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the best form of number closing would be for these girls (westernized ones included) since they rarely get hit on or even opened here.
Unless you're living in some village far away from civilization, girls get hit on and opened plenty. Maybe you just don't see it because it rarely happens out in the open or if it does, is done subtly.
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98% of the guys find enough satisfaction in staring at them so they never approach.
There are a lot of thirsty simps who stare and never approach, hoping that the girls stare back at them and everything somehow transforms into magical love like the movies (isn't it called "giving them a line"? or something?). But its nowhere near 98%, atleast not in the big cities (closer to 50%).
I'm assuming you're in a big city given that you're an immigrant to the country (and if you're living in some rural backwater, transfer immediately. Trying to pick up chicks in some rural shitholes might get you beaten, lynched or killed, but this doesn't happen in the cities).
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I'm going to be different.
That's what they all say. Everyone believes they're different, even the simps who open up to girls, shower them with gifts and are sensitive and emotional, "unlike 98% of men who are just jerks to girls". Self-thought, in any form, is a lack of immersion.
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Direct? A way where i make my intentions almost crystal clear when asking for the number? Something like:
"Hey i enjoy talking to you, here put your number in my phone so we can start this up again later blah blah blah."
towards the end of a conversation?
or
Indirerect? Where i just use the
"let me get your number so we can study/other relative excuse blah blah blah"
Both of them work. The girl knows why you want her number, no matter how conservative the culture, unless she's really young or naive. I prefer the direct here, but without the overt commanding tone "Put your number in it" --- the problem with overt masculinity is that women often turn around and tool you with it -- in India, men will too. The problem with indirect is that she may auto-friendzone you (although it is much easier to get out of the friendzone in India if you have enough social awareness and aren't a total simp, since the culture actually promotes the idea of becoming friends before lovers -- probably as a coping mechanism for people because of the large proportion of arranged marriages where you're supposed to fall in love with a stranger after marriage).
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The only reason im asking is because i was thinking that the direct approach may overwhelm them. Which could end up in only a good or bad way.
Good being i stand out as confident and create an immediate attraction or bad as in just scare/intimidate them. The indirect is pretty much garunteed but i am not sure if a close is worth it without making my intentions clear, since that can just result in trouble down the road anf over all wasted time.
Nah you're just keyboard jockeying and hypothesizing now -- maybe its because you're really young or havent approached much -- either way, I'd recommend you make a bunch of direct/indirect approaches OUTSIDE of school -- coffee shops, libraries, malls to get a feel for the culture and responses both approaches elicit.
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Girls give out there numbers like nothing, and don't really respond when you call/ text. Are phone numbers sacred in India?
They're not sacred and get handed out plenty, but (and my information is dated from quite a while ago) girls tend to respond to most texts, unless you gave off serious creeper vibes - in which case you probably wouldn't have gotten a number in the first place.
It is possible to convert maybes into yes's over text, again due to the endemic belief that in real relationships people need to be friends, then lovers.
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Okay with that being said, a few important points to note -
1. School is like a huge social circle. If you're a player, don't pick up chicks in school -- a) You'll acquire a certain "reputation" which will make it less likely that many of the hotter chicks will want to be seen with you (as the reputation will rub off on them, and virtue-signalling amongst women is much higher in India than it is here for obvious reasons).
b) More importantly, beta orbiters, simps, stalkers or family members of jilted lovers could harm you. Especially if you're in Punjab, you're going to be seen as an easy target given that you're not local (unless you have some political clout in the area).
2 - Beware of gold-diggers - Standard advice everywhere, but especially so in India where the white knight culture is much stronger (for real reasons as well as simping, since there are instances where women do need to be protected) -- you can be incriminated, blackmailed, held hostage upon the word of a woman. This is rare, but worth mentioning. India is a pretty safe and, to an extent rational country, but things can go from 0 to 100 really quick if you're not careful.
3. Look out for covert signalling -- In Punjab/Delhi people tend to be loud and overt than many other parts of the country, especially the men, but all aspects of dating have subtle undertones that you will notice over time and with experience. They are too numerous to list them out (and again, my experiences are probably dated, since I lived in India for two years, but a long time ago). There's social, cultural and individual level nuances, and it is a good idea to keep looking out for them. The more you notice, the easier it becomes. Also, less likely you'll get scammed or used as a tool.
Honestly, before going to India, my "game" so to speak, consisted pretty much of approaching everyone, busting balls, making jokes, escalating physically, banging. There was some subtlety involved, but it wasn't a cornerstone. The two years in India really taught me to add a little silk to the steel.
I'd recommend initially gaming outside the school. The easiest way to understand and pick up on these nuances is to date a young girl (18-21), although if you want to pump and dump, try looking at the older age brackets - 23/24 upwards. The whole virginity thing is super sacred in the country and many a man has been lynched or forced to marry an ugly hag whose "flower" he stole. Once they get to 23/24, most girls become less anal about their virginity (and many lose it by this time as well), so they're more likely to fuck you and not get pissed when you walk.