Indian men most definitely are screwed. The harsh reality is that our parent's generation don't understand dating or relationships. The vast majority had arranged marriages at pretty young ages and have 'resigned' to the idea of lifelong marriage no matter what. God bless them. Even if my dad wanted to, he couldn't teach me jackshit about women. for decades if not centuries that was fine, the women of the family would scrutinize any potential bride.
The problem is our parent's generation made the brilliant move to let our generation date. Guys are completely clueless. What do we expect? In the West, going from arranged marriages to love marriages took several generations, and that's not even counting the recent changes. Indian people have in one generation not only gone from being middle-class hard-working to the most self-entitled group of people, but also from a generation that had relationships in the same vane as 18th century Europe to 21st century America.
I've thought writing a blog about this, but I don't know if it's worth it. My own back story is that I grew up outside of India (but not the US), very sheltered/traditional family. Came to the US when 18 (I have an American accent so I fit right in) and almost from day one I could see the clusterfuck that is Indian American culture. The only Indians I've met that 'get it' are very rare Indians who hang outside the brown crowd or those who have lived a portion of their childhood outside of the US and thus can see the absurdity. But the vast majority seem to seeped into it, I don't know if we can ever pull out a large enough chunk. When you see these guys go full in the modern materialism and hedonism of America, and EVERYONE ELSE in their lives is on board, hard to pull those fuckers out and give them the red pill. I find the biggest culprit to be the extremely strong (and sometimes downright abusive) family and community ties.
The general story goes something like with Indian girls:
* Don't date much in HS because of overprotective parents. But into fill-in liberalism, feminism etc + get inflates ego from being doted on by parents
* Go buck wild in college (known as 'snapback girls' because they go insane in college). Ego inflates more
* Go to pharma/dentist/med school and their ego inflates even more.
* Around age of 25-26, friends start getting married. If they're lucky they find a nerdy white guy to marry. I've seen one too many Indian girls with white guys who are lower in SMV (not hating on those white guys, but you can't ignore this when you realize they used to shit on Indian guys who are better looking, more social etc)
* If they're not lucky, they marry a nice beta brown dude with an engineering, accounting, business, medical or computer science background. Guy feels lucky to have this bitch.
Note that Indian girls follow the same pattern as white girls. I just find that they take the attitude and lack of respect/cleaning and cooking skills to another level. Indian girls have extremely high expectations and sadly Indian guys don't have the tools to put the bitches into their place. Our parents supremely fucked up by letting us date and find a guy/gal on our own. I already know quite a few Indian guys and girls who are now asking their parents to find them someone.
The problem is our parent's generation made the brilliant move to let our generation date. Guys are completely clueless. What do we expect? In the West, going from arranged marriages to love marriages took several generations, and that's not even counting the recent changes. Indian people have in one generation not only gone from being middle-class hard-working to the most self-entitled group of people, but also from a generation that had relationships in the same vane as 18th century Europe to 21st century America.
I've thought writing a blog about this, but I don't know if it's worth it. My own back story is that I grew up outside of India (but not the US), very sheltered/traditional family. Came to the US when 18 (I have an American accent so I fit right in) and almost from day one I could see the clusterfuck that is Indian American culture. The only Indians I've met that 'get it' are very rare Indians who hang outside the brown crowd or those who have lived a portion of their childhood outside of the US and thus can see the absurdity. But the vast majority seem to seeped into it, I don't know if we can ever pull out a large enough chunk. When you see these guys go full in the modern materialism and hedonism of America, and EVERYONE ELSE in their lives is on board, hard to pull those fuckers out and give them the red pill. I find the biggest culprit to be the extremely strong (and sometimes downright abusive) family and community ties.
The general story goes something like with Indian girls:
* Don't date much in HS because of overprotective parents. But into fill-in liberalism, feminism etc + get inflates ego from being doted on by parents
* Go buck wild in college (known as 'snapback girls' because they go insane in college). Ego inflates more
* Go to pharma/dentist/med school and their ego inflates even more.
* Around age of 25-26, friends start getting married. If they're lucky they find a nerdy white guy to marry. I've seen one too many Indian girls with white guys who are lower in SMV (not hating on those white guys, but you can't ignore this when you realize they used to shit on Indian guys who are better looking, more social etc)
* If they're not lucky, they marry a nice beta brown dude with an engineering, accounting, business, medical or computer science background. Guy feels lucky to have this bitch.
Note that Indian girls follow the same pattern as white girls. I just find that they take the attitude and lack of respect/cleaning and cooking skills to another level. Indian girls have extremely high expectations and sadly Indian guys don't have the tools to put the bitches into their place. Our parents supremely fucked up by letting us date and find a guy/gal on our own. I already know quite a few Indian guys and girls who are now asking their parents to find them someone.