[hv123]

Blocking you means the shit is less likely to blow up her end. She cares less about your feelings than creating problems for herself. The blocking came because you tried to force the issue, by finding out what was happening, but ultimately the outcome was always going to be the same.

At least you got to smash her back door in a few times, sounds like mission accomplished.

[RIslander]

Dude, no one cares about your problem with some notch. Go to the gym.

[Lance Blastoff]

I had a very similar experience shortly after my divorce, when I was 37. She was 20 as well (although she actually was the one who lied and said she was 22.)

The dynamics of dating a woman who's ~20 years younger than you are very different than those of a woman closer to your age. It's a very different game, and more challenging.

Like all women, what is going to drive a younger woman to an older man is going to be an attraction to his greater maturity, confidence and strength. But what is different is that an older woman is going to be much more forgiving of weakness in the early phases of a relationship than a younger woman. A more mature woman is going to appreciate a man who is less strong and more "vulnerable" in no small part because he's less likely to leave her. Women over 30 are looking for very different things and have a much lower SMV (and know it) and are much easier to date, consequently.

Based on what you described, 'Sissi' was also someone with "Daddy Issues." While every girl of this type has a different story (and a different response to that story), what's universal is that there is an attraction to the emotional unavailability of the man. (Don't try to understand the 'whys' of it.) In every case, coming off as needy or weak is a total disaster. At least in the early phases of a relationship, you want to come off as mature, sophisticated, confident and somewhat unavailable. (Just like daddy was / is.)

With regard to Sissi, you seem to be suffering from a terminal case of "oneitis". What you need to recognize is that Sissi is gone and you've done fucked that one up anyway - she will never see you the same way again. It doesn't really matter because she's a liar and a cheater - not good prospects for an LTR. What you really miss is that she was a hot young thing. You can (and will get) another, and another. (Just like you got her.) What she was is a learning experience that you can apply to the hot young women in the future that you date.

This isn't to say that you won't often think about her - I still think about the first few young girls I dated after my divorce
(and how I fucked it up by being needy and acting like I was the same age).

Hope this helps.

[TornadoByProxy]

(09-13-2016 12:10 AM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

(09-12-2016 11:49 PM)Snowplow Wrote:  

Did this merit it's own thread?

Probably not but Im new, I dont know the ethicate as yet so sorry if this is out of the ordinary

Then read the rules first.

thread-3383.html

thread-13005.html

[nmmoooreland20]

Man, you have your closure. Whether she outright told you its over, or just ghosted you, it's over.

[CJ_W]

(09-12-2016 07:43 PM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

did I do something wrong, how could she go from talking about future together and blowing up my phone everyday to ignoring my messages and blocking me?

Bruh, Yes you did something wrong, what was it? From what I gathered (I only read the first sentence and this last part. . .Fuck reading all that bullshit you wrote, this isn't rocket science)

You got too needy

Good job, you fucked her, congrats,
but. . .
Why the hell are you `talking about your future` together? never talk about that shit. Especially after two months, wtf with some chick who`s an au pair, are you kidding me?


If you are already boning a woman,. don`t bring up relationship shit man, if you want a girlfriend, then you`re just gonna have to get with multiple women until you find one that wants a relationship,

DONT bring this up, if she wants one, SHE will bring it up(or want you to hit it raw)

If she isn`t she just wants fun, enjoy it while it lasts, and when she gets bored dont trip out like you are now.

doing this makes it easy for her.

You, putting your Penis into her Vagina, on a regular basis.

She, having fun riding strange cock.

his iTsnt rocket science. You didn`t make it easy for her, so she found someone who did, she`s probably riding another dudes Gae Bolg right this second, the dude probably looks like Conor Mac Nessa!

What you need to do:
Go get Roosh`s book Bang, its like $5 read that like 300 times until it sinks in your head.

Go out and get lots of women, stop getting clingy and needy, you want your women to be wet like the amazon, not dry like the Sahara being needy summons Sahara-level Vagina in women, they will walk away when that happens.

Read Roosh`s book again to solidify your foundation.

keep cycling through girls till you find one you have mutual interest in a relationship.

make sure you post threads in the right place(on this forum)

???


Profit.

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 05:26 AM)Lance Blastoff Wrote:  

I had a very similar experience shortly after my divorce, when I was 37. She was 20 as well (although she actually was the one who lied and said she was 22.)

The dynamics of dating a woman who's ~20 years younger than you are very different than those of a woman closer to your age. It's a very different game, and more challenging.

Like all women, what is going to drive a younger woman to an older man is going to be an attraction to his greater maturity, confidence and strength. But what is different is that an older woman is going to be much more forgiving of weakness in the early phases of a relationship than a younger woman. A more mature woman is going to appreciate a man who is less strong and more "vulnerable" in no small part because he's less likely to leave her. Women over 30 are looking for very different things and have a much lower SMV (and know it) and are much easier to date, consequently.

Based on what you described, 'Sissi' was also someone with "Daddy Issues." While every girl of this type has a different story (and a different response to that story), what's universal is that there is an attraction to the emotional unavailability of the man. (Don't try to understand the 'whys' of it.) In every case, coming off as needy or weak is a total disaster. At least in the early phases of a relationship, you want to come off as mature, sophisticated, confident and somewhat unavailable. (Just like daddy was / is.)

With regard to Sissi, you seem to be suffering from a terminal case of "oneitis". What you need to recognize is that Sissi is gone and you've done fucked that one up anyway - she will never see you the same way again. It doesn't really matter because she's a liar and a cheater - not good prospects for an LTR. What you really miss is that she was a hot young thing. You can (and will get) another, and another. (Just like you got her.) What she was is a learning experience that you can apply to the hot young women in the future that you date.

This isn't to say that you won't often think about her - I still think about the first few young girls I dated after my divorce
(and how I fucked it up by being needy and acting like I was the same age).

Hope this helps.

Yeah I played it quite well up to week 3 of her not being here, I started forcing it and she had another option so tables got flipped, I should have just left it alone when she got vague on plans, so like you say lesson learned for future occassion

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 07:59 AM)CJ_W Wrote:  

(09-12-2016 07:43 PM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

did I do something wrong, how could she go from talking about future together and blowing up my phone everyday to ignoring my messages and blocking me?

Bruh, Yes you did something wrong, what was it? From what I gathered (I only read the first sentence and this last part. . .Fuck reading all that bullshit you wrote, this isn't rocket science)

You got too needy

Good job, you fucked her, congrats,
but. . .
Why the hell are you `talking about your future` together? never talk about that shit. Especially after two months, wtf with some chick who`s an au pair, are you kidding me?


If you are already boning a woman,. don`t bring up relationship shit man, if you want a girlfriend, then you`re just gonna have to get with multiple women until you find one that wants a relationship,

DONT bring this up, if she wants one, SHE will bring it up(or want you to hit it raw)

If she isn`t she just wants fun, enjoy it while it lasts, and when she gets bored dont trip out like you are now.

doing this makes it easy for her.

You, putting your Penis into her Vagina, on a regular basis.

She, having fun riding strange cock.

his iTsnt rocket science. You didn`t make it easy for her, so she found someone who did, she`s probably riding another dudes Gae Bolg right this second, the dude probably looks like Conor Mac Nessa!

What you need to do:
Go get Roosh`s book Bang, its like $5 read that like 300 times until it sinks in your head.

Go out and get lots of women, stop getting clingy and needy, you want your women to be wet like the amazon, not dry like the Sahara being needy summons Sahara-level Vagina in women, they will walk away when that happens.

Read Roosh`s book again to solidify your foundation.

keep cycling through girls till you find one you have mutual interest in a relationship.

make sure you post threads in the right place(on this forum)

???


Profit.

If a girls offering to spend every night in your bed its not exactly gonna motivate you to decline for another possible option. She was supposed be staying, the Dad thing came up, she left. Up to that point she was mine hook line and sinker so I know what Im doing, I just never encountered this particular situation before hence posting it, its less about game and more about frame, I didnt keep a hold of mine and lost her

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 06:35 AM)nmmoooreland20 Wrote:  

Man, you have your closure. Whether she outright told you its over, or just ghosted you, it's over.

True that, silence is the worst answer yet the most clear one, thats what Im hearing

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 05:41 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 12:10 AM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

(09-12-2016 11:49 PM)Snowplow Wrote:  

Did this merit it's own thread?

Probably not but Im new, I dont know the ethicate as yet so sorry if this is out of the ordinary

Then read the rules first.

thread-3383.html

thread-13005.html

Noted for future reference tx

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 03:57 AM)hv123 Wrote:  

Blocking you means the shit is less likely to blow up her end. She cares less about your feelings than creating problems for herself. The blocking came because you tried to force the issue, by finding out what was happening, but ultimately the outcome was always going to be the same.

At least you got to smash her back door in a few times, sounds like mission accomplished.

I dunno man, she was video calling me in the club with friends, had me talking with them about shared experiences here, making jokes about Hitler/German culture and stuff, y'know they were being really cool to me, and she was talking about how excited she was for me to come getting me tickets to some club she goes to every week, showing vids of her life there, it all stopped after the day at the lake.

I'd say the fella got a whiff that we were more than friends and said no way. She coulda just told me that, before that day was non stop, thats what had me forcing it week 3 and ultimately I had already lost her by then with him back around her.

Yep every night for 2 months solid give or take a day, was a good run ha ha

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 12:45 AM)Patriarch Wrote:  

I know just from the overly-dramatic title that you need to do some serious introspection. Do some reading and come back stronger.

Not really man, we spent every day of the summer together, the result is why I posted. I will look back on this summer and remember her, hence the name, your taking it like I pedalising her, no, just setting the tone of the story

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 04:22 AM)RIslander Wrote:  

Dude, no one cares about your problem with some notch. Go to the gym.

Everybody cares about a story we can all relate to, and fking things up with women is one such story. Go write a story about your gym routine and keep me posted on how its going

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 12:08 AM)Suits Wrote:  

(09-12-2016 08:41 PM)The Man w/ the Golden Gun Wrote:  

Belongs in game forum

Belongs in the newbie game forum.

Please tell me what you would have done after the day at the lake and messages dried up, with agreed holiday plans on the horizon. Im interested to know your thoughts so indulge me. It would be better than a snarky answer, nobody has all the answers especially when put on the spot

[Steve McQueen]

(09-12-2016 09:16 PM)Enigma Wrote:  

You're too old for his, man.

Slap yourself in the face and go do some pushups.

The day I become too old for chasing 20 year old pussy I think Ill be long past doing pushups ha ha

[debeguiled]

St. Francis of Sissi be looking at you like:

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 02:49 AM)The Beast1 Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 12:10 AM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

(09-12-2016 11:49 PM)Snowplow Wrote:  

Did this merit it's own thread?

Probably not but Im new, I dont know the ethicate as yet so sorry if this is out of the ordinary

When you were looking all over the forum for a place to post this, why did you gloss over the area that said:

"Anything related to meeting women. Put social commentary in the Everything Else forum. Complements my blog and game guide. "
And put this into everything else?

Why do noobs always do this? I don't care if you're new. When you're new the simplest thing to do is to get a grasp on how things flow and where they go. Not that hard!

The girl is a cheating skank who used you as a temporary cock while she was away living her own Irish dream. Her father isn't dead and her boyfriend is an idiot.

Get over her and move on. Time to go "no contact".

Agreed, I self imposed that but I didnt expect it would backfire in such dramatic fashion. Its harder to just do the normal thing when there is travel plans on horizon and distance, thats what messed with my head in the end, but was gone by then anyways

[BlackFriar]

(09-12-2016 08:14 PM)philosophical_recovery Wrote:  

Been there done that.

Having nothing better to do, checking girls' facebook pages for any signs of their undying love for me, in spite of all of their actions indicating that they don't give a fuck about me. Reading too into things, being wholly dependent on their responses.

Get more going on with your own life. Your weeks were empty after this fling because you literally had nothing better to do than obsess about a girl.

I can't tell you what it is, maybe it's other girls, Maybe it's more involved hobbies or getting business going on the side. But, find a mission that isn't a single piece of a strange and make that your priority. If a girl isn't bending her life to try to steal a little bit of your available time, she's not worth it.

To be fair, I had to fake being busy a lot because I had a hard time overriding my obsessiveness over a singular girls in the past. But, after experiencing similar to you so many times, I just can't make a girl my point in life.

Until you fix your obsessiveness, you can fake it, but that shit can still ruin you. Fix yourself.

Truer words have nevewr been spoken. It happens a lot. I do it too. And what is fucked up, in my 20s, I didn't. Put I was getting pussy too.

Ha!

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 03:35 AM)Going strong Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 12:40 AM)Kona Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 12:29 AM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

Yeah deep down I know your right, the stalking thing was for information, I went in with my eyes open.

If you were smart enough to look on the internet for her relationship status, did you happen to google the obituaries in her area?

Here in the USA funeral homes have websites. I'd imagine they got those in Germany.

If you're gonna stalk, do it right. Try it and get back to me.

Aloha!

Brilliant! Straight out of Magnum P.I.!



A lesson for you, OP: while you think your girl is freezing her cute perky ass in fuckin Germany alongside her ailing dad, she's in all likelihood in Thailand or Hawaii getting wasted and carousel-fucked! Welcome to the 21st century!

Yeah they are gifted liars, I envy them that trait. Like said the facebook was butter wouldnt melt, I used to say "poor bastard" when I'd see them pictured together, guess maybe I got lucky in the end

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 03:40 AM)hv123 Wrote:  

You were just her holiday boy friend and she's a liar.

Very simple.

Nah man, you dont introduce someone to your circle of friends like she did if its meant to be kept a secret. I would never have been contacted again when she left or introduced prior to her going on when she was videoing us out on multiple occassions. Its black and white sure, but not in way your thinking, she just hooked up the the LTR again and that was me out.

[philosophical_recovery]

Steve, this is going on 2 pages now. Move on.

Just imagine her stumbling on this thread and seeing all your comments about her after taking it from her new man.

Get something going on in your life.

[TheOllam]

Whoah, this went longer than expected.

Be happy you hit it while she was young.

The real Steve McQueen would have had 3 new GF's since this thread started.

[Captainstabbin]

(09-13-2016 01:40 PM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 03:40 AM)hv123 Wrote:  

You were just her holiday boy friend and she's a liar.

Very simple.

Nah man, you dont introduce someone to your circle of friends like she did if its meant to be kept a secret. I would never have been contacted again when she left or introduced prior to her going on when she was videoing us out on multiple occassions. Its black and white sure, but not in way your thinking, she just hooked up the the LTR again and that was me out.

Of course she does. She's hoping it gets back to her boyfriend and he gets jealous. And it sounds like it worked. Stalk her engagement announcement next.

[Steve McQueen]

(09-13-2016 02:17 PM)Captainstabbin Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 01:40 PM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  

(09-13-2016 03:40 AM)hv123 Wrote:  

You were just her holiday boy friend and she's a liar.

Very simple.

Nah man, you dont introduce someone to your circle of friends like she did if its meant to be kept a secret. I would never have been contacted again when she left or introduced prior to her going on when she was videoing us out on multiple occassions. Its black and white sure, but not in way your thinking, she just hooked up the the LTR again and that was me out.

Of course she does. She's hoping it gets back to her boyfriend and he gets jealous. And it sounds like it worked. Stalk her engagement announcement next.

Hmmm, Im a prop in a larger game, would be a stone cold play, have to tip the cap and be grateful I was the lucky sap if so ha ha

[RIslander]

Universal solution to problems with women:



Go to the gym.