Ok, I wrote this a while back as some reflections came to light but put it in the draw as its pedantic but given Rex's thread and the pure paralysis by analysis, it needs to be shared for anyone looking to revamp their approach.
Recently, I’ve been reading a book on perfection and one of the topics it covers is how perfection stems from toxic families. And as we well know, many mental illnesses stem from your families early socialization of you. And how it can manifest in many other areas of your life.
So how does this relate to game?
Well, to be honest, I never needed to read up on “game”. My charisma was through the roof as a kid, I was a natural. 13-20, I owned any room I wanted, get girls as naked in the middle of parties, talk bitches into sucking whip cream off of each other’s tits while we watched gets turned into me making them suck whip cream off some random kids dick we pulled out of the party, I never saw a lake that I couldn’t turn into skinny dipping, etc, etc. In other words, I had more options than the Deutsche Bank derivatives desk.
However, in an isolated setting, my boldness would shift, the spotlight is on me, what if I become rejected?
I got a girlfriend in the midst of my charisma stage and this prompted me to be a good boy, most of the time. Whats the occasional threesome amongst teenagers?
Nonetheless, the lack of conversion of the charisma part of life where I’d fail to escalate in a clearly obvious situation haunted me still.
So relationship is over and I go back to charisma stage for a while. Same problem comes up, do all the social leg work only to turtle like a little boy when it comes time to eat my kill. I wondered for a while where this stemmed from. My mom browbeating me as a kid when she’d hear rumors about me getting into trouble with girls, my dad’s lack of guidance on all topics sexual, etc.
No answer makes sense, at all.
So I end up in the manosphere trying to diagnose a simple, straightforward problem.
And boy did I learn A LOT. No fucking stone was unturned. It went from reading a krauser blog post about “kino escalation” or some shit to D&P in short time and within seven months, I’m moving across the country. Tons of other lessons for another time.
So I go from being a charismatic cluster fuck that stayed overt as he went down the seduction funnel to a calculated dick that no longer had a problem closing but had a problem enjoying the interaction and basically avoiding being social.
Talk about inversion.
So the bottleneck goes from the back end of interaction “charismatic stage” to not
even wanting to initiate on the front end of interactions “calculated” stage.
Well, that seems like a gay way to live.
In reality, pretty simple problem was countered with an overprescribed remedy.
So anyways, recently on some downtime I started pondering some questions;
“Do I prefer sex or connection?”
As you can, see I had stages of life that clearly put one over the other. Clearly the
PUA way of just sex leaves us empty and with a version of “game” that has diminishing returns. And the “good boy” connection version opens you to a lifetime of quiet desperation, shrew bitches, and tons of blind spots.
“how did I get this fucked up over nonsense?”
Well, that’s easy, the media suggests we fuck everything we can yet talks about morals. Our parents don’t teach us about sex and leave it to school systems, pop culture, and Hollywood. Women are prodded to swallow pill once a day so they can swallow anonymous loads twenty years while boys (dudes under 27) are told to be gentlemen.
This is a recipe for disaster.
One party is taught “don’t judge” as a lifestyle while the other is taught “be happy with this broken human you have or go enjoy porn”.
It only came about because of the over engineered nature of our society.
Playground interactions are far more normal than what they attempt to socialize into us.
But as we can all see, humans are puking this bullshit up all throughout western society.
So where does this leave us?
Well, my overarching point is for you newbies whether or not your experienced, don’t know a clit from a nipple, or have been broken by a bad relationship and need guidance..STOP LOOKING FOR PERFECTION. Its just a form of masterbatory avoidance that delays whatever your fearful of.
You fear something. And it defines you.
Nothing in life is perfect:
Learn the basics and go live life.
The (((media))) people that instill you with paralysis by analysis go to their shrink every week to talk about how their overbearing mother still haunts them and need SSRI’s to face life everyday.
The bullshit isn’t real.
You will never be the valedictorian of game. You could always read one more article but at what cost?
You could, like me, overcompensate your problem so much that you alter your demeanor, but to what end?
Your ancestors some how instinctively knew where to put their dick without some shitbag in GQ telling you how to be the perfect gentleman prior to anally stuffing your new girlfriend.
The fear you have isn’t yours, it was projected on to you by someone else.
Luckily, you’ve found a community where you can work your way through it and get on with your life so embrace whatever is haunting you and get on with it.
Recently, I’ve been reading a book on perfection and one of the topics it covers is how perfection stems from toxic families. And as we well know, many mental illnesses stem from your families early socialization of you. And how it can manifest in many other areas of your life.
So how does this relate to game?
Well, to be honest, I never needed to read up on “game”. My charisma was through the roof as a kid, I was a natural. 13-20, I owned any room I wanted, get girls as naked in the middle of parties, talk bitches into sucking whip cream off of each other’s tits while we watched gets turned into me making them suck whip cream off some random kids dick we pulled out of the party, I never saw a lake that I couldn’t turn into skinny dipping, etc, etc. In other words, I had more options than the Deutsche Bank derivatives desk.
However, in an isolated setting, my boldness would shift, the spotlight is on me, what if I become rejected?
I got a girlfriend in the midst of my charisma stage and this prompted me to be a good boy, most of the time. Whats the occasional threesome amongst teenagers?
Nonetheless, the lack of conversion of the charisma part of life where I’d fail to escalate in a clearly obvious situation haunted me still.
So relationship is over and I go back to charisma stage for a while. Same problem comes up, do all the social leg work only to turtle like a little boy when it comes time to eat my kill. I wondered for a while where this stemmed from. My mom browbeating me as a kid when she’d hear rumors about me getting into trouble with girls, my dad’s lack of guidance on all topics sexual, etc.
No answer makes sense, at all.
So I end up in the manosphere trying to diagnose a simple, straightforward problem.
And boy did I learn A LOT. No fucking stone was unturned. It went from reading a krauser blog post about “kino escalation” or some shit to D&P in short time and within seven months, I’m moving across the country. Tons of other lessons for another time.
So I go from being a charismatic cluster fuck that stayed overt as he went down the seduction funnel to a calculated dick that no longer had a problem closing but had a problem enjoying the interaction and basically avoiding being social.
Talk about inversion.
So the bottleneck goes from the back end of interaction “charismatic stage” to not
even wanting to initiate on the front end of interactions “calculated” stage.
Well, that seems like a gay way to live.
In reality, pretty simple problem was countered with an overprescribed remedy.
So anyways, recently on some downtime I started pondering some questions;
“Do I prefer sex or connection?”
As you can, see I had stages of life that clearly put one over the other. Clearly the
PUA way of just sex leaves us empty and with a version of “game” that has diminishing returns. And the “good boy” connection version opens you to a lifetime of quiet desperation, shrew bitches, and tons of blind spots.
“how did I get this fucked up over nonsense?”
Well, that’s easy, the media suggests we fuck everything we can yet talks about morals. Our parents don’t teach us about sex and leave it to school systems, pop culture, and Hollywood. Women are prodded to swallow pill once a day so they can swallow anonymous loads twenty years while boys (dudes under 27) are told to be gentlemen.
This is a recipe for disaster.
One party is taught “don’t judge” as a lifestyle while the other is taught “be happy with this broken human you have or go enjoy porn”.
It only came about because of the over engineered nature of our society.
Playground interactions are far more normal than what they attempt to socialize into us.
But as we can all see, humans are puking this bullshit up all throughout western society.
So where does this leave us?
Well, my overarching point is for you newbies whether or not your experienced, don’t know a clit from a nipple, or have been broken by a bad relationship and need guidance..STOP LOOKING FOR PERFECTION. Its just a form of masterbatory avoidance that delays whatever your fearful of.
You fear something. And it defines you.
Nothing in life is perfect:
- Pussy smells.
- That perfect steak you ate last night will destroy your toilet tomorrow morning
- Most likely, someone was harmed in harvesting the oil you use to drive your car to the bar.
- You started as a transitory thought in your fathers hindbrain and ended up bringing more joy to your parents than reliving that a night a 1000 times over ever could.
Learn the basics and go live life.
The (((media))) people that instill you with paralysis by analysis go to their shrink every week to talk about how their overbearing mother still haunts them and need SSRI’s to face life everyday.
The bullshit isn’t real.
You will never be the valedictorian of game. You could always read one more article but at what cost?
You could, like me, overcompensate your problem so much that you alter your demeanor, but to what end?
Your ancestors some how instinctively knew where to put their dick without some shitbag in GQ telling you how to be the perfect gentleman prior to anally stuffing your new girlfriend.
The fear you have isn’t yours, it was projected on to you by someone else.
Luckily, you’ve found a community where you can work your way through it and get on with your life so embrace whatever is haunting you and get on with it.