with hers when we're waiting at the bar), letting me put my hand on her back and not pulling away, she's got that "sparkle" in her eyes, etc. the number of times I can recall being rejected when escalating further is pretty close to zero.

Not saying that if you see this you're in for the lay by any means, that's finally up to her, but if I'm seeing signals like that and she's asking me to drive her home in addition, gee whiz I know I'm in for something if I keep going and keep my game tight.

And there are some, to re-purpose the line from Cool Hand Luke, "there are some girls you just cant reach." If I'm not seeing the signals I like, I'm not inviting her back to my car "for a smoke" or some other plausibly deniable reason, or going in for the kiss outside the bar. No point in trying to sell a girl on something when she's clearly not buying. Usually I'm thinking about ejecting early and at best hitting her up again some other time.

With a little experience you learn to read her "buying temperature", and everything flows pretty natural-like. The "just ok" date where you can't get a very good read is, at least in my experience in my neck of the woods, sort of a statistical anomaly. And even in that case I'm gonna assume we just have a slightly skittish buyer. Okay, so I go for the kiss and she's not down. Oh well. Big deal. She's not going to call the Date Police on me; I read it wrong, just let her go at that point.

If you're doing your job right she should be letting you know implicitly, but fairly clearly, whether she's in or out. If your gut is telling you she's in, then there ain't no shame at all in pushing forward and running with that.

[david.garrett84]

I believe you're overthinking this one, OP. By all means follow some of the great advice posted here about bangs in other locations, but your family's place seems really underused.

Well before I had ever read a single game book, I was bringing girls home after dark when my parents and brothers were sleeping or about to sleep. The girl and I would even climb fences or the padlocked gate to get inside through the back laundry if people were still awake and we wanted discretion. It was all part of the fun. I was caught only once when bringing a girl home on the sly, when she was leaving at about 530am and my brother was prepping his car for work. There are always ways or near-certain ways around things.

And if I had gotten caught more times, most notably by my parents? Who cares. It probably would have been a good thing, further exposing me to the idea that the things we fear (and I didn't really fear being caught) are typically trivial, along with the awkwardness we assume comes with parents knowing about our sexual activities.

I remember bringing home about 10 girls surreptitiously to one house my family had alone, plus another four or five to a previous house etc etc. Four or five more bangs I brought home openly as non-girlfriends ("study friends" and the like). And this doesn't count girls brought home when I had the place to myself. This situation was not an everyday occurrence, as I was usually always out, but I exploited it as much as I could.

Additionally, I made use of the rare occasions that parents and siblings were away for extended periods (again, usually it was me being away), parks, hotels, the girls' dorms, and even different cities.

In short, if I need to fuck away from home, I did it. If I needed to/could fuck at home, I did it.

I was woefully disorganized/reactive in my approach and still landed a lot of girls. I just went with the flow, probably too much, yet it still got me returns.

Plus, the end-of-the-night shenanigans at my parents' meant I focused on having a good time with the girl prior to taking her home - whether at the cinema, the mall, the park, or a concert or club.

I know we've all wanted the "perfect" seduction but working with obstacles and inconveniences is real life, my friend. Personally, I'd rather fuck a girl at my place than hers, as it avoids me having to drive/travel and I have all I need at home. I don't live with my parents anymore and haven't since around my second year of university, but details about renovations and basements and parents/siblings being around seem like fairly minor hurdles.